here's the facts:
- EVERYONE except me gets the items delivered to them within a week of their arrival
- EVERYTIME I wait 1-3 months to get my stuff. I have to go get it; not delivered.
- Usually I don't even know it's arrived until someone else mentions it.
- I've mentioned to my friends how it iritates me and they say "oh, whatever."
- Last time I ordered girl scout cookies my friend left them in her car and they all melted - ruined ... I still paid full price and had to throw them away.
- Tonight I ask them to bring me my stuff and they told me to come get it if I wanted it; otherwise I could get it on Thanksgiving. 5 -6 weeks AFTER everyone else already received theirs.
2006-11-19 11:06:24 · 18 answers · asked by ValleyR 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
just say no the next time you are asked....you have no responsibility to buy anything from anyone...just say funds are tight. I don't buy these things from anyone...better to donate to the cause than to buy something the cause only gets about 5 cents on the dollar. fund raisers are really good for only one entity..the entity that manufactures the junk that is sold. I won't even buy my Grandson's stuff, I donate directly to the school instead. Good luck
2006-11-19 12:49:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that you help everyone out, and it's pretty sad that they take advantage of you. Here's what I would do. Starting in January, let the kids and parents know that you will only order from each kid once a year. When they come to you, ask them if they are sure that they want you to order from them this time because it will be the only time for the whole year.
Look at the fine print, the kids should have the whole sale packet. Find out which organization they are doing it for. Find out when you will be getting your stuff, and most importantly do not give cash.(it's sad but sometimes they keep cash) If it is for the school write the check out to the school, for church or for girl scouts do the same. If you do not get your stuff in a timely manner call the supervisor, not the parent, parents are usualy protective of their children.
As for the problem with your gscookies, you should still call the head office, go to http://www.girlscouts.org/councilfinder/ and enter your zip to find the number. Most girl scouts and coucils are very proud of their sales so if you are getting attitude or bad product they will fix it as well as get to the root of the problem. Do not bother with the girl scout leader, go to the top.
Good luck, I am sorry your neighbors take advantage of you like that.
2006-11-19 19:28:07 · answer #2 · answered by shell_b_101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's your prerogative to go and buy what you want.
If your best friend or best friend's child is having complications giving them to you more than once, there shouldn't be any hesitation in stopping what you are doing.
You shouldn't feel guilty if you do decide to cease ordering. You can always talk to your friend and address the issue head on. That usually helps if not depletes the issue in its entirety (assuming that you haven't already).
If you chose to buy them out of generosity and help your friend and his/her child, then they should feel obligated to accept your charity with grace and honor what you have done.
One other variable that may be considered is that your friend may think of you as a passive type of person, and/or they think that they see you so often that they can give it to you on a random meeting (I'm not really sure, but that might be a suggestion).
Good luck, I hope i understood the situation completely.
2006-11-19 19:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by peexinxmyxpants 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stop buying them for yourself. If you feel obligated or want to still help out, buy something for the kid (candy or toy) and let them know up front you are buying them a gift. That way you still can look like a sport, but don't worry about actually collecting the stuff.
2006-11-19 20:09:27 · answer #4 · answered by bathagent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't buy anything. The parents aren't setting a very good example for the kids by acting this way. Kids should learn from fund raising.
2006-11-20 01:36:13 · answer #5 · answered by ebonyruffles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-11-20 21:20:26 · answer #6 · answered by ZenPenguin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain that you will not be buying anything from anybody. You are being taken advantage of. If you buy something, you expect it to be delivered to you with one week.
2006-11-19 21:29:22 · answer #7 · answered by Kabu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEFINITELY would stop ordering!! I would not put up with what you have put up with any longer!!!
Just say no thanks.
I do this with no hard feelings. I have yet to find anything worth ordering anyway... what a bunch of garbage!! I will stick to donating to whom I feel deserves it most.
The kids see hardly any of this money from these fundraisers so give it up !!!
2006-11-19 19:29:33 · answer #8 · answered by Kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit buying them. I think it is rude of your friend to use your friendship as a way to get money out of you. To avoid complications I would never do that. She should be directing her kid(s) elsewhere.
2006-11-20 13:04:06 · answer #9 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stop ... it was a great gesture from you to buy and they are not being respectful of you. On a side note they are teaching their kids horrible manners
2006-11-20 22:42:37 · answer #10 · answered by yeah , yeah whatever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋