I patiently waited for my turn to heat my food in the microwave . . I put my food in set the thing for 3 min and go sit down and chit chat with my coworkers . . another worker comes removes my food from the microwave puts hers in . . I walk over take her food out and put mine back in and tell her in my mean mommy voice (the one I use when I've caught my kids redhanded) don't touch my food . . she grabbed her food and left . . now back at my desk to work I have several emails from her wanting to meet after work to discuss our problem ??? What the F***?? I thought our problem was solved when I put my food back in the microwave ?
2006-11-13 06:09:04 · 13 answers · asked by Rainy 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
O.K. Far to much time (working time) has been wasted on this problem by you and the person that removed your food. Now you return to your desk and she has emailed you several times regarding this problem. (More work time wasted)
This is childish and uncalled for. I have a feeling it is only going to magnify. Now others are talking about it and by the end of the day they will be waiting for the two of you to have brawl in the parking lot..............
Email her back and say something like, "sorry if I offended you, but you removed my food before it was finished. There isn't a problem on my part." Then let it go, don't let it grow.
2006-11-13 08:40:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her problem is probably with your "mean mommy" voice - it probably came across as threatening, rude, or condescending.
Did she remove your food while the microwave was still running, or after the 3 minutes were up? If she removed it while it was still running, that was rude. You are not obligated to stand in front of the microwave to guard your place in line (but it is good if you stay in or near the same room).
You could have pointed out to her that you (your food) was here first, and she is free to use the microwave when you (your food) is finished. You should have asked her to remove her food, instead of you removing it (because if she's not supposed to touch your food, it's only fair if you don't touch hers). Then you finish cooking yours and THEN she cook hers.
Meet with her after work and listen politely to her concerns. Assure her you didn't mean to upset her, and apologize if your comments or actions came across rudely. Remind her that you were there first, and felt it was inappropriate of her to "cut" in line. Try to reaffirm the ground rules of shared microwave use with her, and end the meeting on a positive note. Don't make an enemy over something so petty.
2006-11-13 06:18:06 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would either email her back or meet with her and say the only problem there was that she stopped the microwave to use when it was being used by someone else and it was rude. End of topic.
2006-11-14 06:24:34 · answer #3 · answered by KathyS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she was very rude to remove your food out of the microwave. She could have waited for it to be done first.She definitely has no manners and very selfish. She has no concern for other people's feeling. Does she not know the sayingf "First come first serve" Ignore her e-mail. You have already proven your point to her when you removed her food out. She got your message already and maybe she has realized her mistake and wants to apologized. No need to talk to her. And lastly there is no excuse for bad manners.
2006-11-13 06:55:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the whole thing sounds like it was handled poorly....
she should not have removed your food ...(i'm assuming she took your food out while the microwave was still on and not once it was off)....and you should not have scolded her like a child with your "mean mommy voice", adults just shouldn't treat each other like that.....
i would definately try to work it out with her since you work together and it will not be likely you can avoid each other...
2006-11-13 06:19:36 · answer #5 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she didnt know the microwave was on? Instead of just reacting like you did, you should have asked, do you know my food is still heating? If she did then you can beef, if she didn't then you overreacted.
2006-11-13 06:13:17 · answer #6 · answered by Murfdigidy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your food was in there cooking and she took it out to cook hers then she is in the wrong and she should be told so!!!! but if yours was done and just sitting in there, she should of asked out loud whose it was cause she would like to use it......i would never touch anyone elses food and don't want anyone touching mine!!!! she is clearly in the wrong here and needs to be told so meet her after work and let her have it!!!!!!
Have fun!!!!
2006-11-13 06:12:36 · answer #7 · answered by polarbaby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She had no business taking your food out in the first place. She should have asked who's food is this and is it done. simple fact.
2006-11-13 06:13:03 · answer #8 · answered by Tyranus 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that, but agree to meet with her first. Maybe you could use a bit softer approach than in your question here.
I totally agree that you are in the right, though.
2006-11-13 06:11:26 · answer #9 · answered by retorik75 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think there is any reason for u to say u are the one that is sorry, she touched your food, i would have done the same thing.
2006-11-13 13:26:16 · answer #10 · answered by tammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋