I care about him, but I know he has a lot of emotional baggage and is still getting over his ex.
I treat him like a friend and he ignores my emails or questions. And he only comes around when he wants something.
I treat him like MORE than a friend and he tells me I'm making him uncomfortable and all the negetive stuff about me which he doesn't like and how we could never be more than friends.
If I back-off and don't talk to him for awhile, he thinks I'm mad because he doesn't like me the way I like him. But, I am just sick of being hurt.
Should I keep him at a distance? I honestly don't want to break ties with him because, as I said, I do care and want to be there for him. Is this a phase of him getting over HER? Because there is only so much of this I can take before my self-esteem starts to crumble.
2006-11-13 01:33:01 · 5 answers · asked by Mintygoodness1 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Walk away. He's bring his past into your life which you have nothing to do with it! Let him be. Sounds to me that he's enjoying the attention you're giving him and you keep feeding his fire, so stop! B/c you're getting hurt in the process of this. STOP!
2006-11-13 01:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he has a lot of issues to deal with. The best way to go about it would be to stay away for the time being. It sounds like you care for him a great deal so if he is worth your time, he will come back to you once he is ready.
It's never easy to back away but if this is hurting you emotionally, that will only be harder on you in the end. You deserve to be treated like a princess and no one should ever take that away from you.
I hope this guy realizes what you can offer him and turn his ways but if he doesn't right away, walk away. Hope it works out!
2006-11-13 01:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by Minouners 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, guys are very different from us. I am sure that he wants to know someone is there, but he doesn't want them to be intrested in him. Sounds like he has some issues that he needs to deal with alone. He's playing games when he says back off and then from what you said once you listen and do as he asks he wonders why you are "not there for him" which isn't fair to you. Ask yourself if you like him or if you just want to be there cause you feel bad that he's going through stuff. I guess I am getting to the point where I can't feel sorry for people who feel sorry for themselves. We all have the choice to be happy or carry around a buch of bagage from our past. Since you like him and he has made it clear that makes him uncomfortable that tells me he's not intrested like that, so it might make it hard for you because you shouldn't get your hopes up trying to make him like you. We always want what we can't have, but he has some junk in his trunk to deal with it seems and he may still be thinking about someone else and not ready to let a past love go? Guys don't deal with stuff they just ignore it till they realize they miss something they once felt happy from. They also have a hard time falling inlove. Some guys think its a weakness to allow themselves to be vounderable to women and that they have to stay tough. Anyways, Advise for you is to stay away, protect yourself from trying to make something happen that he has clearly stated he doesn't want. He just wants to feel liked right now, but by anyone that will give him the time of day. Think of when you get your heart broken. You love attention because it helps you to see nothing is wrong with you and you can tell yourself, see people like me? I am ok, my ex is missing out and you don't have to take a failed relationship personally. Just go make some really good friendships and don't focus on getting a bf, just enjoy people and life and let things happen naturally! You seem like a caring person, go give your compassion to people who will cherish it! Not blow you off till they realize you took their advice, you aren't a yo-yo! Life is to short for that crap!
2006-11-13 01:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by wrldchanger_gurl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Switch from Moon Shine to beer?
2006-11-13 01:34:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-17 05:30:19 · answer #5 · answered by lander 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋