Is it ever okay to curse out one of your parents?

Question

One of my parents has no respect for me, or the fact that I'm an adult. He hurts me verbally, puts me down, makes unfair conclusions about me. He basically doesn't interact with me the way a loving, caring parent does. One day he even told me he doesn't care that his words hurt me, and that I needed to be hurt. What is his problem? Any advice for me?

Answer 1

Wow...I'm so sorry that your father is acting this way towards you. Since your an adult now, you have a choice to make. Cursing him out, no matter how satisfying that may be, really isn't going to help out your situation. If anything, all it will do, in his little brain,is prove him right. Hopefully your not living with him still. Because you need to on your own if at all possible, to put some distance between the both of you. It's so unfortunate that as someones child, YOU have to act as the 'mature-responsible-adult'. You have to be the one to set the example that his behavior is unacceptable, and your not going to stoop to his very lowly level and reflect what he is doing to you. He sounds like a very bitter man, and again I feel for you and your situation. If your able to find a good counselor to talk to, that may be of great benefit to you to help you work through this crap that he's dumped on you so that you do not feel as though it's your fault or that you deserve to be treated this way. The way a father treats his daughter, will greatly and directly effect the men she chooses to have in her life. I hope you know that you deserve better treatment from men, and that even through all this you still have a choice to make. Man, if I could just have 5 minutes with jerks like that....

Answer 2

If you are an adult get a job even if it's below what you think it should be for now. Do you have any brothers or sisters or relatives you can work some sort of arrangement with for a place to stay? That is a place to stay temporary like a few months. Anything is better than put downs and verbal abuse. I do not believe it is ever right to curse out a parent let alone anyone. It's not them you would be putting down by cursing. It's you. It's below your dignity. The sooner you find some kind of work the sooner your from under out of his domain. Show respect for your parent as hard as it might be. It just might be good training for the next job. Sometimes learning to hold your tongue is more important than you may realize now. I'm sure if you are a polite person it will go a long ways in getting that job. I'm sure that anyone with any amount of success can tell you of times they just bit their tongue or gave a polite answer.

Answer 3

Well I sure hate to hear that. However, it seems in today's society that much more of this is going on in family's every where. I want to say one thing to you, and I don't want you to think I'm preaching to you, because you can go back through my answers to other questions, and you will see that I don't preach. You just need to know this. It is written in the word that we are to honor our Mothers and our Fathers, so that there days upon this earth will be long. Now I truly am so sorry that your Dad is treating you badly, I know it is so hard on you young people trying to grow up in todays world. Then you have stress at school, and stress at home, then boyfriends and girlfriend stress. I certainly can understand that its not pleasant sometimes for you, but as long as you are under his roof, you do have to respect your parents, both of them, or otherwise you could find yourself on the street. Now think about that, I pray you don't, but it has happened before. You just start being a little kinder, and a little nicer and see what happens. Some how or another, not even knowing you or your family, it leads me to beleive that he's being pretty tough on you for a reason. Please do not curse your Mom or Dad ever......., because what if tomorrow never came for them, and unkind words can not be taken back, you would have to live with that the rest of your life. I know that it's common that young people get out of sorts with there parents, it happens that way. Please know that I care.

Hugs to you
Texas girl

Answer 4

It sounds like he has a lot of problems. He might have a mental disorder or he could just be plain mean. I know it hurts terribly and I feel for you but, I would block out what he says and concentrate on the good things about yourself. This won't be easy I know, but you have to make the decision to not let him get under your skin. It'll ruin your life. You are a wonderful, special person who deserves better treatment. You say you are an adult. Do you have a job? Do you have friends that you might could stay with while you get yourself together? It sounds like you need to get out of that environment. I wish you all the best.

Answer 5

I don't believe that it is ever okay to cuss out a parent. I also don't believe that how your father is treating you is okay either. I would tell him that the way he is treating you is unacceptable and you refuse to put up with it anymore. If he wants to have a relationship with you he needs to quit treating you badly. Than give him an ultimatum and stick to it. If he treats you badly again stop all communications with him except for a birthday card. Just sign the card Love,***. Make sure that when you send the card that it has a return address on it. This way he will know that you refuse to be abused by him anymore and if he decides to change his ways he will have a way of contacting you and apologizing. That way a new chapter to your relationship can be opened.

Answer 6

Sounds like you two don't have a bond or respect for each other and the best thing you can do is agree to disagree and stay away from one another cursing at him won't make you feel better or make either of you change the way you feel right? so whats the point be the better person walk away don't let him get to you like that or show him he can hurt you with simple words in the long run you will feel better for being stronger and having self control!! I am sorry your father talks to you this way It sucks to have nasty parents

Answer 7

NEVER curse out one of your parents. If it is as you say then walk away. Do NOT speak with this parent. Ignore this parent but DO stay in touch with the other parent. If you do come in contact with this parents and he hurts or offends you DON'T let him see that it bothers you. DO NOT give him ANY reaction at all. If he see that it has no effect on you he may stop on his own. Let the other parent know what your doing so she will have an understanding and hopefully give you support. Good Luck.

Answer 8

it is not ok or its not allowed to curse a parent.. it should be both give respect.. according to what u said maybe he dont love you the way a parent should do thats why he dont care if he hurts yuor feeling or not.. if i were you go and find your way out of his life than him continuing of disrecpecting yuo and time will come that ur too full bout his actions that you might do something aside from cursing him.. a person that doesnt know how to respect other person regardless if there old ur kid or whatever didnt deserved any respect at all too.. u deserved a lot better than what he gave you..gudlak!..

Answer 9

Advice this insensitive man that he is your dad and for that you will love him unconditionally, but that you've had enough of his hurtful remarks and that if he wants to speak with you that you would prefer he did it in a respectful manner. Why lower yourself to his standards by cursing him out? Perhaps he has other issues that are making him act this way, IE: substance issues or mental health problems. If possible speak with your mom and ask why he speaks to you like this and why she allows it. Best of luck to you and I do hope that soon he recognizes that what he is doing is being verbally abusive to his daughter.

Answer 10

No-it's not good to curse at your parents but it hurts when they don't seem to understand or respect your point of view. I'm not able to make a judgment about your situation but when it gets to the point that your not communicating constructively it might help to get a third party involved-another family member or friend.
If you feel your parent is abusive don't hesitate to talk to a relative or friend and if that's no help talk with a counselor at
school. If none of these are helpful call the police.
But if your parent is truly trying to help you and you are just being willful-(and sometimes we are even if we think not)-then you have to meet half-way. I hope it works out for you.