Do you think it's ok to ask someone to do something or not to do something if it makes you feel more comfortable?
For example, I have a freind who says one specific thing everytime I talk with him. It bothers me and I asked him to at least TRY to refrain from saying it. Was I wrong to suggest this if he says it's just something he's felt for a long time? He makes a comment that speaks against him and I just think that if he tried refraining from voicing it, he would start feeling differently.
Please let me know what you think. Thanks in advance
2006-11-09 11:28:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes! If he's your friend and it bothers you a lot, the chances are it definitely bothers people who meet him for the first time. It isn't rude to ask others to at least try and make you more comfortable in a conversation. You don't go up to people when you're talking to them and stand 5 inches away, do you? I hope you don't. It would make them feel uncomfortable so you don't do it. It should be the same way with your friend. If what he says makes you uncomfortable then it is common courtesy to not say it. And it doesn't have to change how he feels. Just because you don't say something doesn't mean you're not thinking it.
2006-11-09 11:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by 2-cool-2-b-me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough question, not knowing what he is saying. However, if he is speaking negatively about himself, and does it consistently, he has serious issues. Have you asked him if he has ever done anything to change that feeling? Guide him in the right direction, but do not anchor yourself to his cause. If he refuses to either get help or dismiss this type of behavior, I would politely tell him that the negativity is damaging your relationship and you need to seperate yourself from it for your own sanity. Good luck!
2006-11-09 19:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteChocolate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If anyone does something that makes you feel uncomfortable you have every right to request that the refrain from doing so, if they don't stop then maybe you should rethink keepin a friendship with them??
2006-11-09 19:32:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes.of course..all of us have freedom of speech.....and if you think it will make him/her a better person then why don't you tell it to her..but you should take or accept the consequence of what have you said......there's only two things which might happen after you've done it....he/she might obey you or she/he may not listen or consider your suggestion...but if you have that convincing power then you'll be successful in convincing her........
but then you should also realize that he/she have the right,too.......to say whatever he/she wants to...just be on the right track
2006-11-09 19:44:01 · answer #4 · answered by yucanzee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to choose the things that goes through your ears. He has the right to say whatever he wants. Complicated.
2006-11-09 19:33:27 · answer #5 · answered by cb56br 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong. We should be able to ask things like that of each other, however you can't expect them to always do as you ask.
2006-11-09 19:33:47 · answer #6 · answered by lightfootspirit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you ask or suggest, whole different world. And you might try to see from his point of view
2006-11-09 19:31:50 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it totally awsome your not afraid to tell someone that and i thing that its more than ok its great and brave
2006-11-09 19:58:26 · answer #8 · answered by animallover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, just tell him to stop, until he does
2006-11-09 19:31:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋