My best friend is taking up my old bad habits... I can't seem to get it through to her that it is bad and she really should stop!!! She cuts herself all the time... ( I did it to, but I got help... and i dont want to seem hypocritical ) But if she doesn't stop she will serously hurt herself... But I can't tell... She didn't tell that I did so I cant tell that she is but how do I get her to stop before its too late....??????
2006-11-07 12:17:43 · 7 answers · asked by Lost and Confused!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She needs HELP so , how can you assist her BE HONEST with her about what you feel she is doing to herself , then guide her to some professional or talk about why she is mutilating herself, maybe abusing going on from within family ???
2006-11-07 12:22:11 · answer #1 · answered by roslyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, this is no hypocrisy. You did what you had to do to stop, and you want the same for your friend. Please stop putting yourself down or apologizing. (I've done that, too.)
Second, people can do the very same thing for differnt reasons, and it sounds like you're actually not making any assumptions. That's great.
Next, it's time to tell someone. Help is the only way.
Now, some people see it as stigma to "get help"... and you may be totally aware of this, but there are some people for whom these problems are not just "mental", tehy are neurological. Deep in the rain, something is causing these kinds of things. There is no amount of thinking you can do to stop it.
That may not be the case, but it may be a good argument to use with your friend to get her to go for help of her own asking. If she has to be forced, it could be used to make her feel better, right?
Good luck to both of you!
2006-11-07 12:23:10 · answer #2 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cutting is done as a way to relieve emotional pain and stress. Feeling something on the outside takes the mind off of what one is feeling on the inside, albeit temporarily. Are the cuts deep or superficial? Is she suicidal? You need to talk to her about getting some help in dealing with her emotional pain, as it is more about that than the actual cutting itself. As she learns to deal with what's on the inside, the cutting should subside. Good luck to you both.
2006-11-07 13:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by ber 05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a friend. Keep talking to her. Tell her the release of pain is only temporary and there are better ways to deal with it. Keep telling her that you stopped and so can she. My niece suffers from this and she comes to me. I am available to IM or E-mail if I can be any help.
2006-11-07 12:24:23 · answer #4 · answered by CuervoBMed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that no matter what you will always be there for her and you understand that things can be tough and you went through this before and offer to go with her to seek help.
2006-11-07 12:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by sassymomma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you already told, even though we don't know you personally you still told. and second would you rather have a friend thats mad at you, or no friend at all?
tell somebody, she will understand why you chose to do it.
to cheer her up(if shes sad)remind her of all the good times you have had. if you are really a good friend you will stay by her and tell somebody immediatly!
remind her, her whole life is ahead of her.
2006-11-07 12:37:49 · answer #6 · answered by megan h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-07 12:21:28 · answer #7 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋