who was right?

Question

Most of my life whenever I tried to help my dad he always put me down even in front of people, he always wants things done his way. Today,
I got into a fight with my father over mowing the lawn because I shut off the lawn mower to collect the grass?
he told me not to shut it off becasue its hard to start again once off. However, he kind of yelled at me like a little kid. So I proceeded to cut the grass and I got mad and left he told me Im not good nothing. So I returned to the back yard and yelled at him that he was a fat and no good for nothing father. Who was right or why did this happen?

Answer 1

respect your dad.....and use your head thats what u have it for

Answer 2

:T ... no one's "right".. he shouldn't have yelled at you so, and u shouldn't have gone in and yelled at him.

the worst thing about "hating" somoene else, is that you end up becoming JUST like that person!! which is why u have to make a Conscious decision to NOT be that way.. perhaps u can lead by example. it is extremely hard, but obviously u are both unhappy... he because of something else, you directly because of him. u have to find something in YOUR life that makes you Healthy, Positive and Happy...that way, no matter WHAT ur dad says to you, u can find happiness in other aspects of your life. he should do the same, but u can't change him, u can only change yourself.

i think if u start focusing on positive things, u can start filtering the bad out easier.... for example, if u were a happy, optimistic person in general, u would just be able to cut the grass, and if he said u were good for nothing, just leave the house and not talk to him too often. that way, u are letting the negative out w/o Forcibly being mean back to him...when u come back, pretend as if nothing has happened. if he tries to make u angry to get a rise out of you, u gotta make a decision to try to speak to him and communicate that there needs to be a change, or else you're not going to be around as much. or maybe u can suggest some activities that both of u can do, like go to the lake, or park, or join a group...good luck, hopefully you can change YOUR life so that you are not unhappy and alone when u are older....

Answer 3

I think it is sad that your father has to be so negative all the time, all that does is make you feel bad about yourself. There is such a thing as constructive criticism, a way to let you know a better way of doing something without yelling at you, or hurting your feelings. I think you need to tell him that the way he talks to you is rude, that you are not a little kid, and that he needs to have respect for you. Neither of you should be telling each other you are good for nothing,that is a horrible thing to say to anyone, no matter how mad you are. Your father needs to learn that his way is not the only way to do things, and putting you down in public is just wrong. Maybe you two should go to counseling. Good luck.

Answer 4

It doesn't matter who was right. Your father should not treat you this way. I know it will be hard, but you need to be the bigger person, and go to him. Tell him that even though he bellittles you, you love him. Tell him you are concerned for him, and feel that it is best if you stay away from him until he learns to control his temper around you. He might say something like you can just stay away, but dont. Give him some time to realize what his actions have done. Tell him you want a relationship with him before it is too late. Too late comes really fast with no warniong, and no goodbye. Trust me. I was in your situation for a long time. I only regret the wasted years. Now me and dad get along great. Good luck.

Answer 5

Sounds like your dad is an unhappy person. No matter what you do, it will not make him happy. That's his issue, not yours. I can't even get my child to mow the grass, but I'd never call him "good-for-nothing".

If you're grown, you might just need to walk away and let your dad be miserable by himself until he sees he's more miserable without you and should stopping acting that way.

Yelling back at him is not going to do either of you any good. It's not gonna stop him from being who he is, and all it did for you was let you vent a little bit.

Just take a step back and leave him to his own unhappiness. Go out and find a positive thing to focus on in your life. It'll make a world of difference. Good Luck!!!

Answer 6

Lei's see i don't know my father but i do know right from wrong and trust me honey you both wrong he's acting like a lack of knowledge type a guy an dyour almost swinging in his web by answering you two need a good counselling but your father needs to see that he's your child and you'll do anything to help him instead of treating you like a kid why don't you atleast try to talk with him and let him see reasons it might work.

Answer 7

here we have a situation, I take your side the father gets mad, I take your fathers side and you get mad. Try reaching out to your dad when he gets mad and say I love you. Yelling never got nothing done. above all respect your father

Answer 8

Well, yelling back at him did no good at all. You two need to talk honestly and openly to each other, and it sounds like you've never done that before, so you may need some intervention. If your parents are still together, maybe Mom can mediate. You need to find out what you are doing wrong, in his eyes, and he needs to be honest with you. I wish you all the luck.

Answer 9

Actually, neither of you were right. You went to far by saying what you said so I suggest go over to him, with his favorite snack or a cup of coffee, and calmly explain how you feel and apologize. Then wait and watch. If he doesn't apologize in return, I say it's hopeless because he doesn't want to mend the relationship. You shouldn't have bottled this up for so long, for it to boil over like this.

Answer 10

i guess it's your dad's fault.. im sure you are already feed up, that's why you acted like that..

well, you need to talk with your father how come he is like that..
how come he treats you like that..

then start from there.. or that can be a start of a new beginning..
maybe after that, everything will change..

coz im pretty sure, there's a reason behind it..

so good luck.. =)

Answer 11

i think that your dad was wrong all the way but you were wrong to call fat and good for nothing even if its true think you both was wrong and it happened because you both were hurt .your dad needs help its not right the way he treats you no child deserve to be treated that way no matter what i think your dad loves you but he does not know how to show you he needs help. but ill pray for you and your dad .