Hi, Im eighteen years old, and have been dealing with this issue for two years now. Ive been in a monogomous relationship with one guy who i truly madly love, everything is perfect between us, except for this one thing. Sexually, I feel nothing, absolutly nothing no orgasm, no arousal, nothing. He/We have tried everything, we can think of physically, even vibrators, but nothing seems to stimulate me or interest me sexually and i honestly dont know why. I was never abused as a child in any way, i dont take any medications, i dont use birth control (we use condoms) I know its not him because im not attracted to anyone/anything else. Ive been like this for two years now and its really starting to bother me..any ideas why im like this??
2006-10-06 05:11:27 · 10 answers · asked by SN 4 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I really dont feel anything towards anything, porn, other men, other women, masturbating on my own, oral sex, nothing linked to sex, no interest. Physically, im tiny, 5"2 85 pounds average but ive always been skinny, do u think that has anything to do with it?
2006-10-06 05:24:44 · update #1
Like one of the other people stated, you're probably asexual. There is nothing wrong with that and there are lots of people who feel the same way.
2006-10-06 06:37:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, there is nothing socially wrong with you. There are many people who simply don't feel sexual feelings like that. Can you feel sexual arousal? Maybe you're not stimulated enough....try some porn perhaps? Or perhaps you might want to try a different sexual partner....perhaps a woman or a more experienced man? Women tend to know how to pleasure another woman better than men (cause they have all the same parts), so that might be something to try.
2016-03-27 05:31:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been in this relationship since you were sixteen, I think you're pushing yourself into that which your unprepared. Why have you been having sex since sixteen? Maybe, just maybe, this isn't the guy for you and you need to test the dating game with others. No need to push yourself into something this serious at your age, and especially so limited with life's experiences. Give yourself some time away from your boyfriend, explore the world, then go back and see if you feel differently. Sex is very much a mental "thing" and there are many factors in a gratifying sex life.
2006-10-06 05:23:37 · answer #3 · answered by Apex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I'm 28 and I have the same issue. I've been with the same guy for over 7 years now and since the get-go, there was no arousal, no orgasm, desire..........etc. etc. I feel bad because I have never iniated sex because I don't crave it. Of four doctors I spoke to, three think it has to do with my feelings towards the boyfriend and one thinks it's my stress levels. I'm sure it's not him, but I have tried to improve the amount of stress I take in daily and I don't see any improvement on my part. Oh, but I did learn that drinking helps.
2006-10-06 05:21:49 · answer #4 · answered by Heather B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for someone of your age not to have an orgasm- it is very normal- and if someone tells you other wise they don't know what's up- Dr. Drew has great info on the net- you may not respond fully sexually until you are well into your 20's. We women do not respond like men- like a instant micorwave- don't worry-take care-D
2006-10-06 05:17:27 · answer #5 · answered by Debby B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I cant orgasm when my boyfriend wears a condom and neither can he! I'm on birth control so I'd try that and see if you feel comfortable with having sex without a condom and see if that helps.. it feels completely different without one and also talk to your Gyno about it you could have hormonal problems too.. Good luck !
2006-10-06 05:19:50 · answer #6 · answered by Sammi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and speak to a sex therapist. There may be something between the two of you that just isn't right. It would also depend on your sexual experience as to how you felt about sex. Speaking to someone may just help the sexual chemistry.
2006-10-06 05:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by Stephen J 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not uncommon, the individuals who face that usually consider themselves "asexual," meaning they lack sexual attraction or find sexual behavior unappealing. There is question about whether to consider that a sexual dysfunction or a sexual orientation.
HOWEVER, it can be alot of things, medical, psychological, sociological.. ex: stress, pain, etc.
2006-10-06 05:29:03 · answer #8 · answered by M i z z M a r i 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever had an orgasm?? If not try figuring it out by yourself and then teach him what you like.
2006-10-06 05:19:03 · answer #9 · answered by JS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im guessing it may be a hormone thing. Go see your gynecologist and let them know whats up, they will take care of you!!!
2006-10-06 05:15:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋