My boyfriend use to spend all of his free time with me. Now he never spends time with me. We live together... So, he just comes home, goes to sleep, goes to school, and then chill with his friends. I asked him to spend more time with me and he keeps saying he will but he doesnt. Hes never home. Im always at home by myself. I feel like we are growing apart because he is not making time for me. I miss him all the time. We never really talk or do anything together anymore. Hes always gone what should I do???
2006-10-05 13:51:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
this frequently happens when a couple moves in together and they start getting comfortable. what you need to do is stop sitting around the house missing him and go out and do things with your friends. after a while he'll start to notice that you're not just sitting around waiting for him to come home and spend time with you and he will say something about it. it may come in the form of an arguement but, trust me, he'll say something. when he does that's your opportunity to make your point. tell him that he's never around and doesn't seem interested in spending time with you so you've found other things to fill your time, tell him that you got tired of sitting around alone in the house and since he wouldn't spend time with you that you had to find other things to keep you occupied. he may not like that answer very much but tough sh!t, maybe once the sh!t hits the fan he will realize how much he's neglected you. good luck and, who knows, while hanging out with friends you may just meet someone that will treat you a little better.
2006-10-05 13:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by sarahsmiles1222 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell this guy that if he doesnt shape up then ship out. You deserve so much better than this. You are trying to fix your relationship but he has no interest. If he wont help you make things get better then they will only get worse. Tell him you two need a break or simply tell him its over and see if what he does to get you back. If you dont get the reaction you deserve then finish it and move on. Find someone that deserves you that will love you and treat you with respect. Good luck
2006-10-05 20:54:39 · answer #2 · answered by Teresa M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
men are so different than women. i think he feels like because he is with you every night, that constitutes as time. maybe try to set something up, like tell him fri night there is a movie u wanted to see or something, kinda make a plan and ask him to do it with you. instead of just saying spend time with me, give him specifics. sometimes men need to be guided :)
2006-10-05 20:55:20 · answer #3 · answered by yankeesarethechamps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's maybe cheating on you, just think, is he really with his friends or with someone else? Move on, you sound young, you have your whole life ahead of you....and you only got one life so why spent it miserable and with someone who doesn't care or spend time with you....move on and find someone who really cares about you and is willing to spend his time with you.
2006-10-05 20:55:41 · answer #4 · answered by KK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever read that book "He is just not that into you?" it is a really good book, and it gives you a good insight of why men treat women the way they do. do you think he is cheating? if you love someone you make time with them, no matter what.. good luck!
2006-10-05 20:54:20 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa MacDonald 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Voice your feelings. do not nag him. sometime men do not understand that we like quality time.i have been married for a length of time and i have been there and to get through this you all must communicate and be willing to listen to one another.
2006-10-05 21:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by lovable B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what he needs in a romantic relationship. Tell him what you need. Change your behavior to try to give him what he needs. If he doesn't give you what you need by then, you'll know it's time to move on.
2006-10-05 20:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by booktender 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're going to play tennis with a guy friend. Tell him you're going to a movie with a another guy friend. Tell him you're going to lunch with another guy friend.
That'll light his a** on fire and kickstart his engine.
2006-10-05 20:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking with him about how this makes you feel.
2006-10-05 20:54:41 · answer #9 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to communication in a realashionship is da key
2006-10-05 20:54:48 · answer #10 · answered by megan h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋