I used to be mad at her many times but she forgave me every time after I begged her forgiveness. Now same thing happens, I verbally abused her again, and after three months she still won't forgive me, she said I hurt her a lot, I can feel that, and I'm ashamed.
But, the real reason that I got pissed off is because there's one problem that never solved in our relationship, which is, she treats every boys very kind, and does everything she does with me with several of her good friends, like shopping, see movie or having dinner. And they always went in pairs, I'm jealous. I tried to talk to her but she never changed, it's not that she's sluty it's just that she's childlike and simple-minded, almost a princess from a fairy book.
If so, could someone indicates how?
2006-10-01 17:08:20 · 6 answers · asked by umcris 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This person is a whore. Why get her back?
2006-10-01 17:14:00 · answer #1 · answered by kay w 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have a habit of being verbally abusive and still relapse repeatedly, you have not overcome it, and she is right not to make herself vulnerable to that behavior.
Without exception, you will have to be invariably considerate and treat her with the respect that you expect for yourself. If paying attention to other guys and not giving you exclusive attention are problems that have not been addressed, you need to come to an understanding on those issues-- if and when she wants a relationship with you.
If you think of her as simple-minded, that will show. If you are not married, you ought to seek a relationship with someone that you can respect. If you *are* married, remind yourself AND her of all the reasons you fell in love and want to spend the rest of your life with her. Get wise, Godly counsel, and pour everything you have into showing that you will spend the rest of your life loving her and unconditionally honoring her -- no excuses.
2006-10-02 00:25:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That same problem is still going to be there and you're still going to be the same verbally abusive jerk you were before. You need to get over your jealousy. Also, you call her "simple-minded," that's not exactly a compliment. She's not going to drop her friends just because you can't deal with them. She hasn't done anything wrong, you have, and you're clearly not interested in changing, and she's not going to. Sorry, but this is a lost cause.
2006-10-02 00:14:31 · answer #3 · answered by answersBeta2.1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, regardless if this relationship works out or not, with any relationship you will encounter your significant other will more than likely have friends of the opposite sex. When men tend to show their jealous side (like the way you explained) it has a lot to do with being insecure with themselves. Please know, that your girlfriend is with you, and not dating them. She is entitled to have friends with the same and opposite sex. If you truly care about her, you will learn to accept that. But first, you will need to focus on yourself and the issues you are experiencing with this. I had a very similar problem with my ex-boyfriend. He could not stand that I had a lot of male friends and enjoyed hanging out with them. He would call me constantly, calling me names, making accusations, etc. In the beginning, I thought it was cute that he would get so jealous, but it never stopped...his behavior just got worse. It really wasn't a pleasant relationship...why would I want to continue to date someone who is verbally abusing me on a daily basis. Even if this relationship doesn't work out please, please focus on working on your inner problem to prevent future incidents.
2006-10-02 00:15:27 · answer #4 · answered by KG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like to me your the one who was childlike and simple minded.. are you trying to keep her in prison?
2006-10-02 00:11:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she had asked for advice instead of you , most people would have advised her to keep away from you.
2006-10-02 00:11:06 · answer #6 · answered by Rajesh Kochhar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋