We were together for almost two year. Split up last year and are close friends. But even after a year I still love him. But he has made it clear that he cares a lot for me and will do anything for me but he doesnt love me. He wants us to be friends and we have been friends for a year after break up but I feel i m not being truthful abt my feelings. We feel comfortable in each other's company - more of him than me. I find excuses to fight with him now and I know thats coz of what happened in the past. I am afraid to lose him even as a friend. I know he loves me but in a different way. What should I do? I am confused and i love him.
2006-10-01 16:59:22 · 14 answers · asked by teddylove_04 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you still love him and by the sounds of it you do....it best for your mental and emotional state to distance yourself from him....if that means not being close friends then so be it.....you will find it hard to get over him or give someone else a chance if he is still in the picture.....
2006-10-01 17:01:59 · answer #1 · answered by askaway 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let that boy g o. You are holding on to your past relationship by staying friends with him, and you haven't given yourself enough time to get over him. Sometimes, it takes a long time.
Plus, he isn't letting you have enough time to get over him. If he Really wanted to be your friend, he would see your condition, and respect that you need space. But you still need to tell him that in cold hard words. You can't really blame him for that, unless you tell him, and he doesn't listen.
It sounds like he too is on a yo-yo diet, and doesn't know what he wants.
If you don't be careful, he can use your feelings for him to manipulate you. In a way, it seems he already does, by putting you in this emotional tug-of-war. This may be a way for him to get back at you for the break-up, whatever happened in it.
But you are a young lady, you are living, you need to try to focus on liveliness and youth, and fresh relationships. Or otherwise you will continue to wither, as the stuff from old relationships will continue to drag you down until your heart perishes.
Remember, you don't have to make a new decision on somebody else right away. It takes time to heal. But it's important, and it's how you become a learned and mature person, and a better lover to others.
2006-10-02 00:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by bun223 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow I went through this but the friend thing didn't work for us, my feelings were too strong, as a matter of fact it made our relationship end completely, we don't even talk any more. I would suggest if you want to stay in each other lives, to postpone the friend thing until you get your feelings together because when he is ready to pursue someone else you may get really hurt, and do and say things that might make him not want to be around you. The fact that he has made up his mind means you need to move on as well and it may be difficult for you to do so if he is still in the picture! good luck and stay strong girlie! :)
2006-10-02 00:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by A_lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give yourself some distance. Maybe being friends would work if you both felt the same, but if you still love him, it is just torture being around him. Give yourself time to get over him before you pursue the friendship again.
2006-10-02 00:07:06 · answer #4 · answered by JaneDivided 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disentangle yourself from this guy because he is making you unhappy. The only way you are going to move on is if you stop living in the past.
2006-10-02 00:01:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he has made very clear that he wants a friendship not a relatioship agian. if you love him you will repect his wishes and just be friends with him. i know it is hard getting over someone you love but you have to realize when it is over.
2006-10-02 00:05:08 · answer #6 · answered by OB the Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only answer is to find someone that love you, forget about him, do not be like an obsession life is good and is good to love and be loved.
2006-10-02 00:05:07 · answer #7 · answered by Armando 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cut your losses the sooner you move on the better off you shall be , he had his chance and he does not want you . sorry if it seems harsh but he does not love you and you want to be loved
2006-10-02 00:02:28 · answer #8 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to ways !
first speak with him honestly and show him what you want and what you afried of , if he is worth it he don't leave you
second , play hard to get with him and make him LITTLE jelouse , its maybe works
gl
sorry for my bad english
2006-10-02 00:10:38 · answer #9 · answered by Soap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you love someone who doesn't love you? Isn't that sort of worthless? I think you deserve someone who loves you, not someone who doesn't.
2006-10-02 00:02:02 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋