My boyfriend brokeup with me. He wants nothing to do with me relationship wise. We were together almost a year.My jealousy caused too may fights between us. He said he can't take it anymore.He said he loves me but relationship wise we are not a fit. Our fights basically constited of me freaking out over nothing and we had REALLY bad fights. I say I would change and I never did. We must have fought over 20 times. Last time we spoke I begged for another chance he said no way. He was done.He gave me enough chances.He also said to let time pass and he will call me.But for now I have to respect his decision, get it through my head that its over. He said when this blows over he will call me to see how I'm doing. He said he would be a friend, but thats it. I can't bear a minute w/o him. I drive by his house just to see if he's there.How do I stop from being some psycho stalker. I think if i'm not in his face, he will just forget me. I want to prove to him I can change. What do i do????
2006-10-01 03:15:22 · 14 answers · asked by jovy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
first of all u have to prove to yorself that u can change, y make his as well as yor life miserable. U have to be w/o him to understand that jelousy will not fetch u anything except pain. He must have really loved u to bear your tantrums but wen the water was over his head he gave up. Now be a good girl, calm down and make a promise to yourself first that u will not do the same mistake again. If u change & if u really love her & if he alos loves u he will surely notice the changed u, keep in touch with him, meet him at times but never plead innocence. Accept yor mistake & confess that u are trying to change yourself, u just cant afford to live w/o him
2006-10-01 03:26:02 · answer #1 · answered by fantasyland 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, honey, I feel for you.
It's so painful. But, it will pass.
You can stop from being some "psycho stalker" simply by not being one.
Write (as in handwrite) all the letters you want. Write and write and write. And then, put them in your sock drawer. When you feel the need, write some more. Talk to your girlfriends. But, don't contact him or his friends.
When you don't feel as frantic as you feel right now, you might see if you can figure out what is going on within you... what your jealousy is really about (trust me, it's NOT about him) and why you feel the need for all this drama.
You will survive without him. And, if you take the time to be with yourself, to be curious about your actions, you will become a much healthier person.
If you don't take the time now, you will find that you have these issues with every new boyfriend.
Be kind to yourself. Take a deep breath. And realize that you are a wonderful person who's just a little wounded and confused. Ask for help and surround yourself with the people who love you.
Good luck. And feel free to email.
2006-10-01 03:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,to be very straight,trust me you wont be able to change,just because you are away from him and you love him you believe that you'll give no reasons again but its gonna be the same story once you guys are back,i can imagine how much did you harrass him that he had to run away finally and now since he has taken a decision,i dont think you can influence it,it'll be bettr if you accept the fact and move on with life.you cannot force someone to love you and be with you,it wont last long that way....
i suggest,give it sometime,be away from each other for a while and see how things go,by being after him so desperately will just take me more away from you and will not help at all....wise thing is to let him be and you be to yourself,start living your life,take up some sport that'll help you build you self confidence and be a better person,learn from your experience and work on your personal skills,its very important.....good luck!!
2006-10-01 03:24:13 · answer #3 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't have the answer but i have the problem, i'm doing the same thing - i crave his attention and i call all the time and text message and i'm getting him hating me - i called so much this week, he'll prob never contacvt me ever again. i wish i could go at least a month w/ot him. well today is the first of the month so hopefully i can try again to leave him alone. it truly sucks, i hate it.
people say 'stay busy', etc. but i do and it's not the same at all.
i will prob try getting a book on how to get over a guy. but i know i made myself so unattractive to him by the way i acted an i lost his respect. we wish we could turn back time and do everything different but we can't. just try to be differenet next time w/someone else. i guess we can just write down all our mistakes we made and how we want to be diff next time. sorry wish i could help, but all i can do is sympathize. i feel your pain, believe me.
2006-10-01 03:22:34 · answer #4 · answered by danielle_in_luv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should speak to someone to help you deal with your jealousy,if you dont you will never be able to cope with a relationship and will have the same problems your whole life.Its very hard to actually admit you have a problem but if you dont get to the bottom of your insecurities they will only get worse.You MUST respect his decision and accept that this relationship is over.Get some professional help and find out WHY you are so insecure and jealous.There must be some pain or betrayal in your past and until you find out what you will always push the people you love away.Be kind to yourself and get some help.
2006-10-01 03:33:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how u are feeling, as me and my spouse are seperated, and i feel those moments i cant live without him. Usually, when a man makes up his mind, it is for good, and there is nothing you can do to change that. but to do what you are doing, is showing him that you cant change and be the person you should be. i have been through jealousy in my life, and have overcome. i am 40. it takes time. but it is something you must learn to control. if you dont it will eat you alive. you have to overcome and show him that you can change. if it is meant to be between you, it will be. and thats all that can be said. move on.
2006-10-01 03:19:54 · answer #6 · answered by Elly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him space..if you not in his face he will not forget you. If you are in his face he will push you away to get space. You can't get a guy back by hounding him. If he sees youve changed you'll get a second chance. What you have to work on is being more secure with yourself or these problems wil continue, With him or with other guys, they have tio be sure they are trusted...to a point of course. Overall I think it would be best to give him space or you risk losing any chance there is left.
2006-10-01 03:19:52 · answer #7 · answered by David B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 02:26:48 · answer #8 · answered by finnen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He won't just forget you.In fact if he finds out you are stalking him(which you are) he DEF won't want anything to do with you!!!! Just back off and wait.Maybe if he sees you can handle being apart he'll be willing to give you another chance but it has to happen on his time ,not yours.Being obsessed with someone is not a healthy thing.SLOW IT DOWN AND GET A GRIP!
2006-10-01 03:20:26 · answer #9 · answered by drokk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. Trust me he wont forget about you . But by being a stalkerazzi you will just drive him further away. Go on about your business with out him give him his space, that alone will show him that you have changed and are willing to do what it takes.
2006-10-01 03:19:05 · answer #10 · answered by kibbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋