going crazy?

Question

Ok, I was torn to pieces when I was young, I was abused, I was left out of family things because I shouldnt have been born.

Im not important enough to have a B-day party, I may be ugly...

these are just half the things I went through when I was younger, because of my mom and dad...

I had it pretty rough, but I usually keep it to myself, I didnt give details, I didnt complain, I got use to it.

But my girlfriend acts like her life is so tradgic, but I give her averything she wants, shes never even gotten yelled at.

it kinda gets annyoing when she complains about her life being so hard, when I've had it so hard myself and i dont complain, I dont really care that much any more...

is any of this bad, am I the annoying one, or is it just the difference between males and females?

Answer 1

keeping your emotions inside of u like that isn't safe. i did that and eventially cracked under an extreme amount of preasure. i wont say what i did but it was bad. if u really want to talk about this kind of stuff with someone then my AIM: meltedplasticbag. or my email is :[e-mail].

Answer 2

well, you sound like a younger man, cause you mentioned that you don't care that much any more. I think that's a good start that makes a boy a man... more like a leader and not a follower. One day when you are married and have children you will have a chance to make changes and be the best dad that you can ever make. Remember one thing when you are a man a woman expects to be protected, to be a man is to be loving and understanding to your woman. Women ask for attention in many ways, and your children in other different ways. To understand that you need to create a division and put good fundamentals into practice. When you are a leader think like a hero, and some one who is always going to be the best. A man thinks once, a leader thinks twice, but a real hero thinks thinks three times before acting on a problem.... good luck...

Answer 3

You just have to realize that one persons tragedies in life may not be the next persons. Some people break easier because they have not been exposed to as much as some people. Her tragedies may not seem so big to you because what you have experienced is extreme, but to her it is tragic and difficult. For example: A person who has had a pretty good sheltered life and one day they are short the 30 bucks for cold medicine they may feel poor and helpless.....but to someone whose had to do with out that stuff most of their life will not see this as other than an annoyance for the other person to complain. Neither persons fault. It has to do with life's experience and compromising and understanding that everyone is different and just because it doesn't mean much to you....that it may mean the world to someone else.

Answer 4

Nobody has a perfect life. Girls complain because honestly we want everything, if you spoil her so much of course she is going to complain because she'll think you're going to give her what she wants. I know you had a horrible life, and you could probably tell her how good her life really is. But the thing is, that's the past. You should've told your parent's how you felt, we don't have feelings for nothing.

Answer 5

Girls verbalize more and talk about their feelings. If you are really close, this could be a time to open up and communicate your feelings. She should give you positive feedback if she is mature. In relationships, communication is one of the keys to success. Find someone you trust who you can talk to. Do you have any close friends or cousins you can talk to? If you open up to your girl friend, she will realize her problems are trivial compared to yours. But, she won't know until you open up and talk her about your experience. And, you are not ugly. Did you ever notice that all people are ugly and beautiful at the same time. It is about energy and how you project yourself. Love yourself. Did you ever meet really beautiful people, but they are mean and nasty to others, and before you know it they are ugly? Or, did you ever meet someone who was so nice, and good that they become more beautiful? It's true. I am sorry you were abused. You are on the earth for a purpose. All of us are. Do not ever let anybody ever take your power away to make you feel ugly or worthless. Be strong and stand up to those who abuse you. You have the right to be treated w/ dignity. Please, take my advice and love yourself, and open up to your girl friend or someone you trust w/ your feelings. You will feel so much better. Good luck.

Answer 6

Well beleive it or not everyone has demons in thier past that made thier lives hard and it is wrong for you to make your problems seem worse than hers. Yes your life was hard but other people's lives are hard too. Do not care about it and listen with love and compassion and move on.

Answer 7

Sounds to me like you do care about the crappy past you had, and hearing your girl comlain about the "rough" life she had gets to you a little. Instead of not talking about your past, maybe try talking about it. Calmly, gently and without bitterness attemp to explain to your girl what a rough life really is. When she hears a bit of yours, I'm sure she will realize how good she really had it. Good luck :)



P.S.
Just my opinion, but maybe you could see a councilor about your past. Honestly, it will help you feel better about yourself because the whole question you were putting yourself down. No one should feel like you do about themselves. You are a human being and you deserve to feel good too!!

Answer 8

I know what you mean. It can be really annoying to hear someone complaining about stupid things when you've had all those problems in your life.
I think it would be better if your gf knew all the bad things that happened to you. I don't think she will complain anymore about her life after she listens to yours.

Answer 9

I don't think it's a male-female issue, I think it's simply a case of one person (you) having the strength to rise above their less-than-perfect background without making a fuss, and another person (your girlfriend) needing to play her little drama-queen "must be centre of attention at all times" games. Ask yourself how compatible you two really are.

Answer 10

No, it's the difference between past experiences. You realize your life is so much better now, where as she doesn't, because she never had it that rough. So to her, her life seems tragic, where as you truly know what tragedy is.