Why do the people who claim to love you treat you worse then someone they hardly know?
Why do the people who claim they love you do things that they know you dislike or gets on your nerves just in spite?
2006-09-30 16:09:46 · 16 answers · asked by .vato. 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm married to him and will not consider divorce.
2006-09-30 16:27:41 · update #1
My husband does this to me all the time . I think it is because their is something bothering him . So he gives me a hard time . Then when I get to the end of my rope with it I tell him I know something is bothering you could we just talk about it instead of going at each others throats ? They do it because you are the closest to them they know they can hurt your feelings and you can forgive them . Some times I wish he would just talk to me before he goes and acts like an @$$ . But the fact of they matter is they are men and sometimes that is just how they work . You have to let them vent the frustration then they will be ready to talk and work the problem out . And if that doesn't work their may be a bigger issue like depression . What ever the case may be goog luck !
2006-10-02 04:37:17 · answer #1 · answered by Butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it is a good time to reevaluate the situation. If you are in a loving relationship there should be a critical line that nobody crosses. People that really love other people do not intend emotional abuse, which by the way is almost as bad as physical abuse. The same principle should be applied to non-sexual family relationships as well. How can you ever expect to gain love without trust? If a person is mistreating you there is no reason to trust this individual, love would be out of the question.
2006-09-30 23:23:15 · answer #2 · answered by tadpoleslider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's just human nature, since it seems to be common with everyone. When people get comfortable with someone, they find it easier to speak there mind, and can sometimes say hurtful things. Maybe it's a way a person tests the one they love to see if that love is unconditional. In the end, it comes down to how true their love is.
2006-10-01 15:23:48 · answer #3 · answered by Wiley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people who love are not used to being loved themselves. Some people need to test if you are going to go away. Others, usually blood relatives know that nothing can break that bond and unfortunately take advantage of it. In my experience, you do not have any control over their behavior however you can politely explain that you do not deserve such behavior and you will not tolerate it. This approach fosters respect in the end.
2006-09-30 23:15:32 · answer #4 · answered by Alice W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the beginning of the relationship they put on their best personality so they could win your heart, then when you really fall for them they reveal their true side and become more comfortable with you. They start to do things that they normally do in front of you that they didn't in the first place. It's just how it is with most people. At least you know they're really comfortable being around you.
2006-09-30 23:15:11 · answer #5 · answered by LilSo1287 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because when someone loves you and you love them you become comfortable and sometimes take one another for granted. The more familiar you are with someone the more likely you are NOT to always be on your best behavior. It's a double edged sword. Being totally comfortable with someone is wonderful, but at the same time you end up seeing their dark side as well.
2006-09-30 23:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think that it's because people come home from their busy and stressful days in "the real world" where it's inappropriate to express too much frustration or anger... and, sadly, sometimes end up releasing all of their pent up feelings on the one person who they know won't judge them too harshly for being human and having "negative" emotions. It's not fair... but I'm guilty of it with my hubby from time to time. Thank goodness he loves me!
2006-10-01 00:26:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They think you will forgive them. They think they can do what they want to you and you will let it slide.
You need to tell them that they hurt you feelings and that's ok, this time but don't do it again.
Then be ready to back it up cause they will try it again. Then say I must not have made myself clear last time. And then don't talk to them for a while.
I didn't talk to my dad for 4 months and we live 3 miles apart.
2006-09-30 23:17:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have found that in the beginning of most friendships/relationships of this sort, its as if things start out pretty good, then small things happens, like the other person is seeing how much we put up, always soooo sorry til the next time then it happens as much as we let it. maybe a dumb answer but thats how i feel.
2006-09-30 23:13:35 · answer #9 · answered by hamhead 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes overly critical people are venting on those around them, when in reality they are criticizing themselves. If someone mistreats you emotionally on a continual basis, they have no respect for you. If you allow yourself to be treated this way, ask yourself why.
2006-10-01 16:25:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋