I am a total neat freak and I clean the house literally everyday. He is like a tornado and he just goes around trashing everything. Sometimes he will do the laundry but he just folds it and hangs it and leaves it sit in the laundry room instead of putting it away. Sometimes he does the dishes as well but doesn't put them away either. When he is out of state for work the house looks like it could be in a magazine but when he is home it looks like a burglar had broken in and ravaged the place. I'm so tired of coming home from work extremely tired and having to clean up after a 33 year old. I have talked to him about it and he doesn't seem to get it. The other day he was eating chestnuts and he actually left the shells laying on the kitchen table! Help!
2006-09-30 15:28:45 · 17 answers · asked by Amaya 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, it sound like he is use to you doing for him. Tell him that you are not his mother & he is not a 10 year old. Tell him to finish what he starts. If he does the laundry tell him to finish the job. If he does the dishes, tell him to finish the job. But do NOT do it for him. If he doesn't finish the laundry, take ONLY your items & put them away. When he wonders where his are tell him they are probably where he left them. As for the dishes, do yours, leave his.
I suppose his mother probably picked up after him until he moved out??? Did his laundry, folded it & put it away??
I don't blame you one bit for being upset. I was lucky, my husband is not a neat freak, but he was on his own long enough to learn that if he didn't do it, nobody would. He is also teaching our boys that way. The boys don't do laundry, but they know that if it is NOT in the laundry room on wash days, it will not be washed & the two older ones are whizzes at loading the dishwasher.
Good Luck!!!
2006-09-30 15:40:45 · answer #1 · answered by More Lies & More Smoke Screens 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes the answer to this; and to all the girls that have a looser of a bf is that if he does not care or understand or help you out around the place then its time to let him go, you are not married and so that is the best thing to do. I for one used to be a slob, but my wife hated me for that, but I felt bad so I help her out now. In some casses men can change, but for the ones that don't get it need to be stay single until they become a real man thats all I have to say.
2006-10-01 00:03:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you just have to be patient with him, remember if he's 33 and a slob that can become a real problem.Ask yourself Do you want a slob husband.
2006-09-30 22:35:55 · answer #3 · answered by Mysique_X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to do some cleaning, but you need to calm down too.
I am the exact opposite of you. If i see a clean space i HAVE to trash it. If i have a clean white sheet of paper in front of me i will absolutely have to draw & scribble on it.
You just need to find a way to compromise with your boyfriend.
2006-09-30 22:31:14 · answer #4 · answered by nerveserver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut and run honey. They don't change, but you will. Love is wonderful, but some things it don't change. He would have to have some huge redeeming qualities to balance it out, but I would still choose seperate living quarters, and sweetie this IS the voice of experience!
2006-09-30 22:39:21 · answer #5 · answered by Violetkskye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you can't change him, he is 33. I'm sure you already knew that from the beginning and you put up with it and now you two are living together.
2006-09-30 22:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by nice_simple_guy82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch the BUM!!!!!You sound like a well organized lady,( and I emphasize LADY) So why do you stay with this Bum? You answered your own question. My girlfriend is like your boyfriend( maybe we could hook them up) and you and me could live happily ever after p.s. eldoradodave@yahoo.com
2006-09-30 22:39:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, Doll! sounds like you got some issues... either get used to cleaning up after him or replace him... that's your choices really
you really can't change him so don't bother trying! good luck!
2006-09-30 22:34:57 · answer #8 · answered by bigmammarush 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well either u dump him cuz he a slob but if u really liked or loved him u wouldnt do that..so think bout ur choice first..
2006-09-30 22:31:43 · answer #9 · answered by TheVirgoQueen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to get a life and if he doesn't straighten up leave him,no excuse for a slob and being lazy.
2006-09-30 22:32:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋