He quit when he got congestive heart failure last year. Age 49. After 2 operations defibillator placement, probes for leaky valves and heart stoppage several times, he seemed to be depressed. I left my job to nurse him back to health. He went back to work and started drinking again. Then a younger woman dangled herself in front of him even though she knew we were together. Says he loves her. She knew who I was, we spoke to each other once. He left me for her without saying a word to me. Found out 2 days later. I packed up his things. He moved in with her right away. shes an alcoholic too. She got fired for drinking on the job.
He still continues to pay my bills. Credit card debt. Rent,car payment, etc. Im driving the car. This has been going on for about 3 and a half months. Is this guilt that is making him pay the bills or does he think he can get me back? Is he keeping me on a hook? I have moved on, still have anger and hurt but making positive moves to go forward with my life.
2006-09-30 14:43:48 · 13 answers · asked by asuare1950 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is a hard one. You will be very blessed for what you did for him. But he is going to be the one looking like a fool in the end. Do you think if something happens to him again she is going to take care of him like you did???? NOPE
What you should do is not let him back into your life because when things got rough and his life was on the line you were there for him and how does he thank you by going and being unfaithful.
Believe me he isn't worth your time anymore and I am very sure there is a man out there that would be happy to have someone like you by his side.
Good Luck!
2006-09-30 14:50:25 · answer #1 · answered by miss_lady6980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've really moved on then who cares why he pays your bills? If he feels guilt so what? You are benefitting as you should be, since you made sacrifices for him and didn't seem to get anything out of it. Just keep reminding yourself of everything you did for him, even quitting your job, and he's still drinking and has taken up with another alcoholic. I say let him pay for whatever he wants to pay for and enjoy it while it lasts.
2006-09-30 14:53:36 · answer #2 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being supported by some cheating drunk and start managing your own life. Sheesh! You've "moved on" huh? Did you move on in the car he's paying for?
Who cares what he's doing-- what the heck are YOU doing?
Haven't you had enough of being an enabler? Get yourself to Al-Anon.
2006-09-30 14:52:29 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey keep getting ur bills paid by him , shooooot i'll even drink 2 that but u BETTER NOT GIVE HIM A CHANCE and no its not guilt its a ploy 2 keep u on the side just in case.
2006-09-30 14:47:53 · answer #4 · answered by q45dip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't question why he pays these bills, just be glad he does. Just make sure he knows you're not paying him back one thin dime and keeping moving on with your life.
2006-09-30 14:52:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why must it be one or the other ? I dont know him at all to make that call dear , but it seems to me it could be either of those things , and may as well just be that he feels it is the right thing to do , you know him better than all of us , , you are best suited to answer that one dear
2006-09-30 14:55:12 · answer #6 · answered by rifraffxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares why he pays your bills
you deserve it /probably guilt, but I would advice you not to ask
he might just stop
as long as you know that you have move on that is all that matter
keep moving on & don't look behind
if he needs your help give it to him
but don't stop your life to help him
Good Luck & Keep moving on
2006-09-30 14:55:12 · answer #7 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deep down inside,he still loves you. But,you are a wh*re,and nothing but a wh*re. If you were anything at all you wouldn't let anyone pay anything for you.
2006-09-30 15:01:39 · answer #8 · answered by ICEMAN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question when you said "My ex of ten yrs is an alcholic!?"
2006-09-30 14:58:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi ,,, ha,, ha, Your hurt,,, but not hurt enough to stop him from paying your bills for you !!!! LOL,, and KMA......your just as bad as she is for taking him from you.... Women,,,,,,
2006-09-30 14:48:33 · answer #10 · answered by eejonesaux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋