Ok so me and my ex have been broken-up for about 3 months now but he stills stays at my house on the weekends because: 1) we have a child together and he spends time with her. 2) we have incredible sex together still. So he lives at his brothers house during the week and I take my daughter there when I a working because his cousin watches her there. Well today when I went to drop our daughter off there, this girl answers the door and says "Oh are you Sadie?" and I say "Yes, who are you" and she says "I'm Lisa, Kyle's girlfriend" so this obviously came to a huge shock to me because I didn't know he had been living with this 18 year old girl for the last 4 months at his brothers house and still sleeping with me. So I go in and tell her how she is being played for a fool by Kyle and she tells me that they are engaged and she shows me the ring. Now my question is to the men out there: WHY IS HE DOING THIS TO HER? He doesn't care about her right? Why would he still sleep w/ me if he did?
2006-09-30 14:22:06 · 15 answers · asked by ashleighana83 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My dear, YOU are the one who is being played. He is not doing this to HER, he's doing it to YOU. He's your EX, remember? Tell him he no longer stays at your house and darn sure the sex between you 2 stops immediately. He can visit his daughter but thats IT. Wise up and move on, hon. It's over.
2006-09-30 14:28:23 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men do stuff like this because women let us get away with it. If he's your ex...why is staying at your house and sleeping with you? I mean, obviously since you're not together one of you didn't want a relationship and since he's engaged to this girl, unless he's not really going to marry her, apparently he's not commitment shy...but since you're willing to give it up to him...why not?
I'm not saying it's the proper way to behave, but damn girl...take a little responsibility for giving it up to him. And if after finding out he's been nailing you, his current fiancee doesn't give him the boot then she's got no one to blame but herself.
2006-09-30 21:27:18 · answer #2 · answered by evilim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's getting away with murder and enjoying every second. Why would he care about who he hurts?
Why are you letting him do this to you is a better question. You are an "EX" but you give yourself away to him? If I am an ex to someone, I would be better to myself by not letting the guy use me.
Let your ex have the sofa, and lock your bedroom door. Respect yourself, because he does not.
2006-09-30 21:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by BuffyFromGP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he knows if he gives her a ring, (Probably, borrowed or stolen!!) This will keep him in her good graces even if she found out about U!! Basically he wants to keep all the free(cow) milk he can for as long as he can!!! DOG!!! Also, he's playing you....just because you have a child w/him.........you are not obligated to give him anything..SEND HIM KICKIN' A CAN, GIRL!!! HE IS A LOOSER!!
2006-09-30 21:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by Karen C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness girlfriend !!! Get rid of the man quick. you deserve better. As long as you allow this to happen it will. Believe me he doesn't really love either one of you. He wants his cake and ice cream too. Don't let yourself be hurt anymore. If she believes he is going to be faithful to her after you told her about you sleeping together on the week ends then she deserves what she gets.
2006-09-30 21:28:44 · answer #5 · answered by cindi7462 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question should read why do womens allow mens to use there body for there convience.its clear he has moved on and so should you you didnt gain by tell her you only made yourself look bad. when you met the lady and she told you they were getting married you should have wish them well and not show your jealousy and barred him from your bed honey MOVE ON the man has found him someone else
2006-09-30 21:35:19 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well as a recently seperated man i will say this .you go were the getting is good and he may love her he may not that i dont know.if i could have a girlfriend and sleep with my ex i most certainly would.APPARENTLY HE STILL LIKES HAVING SEX WITH YOU BUT HE LIKES THE IDEA OF A YOUNGER GIRL ON HIS ARM.WHY BECAUSE YOU TWO LET HIM.
2006-09-30 21:32:21 · answer #7 · answered by tugboat21601 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like the both of you are being played,but you really come out looking foolish because she has the ring on her finger and not you,so who's the fool
2006-09-30 21:28:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly hun its because men if they can get it from someone willing to give they will get it. Hes using you and hes keeping her. Its no fair to you and your feelings or your child because she doesnt need to grow up with things like that.
2006-09-30 21:31:18 · answer #9 · answered by cherokee83pride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, not all men are like that- don't stereotype us.
Second, you were never broken up if you were still having sex. Don't be so stupid. (I don't mean to insult you, but come on. Wake up.)
2006-09-30 21:25:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋