2006-09-30 07:26:30 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it depends.....
there's thinking through the others perspective and being more understanding....
2006-09-30 07:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find all the old newspapers have laying around, typing paper, blank notebook paper,any paper that isn't important, and just start ripping it up in as many pieces as possible ,as fast as possible ,throwing it into the air as you do, until you run out of paper or energy. Now look around you. What do you see? A mess of destruction. That's what anger does to your insides. Now get on your hands and knees and as you're picking up the thousands of small pieces of paper and put them into a garbage bag and as you throw it out, think of it as throwing the weight of anger off your back,and feel how much lighter you are. Then, also think of how much time you wasted doing a foolish thing, much like the time wasted on letting your reaction to something take up all your happiness, energy,make you feel like crap,and put out hatred, when it would have been easier to sit and take some slow deep breaths and meditate on how you can rectify the conflict in a positive way. If it's something that can't be changed, then accept the fact that some things and people in life can't or won't change, and you have the power to change the situation by removing yourself from the conflict , or learning and growing from it, so it doesnt' happen again.
2006-09-30 14:42:50 · answer #2 · answered by mainah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes writing it our helps - then put it away. Then come back and read it a day or two later. It is easier to break it down and deal with it better. If you get more angry reading it - find a way to release your anger - exercise, etc. If you can rationalize it and feel less angry when you read it - then you have found a new way to cope with anger. Sorry you are going through this. :(
2006-09-30 14:29:53 · answer #3 · answered by Jackie P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're looking for a non-confrontational outlet I'd say go to the gym. Excercise is a great release for pent up emotion. However, dealing with the source of anger will require different things for different situations. Since you didn't elaborate I won't either. Good luck with that though. Its normal and it will pass if you let it.
2006-09-30 14:30:26 · answer #4 · answered by anon_y_muse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you angry about? an incident? a person?
if it is a person, sit down and write a letter to them. be specific in what you are mad about. tell them exactly what you are feeling, and what you think about them. don't hold back. let them have it.
then, rip the letter up and burn the pieces.
life is always going to put you in situations from time to time that do not sit well with what you think, how you feel, or what you want. you need to decide this is a reality, then agree that you are going to have your cup be half full and not half empty.
no ones cup is ever full all the time. even if it seems like it to you, behind closed doors everyone deals with things they don't necessarily like.
it is a fact of life. you need to learn to be content where you are, make changes to better yourself...if you can, then accept yourself for who you are.
we all can't be Bill Gates, John Kennedy, Alfred Einstein, or whoever it is you deem better than you.
God made us to be exactly who we are, and the sooner we realize who we are and what attributes we possess, and which ones we don't, we will be better able to lead a contented life.
good luck.
2006-09-30 14:35:33 · answer #5 · answered by David S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I lived in Phoenix, I'd hike to the top of North Mountain and if I was still angry when I got to the top, I'd scream at the top of my lungs.
(*shrug*) It's more traveled now, and would probably scare the bejesus out of some nice person...but that's what I used to do.
I also had copper bottomed pots and pans that I'd clean. By the time I made it through the set, I was calmed back down.
Other alternatives...go for a long walk, exercise, meditate.
2006-09-30 14:37:22 · answer #6 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a boxing class, it is a great way to get aggression and anger out as well as an awesome workout.
2006-09-30 14:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by samanny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no recipe for that. Cause each one has a way to get out his/her anger. But for me..hehe..i go till the person and i say everything i need to say. I dont like to keep anger cause it can do a damage to our health!
But theres some people who use to crash diches, go to swim, sing, hear a song or simply screaaaaaaaaaaaaam! haha
2006-09-30 14:30:16 · answer #8 · answered by Taz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Address the anger, then let it go. Sometimes when I'm sad or angry I'll write a poem about it, or you can just write your feelings down in a notebook.
2006-09-30 14:28:35 · answer #9 · answered by poeticjustice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it helpful to just walk away for about 15 minutes and then return to the person or the situation that got you angry in the first place. I usually calmed down by that time and not expressed any angry in which I would've regretted if I had stayed. So realized that you're emotionally unstable when you feel angry and just walk away by saying, "excuse me I need to think this over by myself."
2006-09-30 14:30:58 · answer #10 · answered by Believe me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously I heard this from like a doctor or someone on a talk show.
If you are angry with someone. Write them a letter explaining yourself. But never give it to them.
Although if you feel talking to that person would help. Just say what you have to say. But remain cool about explaining yourself.
2006-09-30 14:32:07 · answer #11 · answered by Dwayne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋