my husband goes out alone to his friends all day and leaves me at home. i'm married 1 yr and he never takes me

Question

....he never takes me out. I am 20yrs old. he is 35yrs old. He says I have to tell him where i go- even to the shop, but he never tells me where he goes. i love him, but i do not know what to do.!!!!! We are from Arabic nationality. Please tell me what you think I should do to wake him up!!!! PLEASE

Answer 1

Stop doing what he says and demand respect as an adult. He says you have to tell him where you go, but you don't. When he asks where you've been, simply say, "I am not going to tell you." Don't wait on him to take you out -- start going places you want to go. Get a job to make your own money and stop being emotionally dependent on him.

Answer 2

Sounds like a bad situation. You might want to start going places without telling him. When he confronts you let him know that that is exactly how you feel when he leaves you with out notice. If he does not see the problem then you might e in for an even bigger battle.

Answer 3

Leave!!!! Run like hell. Run like you are on fire. That is what we call a future wife beater who has 5 illegitimate kids and two other wives. listen sweetie he might already be cheating on you and to know where you are every minute of the day is to know that he is cheating and he doesn't want you to. So one day soon when you are alone and he gone out with his friends pack your stuff leave no trails and leave. don't tell anyone where you are going. turn off you cell phone and get another close anything that you have now and get a new. forget he exists.

Answer 4

Well my opinion is that he thinks he is dominant over you and that he is in controll or the other possibility is that he is cheating so if it is the first one them let him know he isn't your boss or master and stop telling him where you go and leave it at that. And if he doesn't start telling you where he goes then tell him to stay gone unless he tells you where he is at all the time.

Answer 5

Live within your cultural norms. In America we have an old saying "you can't teach an old dog new tricks". In your case, your husband is 35, the chance are he's not going to "wake up". You didn't say he was telling you not to go places, he just wants you to tell him where you go. So go where you want to go and just tell him where you went.

Answer 6

Why did you marry him in the first place? Didnt you see any of these signs before you got married? Or was it one of those things that appeared to be a turn-on in the beginining but ended up being a turn-off now

Answer 7

Make one night a week where you go out with your friends, give him a taste of his own medicine. And he is not your father he is your husband and if he cannot deal with that then you don't have a marriage. A marriage is based on trust and if he cannot trust you to go out and have fun then he obviously has issues with his own insecurity.
Stand up for yourself.

Answer 8

Tell your parents, then go to his parents with your parents and sit down with him - demand that he divorce you. Not worth the dowry your parents paid with their hard earned money and life savings for you to be treated this way. Love should be reciprocal - a two way street. He's a control freak and a moron.

Answer 9

Welcome to my world honey! Just don't tell him where you are going when you hang out with the girls, I mean just simply refuse, just state I am going out and go. Give him a taste of his own medicine, he will bring it up and give you plenty of opportunity to say well you do the same **** to me, so what? GL

Answer 10

i dont know what to tell you darlin... i understand that the men are in charge in arab culture, but dang.... i hate to see a woman taken advantage of.

one thing you could do is stop having sex with him.... that seems to be the only power he is allowing you right now. i dont know how to get him to respect you.... good luck!!