How do you make a marriage last long, and HappY???

Question

Just wondering why can some married couples live together happily for many years up to decades till they are old, and yet some don't even talk to each other after a few years...
How do you make a marriage last long and happy, without getting bored of each other?

Answer 1

You have to be 100% commited to your marriage even when things seem at their worst. (this excludes abuse of coarse) It also takes the both of you. The passion will come and go, you will get bored, you will even dislike each other at times but you stay and stick it out through sickness and health and the ups and downs. So, many couples throw in the towell in their marriages b/c they don't feel "Happy" or "Passionate" etc, etc. There are many reasons behind this but if you stay and work it out you will have a long and happy marriage. The first 7 years are the hardest. Esp. if you can get through that 7 year itch. My husband an I went through counseling and discovered that if we just worked on US we could get it all back and we did.
#1. Set aside time each week for a date or to get off by yourself and spend time together.
#2. Don't spend too much time a part sexually. Really try and work on your sex life.
#3. Take at least one weekend a year or even twice a year if you can manage to "honeymoon"
#4. Learn skills to cope with the challenges of marriage.
communication/disagreements
#5 Never argue in front of the kids (if you have them)
#6 Make it your mission to do things (even just little things) to make your spouse happy on regular basis.
#7. Never argue in the bedroom or when you are about to be intimate.
#8 Of coarse the old one we all know about it Never go to bed angry.
#9 No name calling....EVER
#10 Put you and your spouse number 1 one the list of priorities....always!!

Go to counseling.....to prevent problems...learn how to affair proof your marriage...learn how to discuss things and work out conflicts....

Answer 2

First of all too many people rush into to marriage now-a-days. So that's the first problem. They marry someone they didn't know that well or that wasn't meant for them. Relationships only work if there is OPEN COMMUNICATION and I mean total communication. You should never hide anything from your spouse. All things should be out in the open before one gets married. So it's not a good idea to have skeletons in the closet. First of all that will way on your head which will in turn change your mood and second you will have to worry about not letting it slip and third if it does slip than that creates a whole other problem. The key to a Great marriage in my mind is 1) Communication 2) Love 3) Sex and 4) Money. If these issues are ok or at least under control than the marriage will be fine. As in how to keep it spicy after so many years, it's called a date. Monthly at least. And the spouses should take turns planning the date.

Good Luck with everything hon!

Answer 3

First of all GOD,and the LOVE 'S gotta be genuine,if that's not the case then it's like trying to mix oil and water,secondly communication is important (very) if a husband and wife can't communicate with each OTHER then there will always be conflict which will lead to arguments,tension and then Divorce. third do exciting things, for and with each other ,especially in the bedroom (spice things up)i'm not just talking about freaky ,kinky sex, husbands should take time to make love to their wives,explore every part of there bodies (vice -versa),not just a slam bam thank you ma'am.ok.Put all these together along with a few other things (that i can't really type out because this is long enough already)you'll have a happy marriage.it is possible.

Answer 4

Okay, the reason marriages end in so many divorces is that they didn't try to really work on their relationship in the first marriage. Let me just put it this way. If it didn't work the first time around then why the he** do you think it will work with someone different. If you don't correct the first problem then history will repeat itself time and time again. That is what we all call baggage. Divorce is made to easy these days. If you don't like who you are with then just go divorce them.. that is the mentality of society. But the truth is Marriage is sacred, only if you both believe in its sanctity. And try not to let outside influences run your marriage. I promise it will work if you and your future partner approach marriage as a long lasting vow. And realize that one or both of you will not want to be married to the other person on some days. But not to let those feelings dictate what is real.

Answer 5

Make sure you marry the right person in the first place. Mutual respect, love, and best friends.
Alot of people say they argue for the excitement. That is mostly just making excuses for arguing. It is possible to have a long healthy non-fighting relationship and not have it be boring either.
Marry the right person, and it is all smooth from there.

Make sure you love them. Many people have false illusions of love because they like someone more than other people in the past. Or if this person isnt as bad as the last one, then it must be love. Wrong.
Make sure it is true love for a long lasting relationship. If it is real, you will know.

cliches aside

Answer 6

Be sure to love the person before you get hitched. This is the first most important thing I imagine. then make sure you're patient and not afraid of telling you other what you need. You are two people in it together, and if you want to make it the long hawl, then you have to give and ask them what they need. And not be afraid to let them know what it is exactly, that you need to be happy.

We all deserve happiness. so give and recieve with humble thanks. live and let live, if their chewing makes you angry, ask them to quite down, but wait until they're in a good mood or have a glass of wine in them.
And I could go on for ever, but those are a few things that have kept my parents together for almost thrity years

.And every once in a while, try to jump sideways. Try it, now...
How was that?

Answer 7

So far I have been married to my best friend for a bit over 10 years. We have had good times, bad times and worst times. All through this, we were able to talk to each other. Not all the talks were at a moderate level. I believe that some of the ways that a marriage lasts, is that the couple talks to each other, there are no secrets (none!!!!), that they are best friends and then lovers, and they have respect for each other.

Answer 8

Don't let an argument linger. Everyone is going to have disagreements. That doesn't make it a bad marriage. Talk to each other, make time for each other, enjoy each other. Marriage is ever changing and growing. Each and every stage is a new adventure!

Answer 9

I think there are a number of factors. Here are some of mine in no particular order: (1) My wife is my best friend. I would rather do anything with her than with one of my guy friends, (2) We are both passionate about our faith, (3) We complement each other. I mean we're different enough to make it interesting but not so different that we're opposites.(4) Our common interests are VERY in common. (5) We make each other laugh. I'm sure there are more factors if I thought about it longer.

Answer 10

Its a 25/8 job, that BOTH parties agree they should work on. Keep communication lines open even if the topics are unpleasant. Agree to disagree agreeably and never sleep on unfinished arguements. Be a friend first before being a spouse and respect, trust, believe, support each other - emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually, sexually, financially, recreationally and enjoy life.