does it mean that your husband doesn't trust you, or the marriage? or are you showing "faith" by signing one?
(my bf is a lawyer and is constantly saying EVERONE should have a prenup, regardless of how much they make right now). what do u think?
2006-09-27 05:52:42 · 26 answers · asked by sasmallworld 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok, I'll weigh in because my views have recently changed on this. I have always believed that prenups show a total lack of trust in the person whom you are SUPPOSED to most be able to trust. Not to be pessimistic, but the person that you marry is also the 1 person on earth MOST likely to drag your butt into court, fight over assets, etc. (Been married, been divorced, have kids). If I were to marry again, I think a prenup might be a good idea, not just as an insurance policy for myself, but more so for my kids so that when I die, they will still get a fair cut of my assets. If I had no kids from a previous marriage, I would be less likely to do the prenup, but it's still not a bad idea to look at what you both have up front, if there is a BIG difference, & one side could stand to gain alot, a prenup should be considered.
2006-09-27 06:04:32 · answer #1 · answered by Justin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in the world we live in today precautions are the best tool. a prenup has nothing to do with trust or love or faith it is simply a reminder that though you may love the person that is before you now, will you love the person later when the friends start to interfere in the relationship or when Oprah says something to spark her interest or if she has a mid life sexual evolution these are factors that just make a relationship more enjoyable or more revolting none the less a prenup is in fact just a little insurance because sometimes in the course of life we begin to want more career wise or financial wise and some people do not have the same drive which Can sometimes result in a jealous relationship and is just the second step to divorce. sometimes scorned spouses want revenge and the money is the easiest way to get it.
2006-09-27 13:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by dana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A prenuptial agreement is usually done when another marries into another family that has money or valuables they want to keep in the family for generations to come! It actually is there to reassure that something so valuable can't be taken away in case of a divorce! ( This I can see) But if a person merely just wants a prenup for everything him and his spouse acquires together in a marriage ( I believe it then to be wrong)! Personally, Whatever was there before marriage; as far as I'm concerned, was and will forever be his, but what we aquire together, I believe should be split down the middle for us both to share!
2006-09-27 13:18:08 · answer #3 · answered by shelly_mo67 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sad but true...and practical at the same time...
It has nothing to do with trusting someone and more with defending or protecting what is yours from the very beginning...
If you have your own home and you have lived there for the last 5 years it is worth let's say 1 million dollars...and one day you fall in love and married this guy...and because your house is great you decide to move in and live there...and after two years he is unfaithful to you and you get divorced...would you want to give half of the worth of the house to your ex? It is YOUR house, you bought it with your money, and you fixed it, what then?
You just happened to marry someone that later you found out was not worth it...wouldn't you be happy that you signed a prenup and he gets nothing from you and you get to keep your house??? I would...
2006-09-27 13:08:56 · answer #4 · answered by Penigegolyz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if you have a TON of money or material possessions, like celebrities for example, should you have a prenup. That way, if you do split you get to keep whatever you had in the first place and the gold digging wife can't try to get her grubby little paws on everything!
2006-09-27 12:55:18 · answer #5 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be comfortable leaving with what you came into the marriage with.
I took a business law class. the professor explained it comes in handy when you or your spouse is being sued, that way the plaintiff doesn't get EVERYTHING they want.
Prenups also send a negative message sometimes. that things may not pan out so people secure their assets etc. it just depends on why you do it. it could make the marriage stress free or depressing.
2006-09-27 12:58:51 · answer #6 · answered by Skypride 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that the partner wanting the prenup cannot trust. i would never sing a prenup, all the money in the world cannot buy love, if your partner truely loves you the subject should never come up.
2006-09-27 12:57:15 · answer #7 · answered by KIMBERLY N 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a tough call. I considered one when I remarried 3 years ago, but decided against it because of the trust issue. If I didn't trust her than why was I getting married, I asked myself. There have been moments when I have regretted this decision, but I stand by it.
2006-09-27 12:55:55 · answer #8 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GUARANTEED DIVORCE.
It makes marriage a business arrangement rather then a true commitment. With love comes risk - just like everything else. But with love, you must take the chance - and set all other things aside, including money.
2006-09-27 13:21:18 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say that I wouldn't be a little offended if asked to sign one, but I think its realistic nowadays. So many of my friends have gotten screwed in divorces. They never imagined that would happen when they married their ex, yet people change when a divorce is going on.
2006-09-27 12:58:17 · answer #10 · answered by qtprsn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋