Your boyfriend who you are deeply in love with and you’ve been living with cheats on you, while you suffer alone. He is all you’ve known. You can’t see your life without him, his family is yours, and vice versa. him and I are one…well this girl he cheated on me with is closer with his family than I thought. I thought her mom and my boyfriends mom were friends, well turns out my boyfriends mom has been introducing this girl to THE ENTIRE FAMILY! But she says she loves me, and can’t wait for me to have her grandbabies. I see this girl saying I love you to my boyfriends family who has myspaces. Then they write back telling her how beautiful she is, and how they love her too. Then they say they love me too. Me and my bf are doing fine, but I feel like his family is cheating on me…I believe in HUGE family gatherings, and holidays, but I don’t want to be around his family ne more. They already made me feel like a fool when they didn’t tell me their son or brother w/e was cheating on me.
2006-09-27 05:45:47 · 28 answers · asked by amanda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Would you stay in this situation, and except this girl as part of your family? Seein how my boyfriends family consider her family? The girl who helped tear your heart out, when she knew about me and my boyfriend but she went ahead anyways. With her as family, you are reminded everyday of the horrible time you went through
2006-09-27 05:46:42 · update #1
I know you said you only wanted girls to answer but I went through a very similar situation. The best thing you can do is get out of the relationship. How can you be certain that they won't do it again? If he's introducing her to his family and they approve- he may just decide to dump you.
The family does sound rather strange- like with my ex girlfriend's
family who was all agog over me until she brought home a 'classmate' and they loved him too. She eventually slept with him and I ended it right then and there. There was always a nagging feeling that lead me to believe that it might happen- the two of them getting it on-- so when it happened I just walked away. Evidently she wasn't too broken up about it because she never bothered to try to get me back OR apologize!!!!
Hope things get better for you.
2006-09-27 06:01:41 · answer #1 · answered by Coo coo achoo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have completely been made a fool of!! You are right about that. Do you even need to ask if you should stay in this relationship? If this were me, I would be so gone right now. Not that it would be comfortable for me, or feel good, because I know what you mean that his family is yours and you and he are one. Once he cheated on you w/ her, and his family accepted it, you were gone from being his one and only. Don't be an idiot with these people by sticking around while this girl is taking the spotlight.
2006-09-27 12:52:34 · answer #2 · answered by Rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your mistake was to take him back after he cheated on you. If a guy cheats on you once and you forgive him he will do it again and to tell you the truth i dont think he is so deeply in love with you as you are with him because if you love somebody you dont cheat. About the family situation i wouldnt put up with it, i would talk to my guy and tell him how i feel if he really loves you he will step up talk to his family and defend you and just tell them that he doesnt want that girl around his family anymore, the family should understand. If not then just get rid of the loser and move on, sounds like you are a good girl and deserve better. good luck to you!
2006-09-27 12:54:50 · answer #3 · answered by its_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you shouldn't stay i think you should leave a family is always going to stick up for family no matter what and he doesn't love you as much as you think he does you should never be a second woman to any man there is some one out there for you just look a good one will come to you,you should not have a man at home and still feel alone no if you need more advice feel free to email me at nclgivens@ yahoo.com ive been through this already so fell free to contact me for moral support you never know i might need moral support as well
2006-09-27 12:54:18 · answer #4 · answered by nclgivens 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're so dense - he and his ENTIRE family are decendants from the Addams Family. How the heck can his mother tell you she loves you yet introduce the other girl to the entire family? Leave. Even if you say you love him and the rest of the family, in time since they've seen you can't even respect yourself to stand up for your rights - they'll eventually disregard how you feel and who you are, they might even advice him to get a mistress! Support all the bull he gives you and you'll NEVER come up winning. Leave him.
2006-09-27 12:49:58 · answer #5 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't do it. It's bad enough that he cheated on you to begin with but his family is welcoming her with open arms? That's heartless and cold. They had to know what they did. Regardless, your his woman and they should realize that they are betraying you. And why should you have to accept her at all? She isn't THEIR family. She's actually no one. But since it's apparent that she's not going anywhere and is obviously after your man (otherwise she wouldn't have moved in on him knowing he was with you). Can you deal with that? And be honest with yourself. Will it happen again? It will most likely. I would just cut my ties with them and try to heal my broken heart without any of them. And if they ask you why, tell them. They should know how you feel. At least this way you have closure in this. But be forewarned, it won't be easy and it will take a long time to get over this. Good luck to you!! I feel for ya.
2006-09-27 12:55:31 · answer #6 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a strong woman............you need to move out and move on. I know that sounds easy for me to say, but I say there is still more going on between your bf and that gal. There is never an easy answer to what you are going through, but life is too short to be stuck in a dead end relationship. His family is allowed to love you both, but you will never be able to heal from the cheating if she is in your life. Go forward, girlfriend, and dump him and his family.
2006-09-27 12:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by jazzy6624 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to step back from the whole situation and figure out why his entire family (him included!) are such narcissistic, deceitful, conflict-avoiding game players. Dump the whole brood and start over with a life that is your own, and find a guy with less wishy-washy tendencies and a decent family.
His mom sounds like she needs to be in control of his relationships.
Run Away!
2006-09-27 12:49:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do you know how his family feels toward this other girl? did they actually come right out and tell you this or is it just hear say? before you do anything irrational, i would suggest you sit down with his family, and him and put it all out on the table. let them know that he has cheated. everything! if they confess that they did not know any of this then i would tell everyone how you feel. you have to give them the chance to justify themselves in front you. because it could be just a bunch of rumors. if they admit to it all dump him and his family. i hope it's just a bunch of rumors. good luck
2006-09-27 12:57:38 · answer #9 · answered by lidakamo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. Not exactly your situation but close enough. My fiancee and I have been together for 7 years. His grandma came to visit a couple months ago and started talking all kinds of s**t about me. I've gained weight, I'm not good enough for her grandson, we need to meet other people, blah, blah, blah. What it boiled down to in my situation was that he loves me and when I talked to him about it, he realized how much she was hurting me and he confronted his grandma. He told her that no matter what anyone thought, we are going to be together forever.
I think if your boyfriend truly loves you, he should be the one to stop himself and his family from talking to thins girl. If he can't do that for you... he doesn't deserve to be a part of your life. My fiancee and I own a home together and I told him that if he cant stick up for me, we'll put a "For Sale" sign in the yard and go our seperate ways. YOU are number one. You have to do what's best for you, if that means leaving him, do it. Good Luck!
2006-09-27 12:52:31 · answer #10 · answered by chanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋