I love my best friend to death but a couple of weeks ago she started talking about how cute the same guy i like is. Typical i know, but i really dont want to ditch her. I've told her about a thousand hotties i know and she says they're pretty hott too and she'd go for them also! It hurts knowing I really have feelings for this guy and obviously...she wants to take him away. I've always been self conscious and i think she's way prettier then i am. A while ago she came up to me and told me he was trying to touch her. I've been bummed ever since. I really need help or im afraid i'll be stuck in this situation forever!
2006-09-27 05:36:53 · 15 answers · asked by Snap Skittles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Friends are more important than guys....
For the time being, I think your friend is in greater danger. Tell her not to let him touch her. Refrain from private places eg rooms. Try being in the company of friends, so he cant touch her which includes you even if he was interested in you.
Do what a friend should do. Protect each other.
He's not the right guy for both of you.
Never feel inferior if you are not pretty. I'm not either but I found the one who loves me for who I am. You just have to wait 4 the right one.
Take care
2006-09-27 05:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by TiK-TaK 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all; if your friend isn't aware of you liking the same guy, how is she to know this hurts you by talking about him the way she does? Have you thought about telling her you are also interested in this guy and whenever you hear her talk about him that it hurts because deep down you know that out of the two of you "One is bound to get hurt!' I'd say tell her right away that you too have feelings for this same guy and even though she is your friend, this is something you feel she needs to know because you value her friendship and don't want to lose her over a guy! Especially one that you both have great feelings about! A friend is way more valuable than any crush could ever be! You can always find another guy but true friends are hard to come by! I also would like to add; there is only one you and everyone is beautiful in their own way, don't be so down on yourself because you think your friend is prettier than you because beauty is only skin deep and sometimes what you see on the outside is not what you are seeing at all! Sometimes the most beautiful people are ugly underneath! (FOOD FOR THOUGHT!)
2006-09-27 05:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by shelly_mo67 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd talk to your best friend in private and be honest with her about how I feel. Acknowledge that you're aware about her feelings for him, but that you also feel the same thing for him... Let her know that you don't want his presence to wreck your friendship and that you want to work this out with her. Invite her to brainstorm together for a solution. The key is to negotiate and listen... don't interrupt her even if she says something you don't feel is right, she's just trying to voice her view and make her point. Then when she's finished you have your turn to talk and you can also ask for her undivided attention. True best friends listen to and understand each other.
I probably would invite a guy to a group outing where both you and your best friend would be present... then pull him aside at one point to talk with the three of you and let him have a say. Most likely you won't get anything solved in one sitting, but it'll be a starting point. Be prepared for several outcomes. If you think optimistically about your chances and do everything to affirm it, you may well end up with him and still have your best friend's approval. But also be prepared for the event that your "best friend" ditches you because he wants to be with you, to not let your new relationship make you miserable of the "friendship" that was lost. A bigger test might be if he chooses your best friend over you--if you really are her true best friend, you will get over it and be happy for them. Another possible outcome is that he doesn't want to be romantically involved with either of you but prefers to stay friends.
Don't worry, there's a solution for everything! In the real world, what you expect is what you get--just keep affirming!
2006-09-27 05:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by Mizz G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of all, tell her your feelings straight out. Guys notice girls who are confident so get it out of your head that she is prettier than you. Growing up, I was the prettier one between my best friend and I, but she ALWAYS got the guys. I was lacking in confidence. Also, tell if if it meant to be between the two of them, then you support it 100%. You don't want to come between a good relationship AND you do not want to lose your friend. This guy doesn't realize he has a choise. So make him realize by showing him your true colors. That is if your friend says he's fair game. He is not yours because you liked him first. Don't wreck a great friendship over a boy. there are a million boys out there. You will find the one right for you. Lasting frienships are much harder to come by than boyfriends. Have a great day!
2006-09-27 05:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't sound like much of a best friend to me. She should respect your feeling about this guy and stay away from him. Have you pursued him yourself? Maybe you should as opposed to staring at him from the sidelines while she makes the moves. But, no matter what happens with this guy, you should make new friends who make you feel more secure and distance yourself from this girl who obviously does all she can to keep you down. That isn't a friend. That's a manipulative b*tch.
2006-09-27 05:47:13 · answer #5 · answered by Shelley L 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to make a dission.
You may choose to do nothing at all. Remember the guy may not like you and then you may find yourself without your friend or the guy.
The best course to take is to talk to your freind and tell her how you feel.
2006-09-27 05:39:58 · answer #6 · answered by viajero_intergalactico 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's up to u...u either back off...or go head to head with her, and MAY THE BEST GIRL WIN...either way, just think how much this new relationship will make you happy in comparison to losing your best friend....
personally, if you lose a friend and gain a husband..i say thats cool, bcos any friend will notice u and this guy were meant for each other
but if u lose a best friend over a 2month crush...now that's sad
2006-09-27 05:40:41 · answer #7 · answered by Luxoire 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her that both of y'all like the same guys. Tell her how you feel about her liking the same guy you like. If you have feeling for the guy you need to tell her that so she can back up off of him.
2006-09-27 05:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by Shawn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find out who he likes and go from there. There is no point in both of you liking him if he only likes one of you.
2006-09-27 05:41:43 · answer #9 · answered by HappyMama 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let the guy decide, if he chooses her nothing much you can do. But try to leave a good impression when you are around him. :)
2006-09-27 05:39:30 · answer #10 · answered by Jordaan 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋