Why is it women can just turn on and off there hormones and they feel presured into pleasing there husbands. And will just have sex with them to shut them up even if they are not going to enjoy it. Is there a way to prime the pump so that they can enjoy it at the time WHAT GIVES. Serious responces only no BS... I once read about an erbal thing from over seas that will re start or balance it all out it is supost to make you feel like the orgasem never ends. Is there realy somthing like this tha is safe to use and legal.
2006-09-27 05:35:15 · 16 answers · asked by tjshandave 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Who cares if it's legal? IS THERE SUCH A THING?
2006-09-27 05:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many times low sex drive is a sign that she is unhappy or distracted by something (work, kids, chores, etc).
Find the right relaxation techniques. Remember there is no set time limit on foreplay. And don't make one thing the "sign" for "I want sex." My husband gives me massages all the time. He knows they relax me. Sometimes he'll ask for sex and sometimes it's just a massage. Keeps me on my toes a bit. BUT, he knows NOT to ask until I'm relaxed already.
There are herbs available that are supposed to enhance the feelings. I don't know how safe they are (herbs and such labeled all natural are not required to be safety tested) so take them at your own risk.
Sometimes though, hormones are just not working right and she is likely just as frustrated as you are about it.
Finally though, do not make too big an issue out of it. The more frustrated you both become the more she'll concentrate on the fact that you AREN'T having the sex you want. And the worse it gets. Sometimes just taking a break helps. And some women never have the sex drive that men do.
2006-09-27 06:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by jenn_jenn02 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to be the one to tell you but for women sex must take place in the mind before the body ....Means if she is tired, pressured, stressed, thinking about all the demands put upon her during the day by work, home, children, husband, etc, the mind just aint in the mood to relax and play. The best way to change this is not an instant fix thru herbs,or drugs...that works for guys who have the mental interest but not the physical. Think long term investment. help her to relax, that means no whining about not getting sex! And if you do something nice, don't ruin it by asking if she's "in the mood now"? We look for the hidden stick whenever a man shows us a carrot. Take the pressure off her...sort of like she does on those nights when you can't get it up or *** too soon. It sure wouldn't help you to perform if she kept nagging you about it would it?
2006-09-27 10:06:29 · answer #3 · answered by arosehasthornns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is more to sex than having sex and being in the mood.
Often I am in t he mood, but I cant keep my mind on it. I am not with it and yes at time I let my hubby get on and do his business and get off or sometimes I just take matters into my own hands and get it over with.
There is more to priming the PUMP and gettin her wet.
With us women we cant just get in the mood as quick as you men can. We have athough process about it. If our bodies are ready for sex but our brains arent then we're not gonna enjoy sex.
Why use a drug when you can use your brain. Use your voice, your soft touch, play with her talk t o her find out what is bothering her.
If she cant talk to you about her feelings she is much more likely to be in the mood and enjoy herself.
There isnt anything YOU can do. A person's sex drive is their one high or low. Its usually a woman's horomones that can cause her to have a low sex drive. cant concentrate on sex when I am stressed out about the kids, groceries, bills, anything and I used to accuse my husband of being aperv for wanting to have sex all the time. He didnt want it all the time, but he wanted it 3 or 4 times a week. When he realized that when I am bothere about things, stressed out or just tired, I cant concentrate on sex and even if he got it it wasnt the same even for him. He felt like I was just there but that I wasnt enojying myself.. and I wasnt. I was giving him what he wanted.
There could be wide variety of things that are goin on with her.. your best best it to talk to her, and then go from there.
When a sex drive is induced with drugs and she is all hot and bothered its not really her its the drugs. I would stay away from the drugs if I were you as they cause people to act differently than normal.
2006-09-27 05:46:38 · answer #4 · answered by Shalamar Rue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say that there are a lot of products out there to get someone in the mood. But, why bother buy all that stuff.
Try role play, or keep it simple and do some foreplay. You'll be hot and wet and ready to go.
2006-09-27 05:39:44 · answer #5 · answered by Ange 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think women talk that way but at a certain time of making love the great feeling comes over us and we enjoy it too. I don't know about any herb that helps.
2006-09-27 05:38:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never heard of anything like that...I wouldn't trust it! Some women just have low sex drives at times...there really isn't a whole lot that can be done. It is very hard to get out of..but it is possible with lots and lots of work!
2006-09-27 05:37:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women, for whatever reason, view sex as a chore. They are unhappy with their bodies, don't feel attractive etc. Lots of foreplay can help as well as sexual enhancers. I don't know what you heard about, but there is a topical ointment called "Climatique" that works VERY well.
2006-09-27 05:39:15 · answer #8 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that if you find your woman's hot spots and us them then there be no question on the enjoyment or wanting more. There are a few things that even when I am mad that my husband can do that just makes me putty in his hands.
2006-09-27 06:05:59 · answer #9 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sigh..
what you need to do is worry more about pleasing her than pleasing yourself.. then that way she's going to enjoy it much more.. and probably want it more often..
my ex was always whining and begging me for sex.. and i was always like *sigh*.. pretend to sleep and i'd turn him down..
i wasn't enjoying it.. at all and it always seemed like work..
my new bf is an excellent lover.. :) and we always have a good time.. and i look forward to it more..
so look online at some tutorials or something for pleasing her.. and you'll probably notice a difference..
put her first for awhile and i'm sure you'll reap the benefits
2006-09-27 05:42:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women aren't switches you can just flick on and off. If your idea of sex is only for yourself, no wonder she can't turn ON given your fantastic attitude about women and their hormones.
2006-09-27 05:38:32 · answer #11 · answered by Equinox 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋