It's great that my husband works so much, however he forgets he has a wife and 2 teenage kids......to him taking care of kids is my job, his is to work and provide...........
Only problem is that I'm beginning to feel lonely and frustated as I spend alot of time home alone.................
2006-09-27 05:06:29 · 12 answers · asked by T 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband is the same way. I 've told him to spend more time with his family and he has tried to, but his work always comes first.
I have been lonely enough to think about cheating on him.
2006-09-27 05:11:13 · answer #1 · answered by G24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sleep alone nearly every night and am alone all evening (mines a 12 hour shifter). Lonely barely describes it.
Money is everything to a man, it is their way of judging each other and themselves on how well/much they provide. Maybe you should get one of you kids to give him a tape/cd of the country song - "The dollar"---- by Jamey Johnson
"mama tells her little man
your daddy’s got a job
and when he goes to work they pay him for his time
well the young boy gets to thinking
and he heads up to his bedroom
and comes running back with a quarter and four dimes
and says mama how much time will this buy me
is it enough to take me fishing or throw a football in the street
if I’m a little short then how much more does daddy need
to spend some time with me"
Give him a wake up call...
2006-09-27 12:13:57 · answer #2 · answered by someonefromsomewhere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate. I am not married. But let me explain. My father did the same thing to my mother and me and my brothers growing up. He worked so much that when he did have time off he was always grumpy. I was scared to go around him because he would yell at me or tell me to clean something. Now I am in a serious relationship with a man just like my dad. He's not quite as bad but he works all the time and I feel like I never see him. I told my bf that I don't a relationship like my parents. They don't really get along anymore because my mom resents that he's never around. Then my dad gets mad because my mom is bored and alone at home and goes out and spends his money.
My dad is trying to change but it's hard. He is starting a new job with his company that is less hours and less pay. I guess he realized that my mom was going to leave him if he didn't stop working so much. She tried to tell him so many times that the money didn't matter to her. But it took him until now to realize that. Now that I have moved out and I don't see him often, I know he misses me. He has told me before that he wishes he would've spent more time with me when I still lived at the house. I miss him too and some times I hate his job so much.
You should talk to your husband and tell him how you feel and hopefully he will understand.
2006-09-27 12:20:05 · answer #3 · answered by kristina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would describe myself as a compulsive worker as I have two jobs and attend two schools. My own situation is not to retire early but having to make ends meet for the mean time. Most women I meet have complained about the men they dated being lazy couch-bums. They meet a guy like me and they still complain about the fact that i work too much, but i guess there needs to be a balance. You know, men and women who put their spouses in second place need to realize that "anything" you put in priority before your spouse, regardless of whether human being or not, is a form of cheating because you are breaking your commitment of putting your spouse first. I hope to get a better paying job soon so I dont have to keep two and my wife and I can spend more time t'gether.
2006-09-27 13:59:44 · answer #4 · answered by Blk Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend that I have known for 7 years is like this. He works 2 hours away from home. Works about 50 hours a week there, M-Thurs, as a Senior Systems Engineer. Then F-Sun he works doing his own landscaping business. About a total of another 20 hours. We talk about it, and he just says he wants to retire early. We do spend time together but both of us would like more time to spend together. On top of that, he is currently married and getting a divorce, he spends his time he isn't working with me. I think after he is divorced finally things will change.
2006-09-27 12:11:57 · answer #5 · answered by darcilynn83 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no but i had a girlfriend that had a man like this and she ended up cheating on him because he was never there men that work alot have to understand time goes by so fast before you know it the kids are off to college and grown and they wont need you as much and then your wife she is there and will look into other things to keep her occupied whether its hanging out with girlfriends at the bar/club or another man
2006-09-27 12:12:52 · answer #6 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya i,m married to a man like that to. hes supposed to be off on thursday and sunday but goes in on sunday for the x-tra hours . i hardly ever see him. im starting to feel the same as you kind of lonely too
2006-09-27 12:12:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one on their death bed ever said, "Boy, I wish I'd spent more time at the office instead of with my family!" Tell him you all want him more than you want the "stuff or cash".... Teenagers may not say that, but they really do want him instead, no matter what they say.... :-)
2006-09-27 12:11:14 · answer #8 · answered by daj11551 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel, he may be thinking that he is sacrificing for his family and you are OK with it...
2006-09-27 12:08:56 · answer #9 · answered by LadyL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
work is where he goes to get away from ya'll.
2006-09-27 12:08:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋