If so, would like to hear how you are dealing /or have dealt with it. Thanks
2006-09-27 05:00:13 · 6 answers · asked by dry26 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know OF one person that is addicted to gambling. The husband is trying to save $$$$ for a divorce. In the meantime the wench is spending $300 a pop on scratch-offs.
It's pretty hard to have a relationship with anyone with an addiction.
You might find more peace of mind with someone with your values who does not have an addictive personality.
Many people that gamble do it til they are broke and then try to find other methods to do it regardless. Do you really want to do that the rest of your life? And what about your credit.
Whatever the addiction, they're very challenging to deal with AND they have to WANT to deal with it. If that is not in the immediate sights of your wife, then you're in for a really long haul.
All in all I realize they have a problem - but where is the honor in the relationship without the trust?
2006-09-27 05:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will only work if he admits he has a problem and seeks treatment to recover. Tough love on your part may push him over that edge. Step one is to close the joint bank account and tell him that he must go onto a budget. Don't give him any money intended for use in maintaining your household. Get a lock box for the credit cards, debit cards and checkbook. Keep them under lock and key and hide the key. Better yet, get one with a combination lock and don't tell him the combination. He needs to have absolutely NO way to access gambling money from your household budget or credit cards. At some point he'll hit rock bottom and realize he has a problem. If he doesn't and just goes ballistic over it then it's time to leave. In the meantime, you can't enable him in the least.
2016-03-18 01:56:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea, but were divorcing. Im sorry that is so hard to deal with. My husband is a sports gambler so actually does it at home and while I was in labor, he was betting on games in the delivery room and I swear it seemed more important. I dont know how to help really because I couldnt change it and if I tried he would just lie to me, so im leaving, its mostly the lying I cant deal with
2006-09-27 05:31:26 · answer #3 · answered by James 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't married to him but my ex common-law boyfriend was addicted to gambling. At the end, he racked up my credit cards to over $6000 and stole $3000 of my savings. I made a police report and have tried to personally find him but neither have worked. Hopefully he's dead. I'd suggest you don't allow him access to your credit cards and transfer all your personal savings into an account he doesn't know about. If he realizes he has a problem, suggest to him to go to a gambling addictions meeting. But cover your own butt and money first and worry about him after.
2006-09-27 05:06:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's usually a sign of a much deeper diagnosis. My ex-husband got into some serious gambling debt problems, but it moved onto other behaviors...addicted to porn, addicted to hoarding things, addicted to alcohol etc... The final diagnosis was bipolar. It's an awfully hard thing to deal with and it ended up ruining my marriage.
2006-09-27 05:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by WiserAngel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is ur spouse dont give him any sex ect till he or she stops tell him or her u r going to leave or be mean and sayhe hit u and thow him in jail naw just playing
2006-09-27 05:05:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yikes! No, thank goodness!
2006-09-27 05:01:28 · answer #7 · answered by ndtaya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋