Friday I was looking through my boyfriend save chats from his work Instant Messenger. In one of the chats he was talking with his buddy at work about another co-worker problem. His buddy was like the co-worker would never talk about his personal if my boyfriend ask. Then my boyfriend was like I never ask him about his personal life anyway unless it's about his sister. Then he told his buddy at work have you seen her. His buddy was like yea his sister is hot. My boyfriend was like h--- yea. Then his buddy was like does she have a boyfriend. Then my boyfriend said he never ask but one of the other guys at work ask her brother to hook them up. My boyfriend told his buddy at work if had to pick a girl out of line and he had to choose from the girls he work with everyday and the co-workers sister he would pick his sister 9 out of 10 times. Is this typical guy talk or is this something I should mad over?
2006-09-27 04:55:38 · 17 answers · asked by MiniMail 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just make sure he knows he ain't hiding it from you..that you know. Or make a comment similiar to him and see what kind of reaction you can get from him..If he gets upset then say well Mr. 9 times out of 10 I know you did the same thing.
2006-09-27 04:58:59 · answer #1 · answered by justwonderingwhatever 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Probably just guy talk. If you're really worried about it, you might want to take a good look at your relationship. If you're not secure enough with the relationship that he cannot talk with his buddies about how hot someone is, there may be other issues.
Personally, I have more of an issue with you going through his save chats. I'm hoping you have permission.
2006-09-27 05:02:02 · answer #2 · answered by wolvie145 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a bit of both. . .The person I am dating right now wouldn't do that if he was going to talk about another girl he would say it around me. On the other hand no matter what most guys will talk about other girls with there buddies but not mean it in any way that would hurt the relationship with you.
2006-09-27 05:00:59 · answer #3 · answered by Smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously is just begging for an ego-boost. He wants you to think he can get girls and that he is attractive. He just says those things because hes insecure with him self. Maybe try giving him an ultimatum, if he doesn't stop acting like a pig then you can find someone else who will respect you. (If you're willing to go through with it of course. ) BTW, you deserve better. Just sayin. d:
2016-03-27 13:37:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's guy talk and you know that you talk to your girlfriends about other hot guys besides your boyfriend too... So, just accept it's guy talk.. and why are you going through his stuff at work anyways? Evidently you're looking for something.. maybe you have a guilty consience? It seems harmless to me.. but you shouldn't be going through his stuff anyways.. that's a big trust issue and a BIG BIG no no!!! shame on you!!!
2006-09-27 05:04:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What matters is how he treats you. Does he value you? Does he say and do nice things for you? Does his behavior let you know that he wants to stay with you and won't abandon you for someone else? These things matter FAR more than if he gives a stray glance to some hot piece of ***.
2006-09-27 05:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its guy talk but you should be mad to know that he is attracted to someone else enough to talk about it to his buddy. How would he react if the shoe was on the other foot?
2006-09-27 05:08:46 · answer #7 · answered by HappyMama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should worry when he stops noticing attractive women. I've been married sixteen years and I'm still going to notice beautiful women. My wife notices beautiful women and comments to me about them. If you are in eight grade than maybe you can worry about it.
Secondly, your boyfriend is the one that ought to worry and be angry. What kind of deceitful, un-trusting girlfriend looks through her boyfriend's private conversations. He is your boyfriend, not your personal property.
2006-09-27 05:00:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men! I think they have to prove their masculinity non stop. You might turn the table and say "wow I saw this guy today that is HOT" and see how he takes it. Of course he did this when you were not around so he may get upset that you read his IM messages..........you never know with men. good luck though
2006-09-27 05:00:33 · answer #9 · answered by ladynamedjane 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just guy talk, and you shouldn't be snooping around on his saved chats. If you don't trust him, then what are you doing with him.
2006-09-27 05:28:08 · answer #10 · answered by bostonchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋