Ladies how many of you share personal details about your relationship with your closest friends? I have a best friend who doesn't find it odd to share things like how much they have sex, or how many times she has an orgasm, etc... However, when I don't ask or share back she says things like "come on it's just girl talk -- everybody does it".
2006-09-27 04:23:01 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not a girl, but let me caution you about sharing to many details. My fiance' is one of those very open and sharing kind of people and shares just about everything with a couple of her friends. Well, one friend in particular really liked the things she was hearing, like how I liked to perform orally on her how long I would stay down, how long I lasted, how she was able to have multiple orgasms with me, and other details. Her friend started to wonder what it was like to have all of this and began to ask me a lot of questions when my fiance' was not around. Before long, she was getting very forward until she finally asked me if I would spend the night with her one night when she knew my fiance' would be out of town for two nights on business. I told her I was flattered, but also faithful and the sex to me was emotional as well as physical and that is why we were so good together. That just seemed to make her want it more and she started grabbing and touching... Bottom line, my fiance' created a desire in someone else by telling her too many details of our love life and it became a problem...
2006-09-27 04:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah... I do talk about some things about my relationships... and sometimes ask for advice if we are having a problem, but I have no need to give explicit details about sexual endeavors and the like.. no one really want to hear it and I don't want to tell it.
I have been on the receiving end before though.. I had a guy - not a female friend... a close guy friend.. who actually wanted to date me for a while.. but after I finally (It took a while) convinced him that we would ALWAYS be just friends... He went out and started sleeping with... well it seemed like everyone! Each time he would, he would call me up and try to give me the details.. Shocked.. I would say something like "Sounds great! Good for you!" and change the situation as quickly as possible.. Well he finally found an actual girlfriend and we lost contact for a little bit.. When we did get back in touch, he was excited to try to give me an exact play by play of their sexual exploits... I finally had had enough and had to yell at him that I was glad he was happy but I didn't need to nor wanted to hear the details. He was surprised.. He had found it just a nice thing to share between friends.. I was apalled that he thought his girlfriend wouldn't mind him sharing this with his female friend and that he hadn't realized how strange that would make me feel. Anyway... he finally got the message and now we are finally friends who don't divulge each other with our respective sex-life stories..
Just explain to her that you aren't comfortable discussing those kinds of things and that you are happy she is being satisfied but you would like to be a friend who is out-of-the-loop when it comes to explicit details...
Good luck! Hopefully she will respect how you feel and move on to other topics..
2006-09-27 04:50:50 · answer #2 · answered by River 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sharing the fact that she's gay is a good thing. That's what friends do. Sharing the info that she has a partner & even a little bit about their life is fine BUT there are definitely more appropriate people for her to discuss physical female issues with. I suggest doing something silly like putting your fingers in your ears & exclaiming, "Too Much Information!". She should get the hint & probably a laugh, too. BTW, I find it a little odd that you consider someone you only see at work as a "very close friend".
2016-03-27 13:34:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think women do this way, way too much. And you think that men exchange this type of detail in the locker room...surprise, my friends don't really care how many orgasms I had last week.
So take a page out of the Male play book and talk about something more meaningful, like sports.
2006-09-27 05:20:45 · answer #4 · answered by Luis LU 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't share that much with friends - anymore. I used to...but all it takes is one fight and your friend hates the guy for life, and then she doesn't want to hear about him at all. I have a girlfriend who lives out of state and she NEVER tells me anything about her husband - no sex stories, nothing. And I don't ask.
It's always best to keep your personal life to yourself -- people really don't want to know.
2006-09-27 04:26:58 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when your friend starts to talk about her sex life, you should just say, hey, that's a little too much information. I really don't want to hear that! (Look of repulsion) If she wants you to share information, just say "that's personal". People who talk too much about their sexperiences generally, in reality, don't have all that great of ones. Hopefully she'll get the drift. If not, why hang with someone who makes you feel uncomfortable?
2006-09-27 05:22:23 · answer #6 · answered by Oh Wise One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah - we do share - i think it's a new era for women - only men would do that years ago - now women are worse than men-i do not give every detail, but enough for them to get my drift - i was with a man the other nite & he was asking me not to go & tell all my girlfriends - the tables have turned!!
2006-09-27 04:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My two best friends know most details about me and my husbands sex. I know it IS immature, but I have been friends with them since we were small kids. It just seems to be talked about.
2006-09-27 04:27:46 · answer #8 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she really might be lonley and looking for attention, or maybe she is insecure in her relationship and needs justification that her friends are doing the same.
2006-09-27 04:28:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how personal and private you are. If you feel like sharing, go for it
2006-09-27 04:47:49 · answer #10 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋