couple that has been together for 7 years whether living together or not living together. I have read answers that those that are married get more respect from the public than a couple that has been together for a long time but not married.(we have together for 7 years and not living together)I prefer not to married at this time in my life but I was wondering what the public thinks of the couple.
2006-09-27 04:14:36 · 30 answers · asked by foxyraley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I wouldn't call it respect, but from my personal opinion, I think unmarried couples are sometimes smarter. They obviously love one another and want to be together, but are smart enough to wait for the right time or just wait to make sure they should be together, so that they don't marry and have to get divorced. I repect couples that have been together for a long time before they get married than one's that rush into it, because it seems to me they would get divorced less because they have most likely already gone through all the problems a couple experiences and made it through and are still together. I say, do what you want, it's your life and don't worry about what other's think. Everyone has their own reasons for doing things the way they do it, but I definitly would respect you because like you said, you would prefer not to marry at this time. So do what you want, and don't worry about others.
2006-09-27 04:22:44 · answer #1 · answered by neelc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people would think, Why are they waiting to get married? Something must be wrong with them. If you have been together for 7 years you know each other. If it is not working by now say good bye and quit wasting your time.
What respect are you looking for. Married couples have made a commitment to each other. I respect that. Just dating after seven years seems kind of odd. Seem like he is getting all the benefits of that relationship.
If a couple is living together they get no respect from me. I blame the girl for that. She is giving it away and what is she getting.
2006-09-27 04:22:10 · answer #2 · answered by iknow316brunc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a couple for a long time and not being married is weird for some people. People assume that since you have been together for a long time then you should be married, its like the ultimate goal for some. Married couples do get more respect because that is what society puts in our heads.
My take - once you are with the person and you love them & you are happy then thats all that matters. Some married couples just do it for society and they are not even really happy.
2006-09-27 04:21:34 · answer #3 · answered by RACQUEL 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have more respect for a married couple, because they have made a public commitment to each other and taken vows. It is also the best thing to do if you want kids. I may be a bit old fashioned but I believe that marriage should be the norm for family life, not all this living together lark.
2006-09-27 04:23:14 · answer #4 · answered by The BudMiester 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as I get respect in return, It doesn't matter to me whether a couple is married or just living together. As long as they don't care what oher people think abd are happy, its their life, not ours. We shouldn't judge someone on their marital situation, its just not fair. What if the couple enjoys being together, but still enjoys the freedom of not having that piece of paper saying that if something goes wrong they have to get a divorce, rather than just go their own ways?
Personally, I am married, andhave been for 5 years now, but it was more economically feasible for my husband and I to get married rather than live together while dating and seeing each other.
Everyone is different.
hope this helps.
2006-09-27 04:20:01 · answer #5 · answered by Genny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An unmarried couple is taken less seriously than a couple who has openly been willing to commit to one another. You might feel committed, but in the eyes of the public, either of you can walk away at any moment, so there is not as much of am impression of commitment. In general, the public does have much less respect for an unmarried couple who's shacked up or making babies. It's just playing family instead of committing to one another and being a family.
2006-09-27 04:19:26 · answer #6 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife's uncle has been in an unmarried relationship for many years, but I still respect him a lot.. I believe that monogomy is very important, but the act of marriage is not always essential as long as the couple is 100% committed to staying together..
the actual marriage ceremony did not come from God, it was an invention by man.. of course by going through the ceremony you are making a public declaration of your committment to each other, so in that sense it's still important.. but if a couple can stay faithful to each other forever, then I believe the marriage ceremony isn't absolutely necessary..
the danger is that relationships take work and committment and if people don't make public vows then they're not going to be as likely to try and work things out.. I know a lot of Christians will disagree with me, but if you think about it, the actual marriage ceremony did not come from God..
2006-09-27 04:21:37 · answer #7 · answered by Byakuya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you live together long term you should get married.
What is the reason people dont get married after living together for so long? its simple COMMITMENT all different excuses are used like we cant afford it, and havent got round to it but it if i was living with some one for a long time and they wouldn't marry me then i would move on. As for respect its nothing to do with any one else its having respect for yourself that matters.
2006-09-27 04:19:32 · answer #8 · answered by sarah l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a great institution. When I look at unmarried couples, I wonder what's keeping them from getting married, but I never have less respect for them.
2006-09-27 04:18:37 · answer #9 · answered by mr curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really dont get the publics perception on this topic....
A "couple" is a duo..two...
Are we not told it is best to judge each person (one)..on their own merits....
I am 55 y.o. and I treat my friends as seperate identities..They have husbands or boyfriends, sure, but they too are respected by me as individuals....
As for that piece of paper....it doesnt matter, you have committed yourself to being loyal, love and respect that other person in your life...It is the same if you dont have that paper....Just love and respect each other and dont listen or care what others think....
You cant change a persons thinking...so why bother, just be happy....good luck to you both...have a long, happy life together..
2006-09-27 04:22:28 · answer #10 · answered by ozzy chik... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋