couple that has been together for 7 years whether living together or not living together. I have read answers that those that are married get more respect from the public than a couple that has been together for a long time but not married.(we have together for 7 years and not living together)I prefer not to married at this time in my life but I was wondering what the public thinks of the couple.
2006-09-27 04:14:17 · 15 answers · asked by foxyraley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is 2006, Only the fanatically conservative would "Respect" a 'married' couple more than a committed ,unmarried couple.Further ,once married (especially w/ kids) one has a "gun" to their head to stay in the relationship or suffer the consequences, financial ,social etc. I personally would have much more respect for a couple who is together by choice,than a couple together because the consequences of splitting are too much to bear.
2006-09-27 04:55:45 · answer #1 · answered by Hammer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The ones that probable will not respect unmarried couples would be from the old days, and still believe in the old ways. Where some even had an arrange marriage. And they believed to stay in a marriage no matter what. Or because one got pregnant (aka shot gun wedding).
But now we are living in the year 2006, where the times change and some women are in control. I have respect for couples that are not married. Because I once was one until May this year. My husband and I dated for 4 years before we both was ready to get married. I believe its best to get to know the person first (no matter how long it takes). Make sure you have what it takes to keep a mar rage going for years to come. I know two couples that dated for a couple of months got marriage because they didn't want to live together until than. Today one of them are about to end as we speak. And the other one didn't last a year.
But before you take the next step in the relationship. Make sure your getting married for the right reasons, and not because someone dose not respect you and your lover.
2006-09-27 04:56:44 · answer #2 · answered by erilso 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes married couples get more respect, because it is more socially acceptable to be married after a certain period of time. I am not saying that is is right to do this.I think that a couple should be together long enough to be absolutely positive that they will remain married once they decided to do that. I think that if more people payed more attention to their relationship and making it work for all parties involved then maybe the divorce rate would be less, which raises another question.........does society have more or less respect for divorced people? You can argue that one the same way, but if we all just took more time to get to know our potential mate before running down the isle, then I think it would be less of an issue.
2006-09-27 04:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a valuable institution. it provides an emotionally stable situation to raise children. marriage for all intent and purpose is a contract, it is a committment to love, honor and cherish your partner. While unmarried couples may say they are "committed" fact is they are not. At the drop of a hat one could leave without recourse.
Marriage is a social contract, it give spouses legal rights not afforded to non-married couples.
Committment for a "lifetime" is implied with marriage, although the divorce rate due to no-fault divorce doesn't bear that out well.
That said, my wife and I intend to be partners for life. We have hiccups. Children in unmarried couples tend to have statistically higher levels of emotional anxiety due to the fluidity of relationship. Marriage is a rock for children to anchor to.
There are many times over the last 17 yrs of my marriage had the committment not been there either one of us would have left and put the kids life in total disarray.
2006-09-27 04:33:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. And here's why: Because an unmarried couple really has no staying power. It's really illusory. If a couple is married, it takes a great deal of effort to get divorced. However, one member of an unmarried couple just needs to throw his/her possessions into the car and find a new apartment.
And, basically, if you're not committed enough to go through a ceremony, then you're not committed. So why should you expect anybody to respect your relatiionship?
2006-09-27 05:03:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, married couples get more respect because they made their commitment official. Unmarried couples just look like they're waiting around for a better person. If you really love someone, why can't you marry them?
2006-09-27 04:21:47 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it is more respectful to be married. I don't think that dating and NOT living together is disrespectful though. Why is this? Me personaly, I was raised with this mind set. Things like this are instilled at an early age and it is hard to change that mind set.
2006-09-27 04:19:30 · answer #7 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes married couple will obviously get more respect, personally as long as you respect the person you with, its all good.
2006-09-27 04:43:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well legally you would get more respect from the law incase you two should separate.
Why play house.it's not cool now a days.
The ole sayin is why buy the cow an get the milk free.
I would not look at you any less though.just keeping it real.
2006-09-27 04:21:53 · answer #9 · answered by MISSY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares what others think,I have been with my boyfriend for 6 yrs and have a child and I'm glad I'm not getting married because I made it that way for a reason.
2006-09-27 04:29:18 · answer #10 · answered by ///\oo/\\\ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋