Married for 6 yrs now and heard from a best friend of my wife's(yeh, just who I wanted to hear this from!) that I'm apparently "uncomfortable". The wife's always been very distant when it comes to sex, but to find out this may be one of the reasons is just killing me. I mean how can I possibly fix an unfixable problem ?? Ok, and by the way, I am in no way huge. I'd say the larger side of normal(if that makes any sense,lol). If anything, maybe she's just naturally small/tight down there. I always take it easy and am never the "jackhammer" type. So now what ???
2006-09-27 04:03:07 · 21 answers · asked by Lexington 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
LUBRICANT and FORePLAY
2006-09-27 04:05:46 · answer #1 · answered by mizsinister 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem may not be the size unless it's length not girth you're referring to. If it's length, don't go so deep. It only goes so far, it's not the never ending tunnel of love.
If it's girth..... Are you doing your part to turn her on too, or is it more of a Wham Bham Thank You Mam kind of thing? If she's really not into it, then her vaginal muscles are not going to stretch properly and won't get lubricated enough and sex becomes uncomfortable. After 6 years, she should be used to your size even if you were huge. I would think that it has more to do with a mental issue as far as sex is concerned. Does she feel loved by you? Do you touch her just because, hold her hand, hug her, rub her back or do you only touch her in a sexual manner, grab her butt, or her breasts? It sounds like there's something else besides the size issue going on. I would talk to her.
2006-09-27 04:15:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What is too big? is there such a thing? I'd rather see big then small, but maybe you should sit down with your wife and talk to her and see why she is uncomfortable, maybe she just doesn't like the faces you make.. or she may not want it when you want it and you need to be more romantic and get her fired up before just going for it.
2006-09-27 04:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by kalynn h 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've been with a man who was a little bit too much for my taste way before i was married and was very uncomfortable so I never went there again, took awhile to recover like giving birth. But now again I'm in the same situation, my husband is also "big" and we just have adjusted to using different positions that's comfortable to me and he takes it easy,we use a lot of lube,and he stimulates me before sex so that I'm turned on so much that I just loosen up.And it make things easier on me,but from time to time I have to soak in a hot bath afterward much to his ego.
2006-09-27 04:28:24 · answer #4 · answered by attheendofmyrope 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well for a start it sounds like your wife was 'in the wrong' to not have told you that you're "uncomfortable". First of all you need to talk to her about it.
Physical advice? Positions like her on top so she gets to choose how deep/shallow you go so you don't hurt her. And you can take it in consideration too when it's your decision.
Good luck.
2006-09-27 04:16:50 · answer #5 · answered by RSJ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just make her feel comfortable, don't go all the way in and keep it slow then she'll take the lead hopefully all you can do is try. If not then talk to her about it and find out what way is more comfortable for her you don't want her to lose intrest
2006-09-27 04:07:09 · answer #6 · answered by beachluver1432 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not to brag but thats how my husband is and it can almost make sex unenjoyable cuz ur in pain lol...seriously or bleeding..maybe she has a smaller tighter area as well these are all factors....i dont know what helps..lots of lubrication.......at first he killed me!! it was awful and everyones like u shud be so happy and im like yeah but ouch
2006-09-27 04:16:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well my ex hubby was too big and it often made me uncomfortable. But i say that from past exp that bigger isnt better.....i like them that know what there doing not just thinking they can cause of the size of there package..
2006-09-27 04:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by southernfancymom 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yep and I rode it all night long,on the other hand I did get with this guy once that was too little,I mean it had to be like an inch,it was funny cause he asked me to suck it and I couldn't help myself,I said ok let me go get the magnifying glass,he got pissed but I got dressed lol
2006-09-27 04:32:25 · answer #9 · answered by ///\oo/\\\ 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
dude they make these doughnut things similar to baseball bat swinging weights that u put around your thing and it prevents you from going all the way in thus not hurting here oh yeah eat her out first then lube then the doughnut thing sold at many fine adult shops
2006-09-27 04:07:28 · answer #10 · answered by luis_11211 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My guy is too big too! He's not HUGE or anything, either. Women are just made differently, I suppose. Just try not to go so deep unless she initiates it!
2006-09-27 04:09:43 · answer #11 · answered by "B" 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋