2006-09-27 03:56:41 · 23 answers · asked by Marianne not Ginger™ 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I've never been afraid to love someone. Love, by my definition, is an optimistic endeavor, and should never be entered into with fear or foreboding. That would cloud and foreshadow events to come. Granted, I'm not naive enough to think that "Love" is not going to have its moments of pain...in fact that's almost a certainty. But I won't ever stop myself from loving completely and honestly because I fear what the future might bring.
"The one thing we can never get enough of is love. And the one thing we never give enough is love." Henry Miller
2006-09-27 04:45:36 · answer #1 · answered by gotalife 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Yes, sure have. I now know that I may not be as ready for a relationship as I thought I was. So, I would hesitate to get into anything that may lead in that direction. Although I can't help but think that this is the wrong way to live, always guarded and never taking a chance on love. But that has always been one of my character traits; worrying about the other person's feelings. At times I need to be more concerned with my feelings and may be best for me. I hope that doesn't make me sound selfish.
2006-09-28 09:53:32 · answer #2 · answered by Diesel Weasel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's cliched as all hell to say so, but love is like a rose - beauty and softness and wonder all combined with thorns that'll bleed the unwary.
There'll always be some level of pain in love - without it, love is a bland sweet blanket that covers the everyday world without meaning much at all. Never let the grayness of fear defeat the blood that pulses thoughts of love through the heart, never dare stop and pause to think of tomorrow when love stirs. Pain will be what it will be, and if love is to be your gift, and pain along with it, lovers till the end of time will tell you, sing you, poetically teach you to grasp the rose with both hands, bleed while you can, and give love and pain both as you must - there's not a romantic born who would ever prefer not to have been loved because of the pain the love ultimately caused them.
I've been afraid to love, afraid to cause pain to one I cared for. Ultimately, it's only half your decision. Love is trust, in yourself and the other. Often it is the beloved who has to say "Love me. If there is pain, I will take it, for the value that is in your love while it is mine". It's natural to be afraid. But ultimately, love is more powerful than any pain.
2006-09-28 00:53:02 · answer #3 · answered by mdfalco71 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
great story, madamjenn40!
I don't think I have ever been afraid of loving someone because I may or may not hurt them. However, if I *was* afraid my love would hurt someone, I probably wouldn't "act" on the emotion.... although it would be very difficult since love is an extention of the heart and very hard to just ignore. Fear or no fear, love is a tricky emotion that will remain even if you don't want it to.
2006-09-27 11:38:31 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Sky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a difficult question to answer because being afraid of something like love doesn't mean that you excercise any control over it. At the risk of sounding like a fatalist , like many people, I am incapable of choosing who I will fall in love with; it's not happened too often, but when it does, fear does not really enter into the decision making process, because the ability to make decisions based on logic, is subjugated by the falling in love itself.
All that said, my opinion means nothing when placed next to a story as utterly romantic as Madamjenn40's. She's got my vote for BA! Muchly!
2006-09-28 05:08:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been afraid to love for lots of reasons. Most of them associated to past experiences. That aside I think a valuable lesson can be learned from peanut butter and jelly. If peanut butter had been afraid to mingle with jelly we'd never have discovered the best sandwich in the whole wide world.
2006-09-27 14:35:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I feel that, sometimes, I carry way too much of the past with me and that I am too messed up to have someone else in my life. I feel that I would get in the way of their progress and I don't want to hurt anymore. If that means being alone, then I will do that. I just can't stand the thought of hurting anyone. I know that I can't give fully of myself, that is unfair to anyone in any relationship. So, I become a bystander and watch all the people around me. I have become a student of life.
2006-09-28 09:49:59 · answer #7 · answered by The Y!ABut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Falling in love can both reason the suitable damage or the suitable delight. it somewhat is often one in each of both extremes. in accordance to how intense you're and the way intense the diverse guy or woman is, the barriers you've set for one extra, and all of that, you're waiting to make it an outstanding problem or an gruesome heartbreak. yet once you do hit upon the suitable one, it somewhat is going to be all perfect nicely actually worth the wait and the outstanding feeling you get will hide over all of your previous hurts <3
2016-11-24 22:19:31 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely ... without a doubt. You took the words right out of my mouth. I've tried throwing caution to the wind and giving some love anyway. Doesn't usually work out too well. Maybe I'm just different.
2006-09-27 17:13:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have kidney problems and when I met my fiance', I was losing my second kidney. I did not want him to see me go through the dialysis, or possibly watch me die. So I tried leaving him at the time. He fought to stay with me, he moved with me out of his home state, he told me he wouldn't let anything happen to me and he didn't. He ended up being a perfect match and gave me one of his kidneys!
I am great full for him everyday and now I am able do things with him, I know he will always be by my side. He literally gave me life!
2006-09-27 04:08:55 · answer #10 · answered by madamjenn40 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋