I just found out my husband had an affair. He tells me now that they are just friends. The things that she does and the way he reacts to anything dealing with her suggest that they are still fooling around. My husband has sworn that they are not involved in that way anymore. Can I believe him, should I trust him? Why if they are not involved anymore why won't she just leave him alone and let him be with me and our daughter? She is making our life a living hell. What can I do to make her leave and for him to pay more attention to me and my daughter? Please help I don't know what to do. I love my husband very much but as long as she is around we can not have a normal relationship the way we used to. What should I do?????
2006-09-27 03:54:34 · 13 answers · asked by mla_forver 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you cant be friends with someone after this happens and if he really wanted her to leave him alone, then he could get his point across to her. im not saying they are still involved but out of respect for his wife he shouldn't have any more contact with her. if u tell him this is hurting u then that should be enough said for him to stop it. only once in a while will a girl keep after a guy without any encouragement from the guy. since u say hes still friends with her, id say he still wants his foot in the door. if not her then with the next girl. u have a daughter together and u obviously still love the jerk so tell him go to marriage counseling or move on. u will find out how serious he is about saving the marriage very quickly.
2006-09-27 04:07:38 · answer #1 · answered by skylinbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you sound like a nice sincere person, I would put my foot down. No matter how hard it is I would let him no. No more her. for one your married, for two, your husband should no better and cut off all relationships with her. If your husband no's it bothers you he shouldnt be with her either. Tell your husband that you no longer can handle the contact between them whether is verbal or not. Tell him its ruining your feelings in the relationship
2006-09-27 04:02:58 · answer #2 · answered by browndog513 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm getting so emotional, each and anytime i imagine of GCG. And through emotional, I mean i'd not dare defile his holy call. I worry being cut back, and the MaryJo Buttafucco look only would not paintings for me!
2016-11-24 22:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all I'm married with 2 kids. I don't think its right for him to have her as a friend. girls are evil sometimes and that's the truth they don't care if the guy is married all the guy needs to say is that he's not happy with his wife and there goes that other girl to the rescue! I think that he's still cheating & I know that you dont want to know! if you feel deep down inside that he's up to no good girl your right he isnt! always go with what you think and feel. because for some reason we always come out to be right! also another thing to do is pray to god and ask him to help you and give you the strength to be strong not only for you but for your lil one!!
2006-09-27 04:18:31 · answer #4 · answered by PRI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you never really ad a relatonship with him because most of it was base on a lie.
common do you think she's calling him for anything?
i think he kept her hanging on in case you take off.
i need to be responsible for is action and expect that the
trust don't come back overnight.if he does'nt make you feel
more secure it's because he does'nt want to.
maybe he stay for the children,and do yourself a big favor
and don't stay anywere for the seak of the children because they reflect on us and if we are happy then they will be.
remember stand up for you no one will
you know what?why don't you confront her without telling
i think the other version will help you to know him better
isabelle
isabelle
2006-09-27 04:26:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave his sorry butt.He should have never cheated in the first place.He sees that you are letting him get by with this, and he'll keep on doing it with her or somebody else.You are setting yourself up for even a bigger fall when it is all said and done. Think about you and your daughter.Neither one of you have to put up with this.I know you love him but do you think you can handle sharing him with other women? I know I couldn't.
2006-09-27 04:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is start blaming your husband for this. No you shouldn't trust him. Why would he have any reason to have any contact with her. He keeps doing it because your letting him. He got away with it once he'll do it again.
2006-09-27 03:58:02 · answer #7 · answered by marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rent the movie Fatal Attraction or Unfaithful. Make your husband watch it with you. They're pretty good movies. Maybe the movies will give you some ideas.
2006-09-27 03:56:57 · answer #8 · answered by denverbroncos1973 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheated before, what's going to stop him from doing it again? I would divorce him. Cheating is not reconcilable in my book. Once the trust is gone, I don't get it back. Move on.
2006-09-27 03:56:49 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him...You are stupid for putting up with his crap!!! Better yet, if you stay with him, then you deserve the hell you are putting yourself through.
Another option...give him an option...you or her. You might not like the answer, but at least you can move on with your life.
Best of luck!!!
2006-09-27 04:09:35 · answer #10 · answered by Hopie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋