What do you men think???

Question

My husband is always pissed at me anymore. Nothing I do is good enough for him. When he is angry he tells me I am a worthless *****. This morning he told me it would hurt his feelings at all to see me walk out the door and never come back.

An hour later he said he was just angry, and was calm now. "That's all the apology your getting" He blames me for everything that goes wrong (ex: car brakes go out, I barely avoid a wreck: MY FAULT) Do you think he means it when he says he hates me or that he loves me??? Do all men treat women this way?

Answer 1

First of all, based on what you have said, this is not normal. Whether he loves you or not is not a question we can answer. All I can tell you is that there is a problem. I think one of two things is likely. Either, as you said he doesn't love your, or, I think, the more likely problem is that he is having emotional/mental issues. I have occasionally, and unfortunately, actually acted like your husband toward my wife (although maybe not the same degree). It really had nothing to do with her. I think that I get depressed and along with it comes anxiety and rage. I tend to have episodes where if I get stressed out I lose my cool and I get mad about everything, nothing could be done right by my wife. I'm reading a self help book which has helped quite a bit. I will say the one thing that sounds the most concerning to me, however, is his lack of remorse. When I do the above, I know I was a total ahole, and I'm very apologetic. My wife knows what mental issues I'm going through and she doesn't like it but she knows I'm trying to improve and she tolerates it. However, the line you said about him saying this is the apology you get, kind of just makes it sound like maybe he's just a mean jerk.

So I guess the bottom line is, its hard to say. If this is a new behavior perhaps something is wrong. If its old behavior I'd say he's probably just a jerk.

Good luck, hope I helped a little.

Answer 2

No all men do not treat their wives this way.That sounds really mean.I hate it for you.I hope that no matter what you will be able to stand and not treat him the same way hes treating you.Maybe you have to be his example but that not really the way it should be.A man should be the example and set the tone for the rest of the family and be the guide.My husband is the head of the household and i am so glad that he follows the CREATOR instead of the vanity of his imagination.I would be in a bad way if he just decided that his way was the right way instead of following the ways of the CREATOR.I have never met a man like him.He is so virtuous and so good to me and our 4 little girls.I thank the CREATOR for him.Men and women these days do allot of men pleasing instead of CREATOR pleasing and that is where they go astray.I hope he will decide to do the right thing for you all as a family.

Answer 3

This man has some BIG ANGER ISSUES and self esteem problems. You both need to go counseling...now. He sounds controling and has already proven to be verbally, psychologically, and emotionally ABUSIVE. I hope there are no children involved. He has you wondering whether he loves you or not....is that right? Get to counseling , go by yourself if he won't go...the professional help will guide you and show you how to deal with his behaviour. And no, all men, most definitely DO NOT treat women this way. His father, guaranteed, treated his mother this way and either he(your husband) was abused or his mother was..... or probably both. SEEK HELP NOW!

Answer 4

No, all men don't act this way, your husband just needs some counseling. You have to realize and understand that it is not you. Next time he tell you that it wouldn't hurt his feelings at all to see you walk out of the door, walk out of the door and just disappear for about two days and see what happens. He is a jerk and he is taking you kindness for a weakness.

Answer 5

When i read posts like this one... its hard to decide if your husband has the problem (because he's an ***) or if you have the bigger problem for tolerating it.

WHY are you tolerating it? This is a controll issue, plain and simple! And you are allowing it to happen!
NO; all men dont treat women this way.....only when you LET THEM.

You have 2 choices... Tell him if he is that miserable to GO. Or if "it wouldnt hurt his feelings if you left" then you go!

I'll never understand why people allow partners to treat them like crap! The sex can NOT be that good!

Answer 6

Speaking from experience, GET OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP!! My ex was Exactly the same way. He is mentally abusing you if you realize it or not. He is doing more harm to you than you think he is. Mine started out that way and ended up with him trying to kill me for no reason when I was pregnant with HIS baby. Just because he was "Angry" If you need any type of support, girl call me on me. What starts out little can become major without you even knowing it. Hang in there.
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Answer 7

That behavior is not normal or acceptable. Life is way too short to allow that kind of treatment to continually happen to you, unless you manage to accept it (like the other faults or blemishes we all have) and be happy with the overall relationship you have.

People the act this way are insecure, and find faults in others to detract from their perceptions of their own short comings...

Answer 8

Your husband is being verbally abusive. The next time he calls you a ********** , tell him that he needs to seek professional help. And he's probably not really angry with you, he's just taking it out on you, because if he takes it out at work, he could be fired or reprimanded.

Answer 9

No, not all men and not even most verbally abuse their wives like your husband is doing to you. He's very mean, manipulative and childish. Decide to stand mentally strong and not be effected by his words anymore: that is how you deal with a controlling, immature bully, right?

Answer 10

You have a verbally abusive guy there! No, he doesn't love you. Would you treat someone you loved this way? Leave now, this is only going to get worse. And no, all men DON'T.