is it hard to cope as a lone parent at the age of 21?

Answer 1

Yes babe it is hard, not impossible mind, but hard......I have been a single parent since aged 24 my baby is 6 now.....I would not have had it any other way.

It was very hard adjusting to being responsible for a baby and not being able to come and go as i had pleased before...finances are hard, you'll be emotionally f.ucked but believe me every morning i woke up to my kid it was worth it.
Some days are worse than others, so it's like being on a roller coaster...but the minute they start to smile, say their first words, take first steps, tell you they love you......you'll melt and wonder how you filled your time before you had them..

But dont do this by choice, I hada very good family round me, things could have been alot worse.......try and live your life a little bit before having kids....but if you alone and pregnant...it's not the end of the world...as my mum says 'your not the first and you wont be the last'....You'll manage i'm sure. Good luck, my love. x

Answer 2

Its hard to cope as a single parent no matter what the age. That's the benefit of a stable marriage, two people to do the work instead of one.

Children take a lot of time, commitment, and work. As a single parent you are left with all the work and very little time. I don't care if you are talking about preparing meals, doing laundry, attending school functions, or anything else.

Having a job 8 to 5 and then coming home to a harder job is not easy.

Answer 3

Ive no kids but I certainly think it would be!
21 is an age where you should be enjoying yourself - socialising with friends/starting work/forming relationships that kinda thing!
my sister is 37 and I see her at breaking point with her two kids at times - shes a full time mum and with the support of a husband - they're a handful and to imagine a 21 year old trying to cope with a child single handedly is very hard to imagine.
obviously if you have the support of a family behind you it should make it that bit easier - buts its not a situation Id choose for myself

Answer 4

I was a lone parent at 21 and im still a lone parent at 39,no matter what age its very hard emotionally and finacially,i work but after my rent ,council tax,pocket money ,dinner money and anything else the kids need i have less that £200 and that is to last a whole month.I never buy myself new anything as my kids have to come first ,i have one pair of jeans to my name and one pair of boots.I have not been out socially for over 2 years i cant afford it i dont drink i dont smoke,i go to bed early to save electric,i eat one meal a day,I know im going on but this is what its like,if your thinking of becoming a lone parent dont or if theres chance you could be do something to prevent it,wait until you meet someone who wants to share that responsibility with you,its tough going it alone.

Answer 5

i had 2 at 21
and i coped fine i had help when i needed it which wasnt often im 26 now and have 3 kids and still im doing fine from when i had my 1st till then i was a lone parent and i did find it hard at times and i no i will in the future i just think i was the one who had my children and they deserve the best it keeps me going seeing their smiley faces when we do stuf together
a lot of people moan about lone parents but to be honest there are parents out there who are total loosers with or without the back up of a partner

Answer 6

yes very...at the age of 27 i had 3 kids one was 5 and the other 2 were younger...i was going through a horrible divorce at the time, he's just took off and left me to it...i raised my kids alone until they were at an age where they didn't need me to be there 24/7, take it from someone who knows...if you are thinking of having a child without being with the father, plan ahead first....make sue you are financially secure, because babies dont come cheap..it's very hard, you cant always get a sitter, you feel very lonely and isolated...kids are a joy to have but raising one alone is not easy...re-consdier having kids until you have stability and a partner who will support you 100%, dont do it alone...thats if your planning to go it alone, i would strongly advise against it...theres alot of single mums out there now who are not coping, and it is very hard by yourself...you lose touch with yourself because everything evolves around the child....

Answer 7

I've always been a single parent. It wasn't as hard as I thought it would be. But it's not that easy either. Age really doesn't matter.
It's easier if you have help from your family. Grandma's are good for free baby sitting. Just don't abuse the free baby sitting services. Sometimes I wish I could go do the things I used to do and not have a care in the world. But then I wouldn't have my son. I really couldn't imagine not having him around.

Answer 8

Being an "alone" parent at any age is dificult, period. It is doubly hard when someone lacks the maturation and life skills at 21. If possible, join classes and read books on parenting skills..the best thing, though, is to bring your child up with lots and love , care and use common sense when it comes to safety issues. Having some sort of network of friends and family to help and assist you, will most definitely help.

Answer 9

Coping as a single parent is tough at any age. I hope that you have the support of family and friends. Good Luck

Answer 10

Being a single parent is hard at any age, but the younger you are, (it seems) the harder it is. You're not likely to be able to support a child as you could if you've had the education behind you (like college) or have a career established. It's very, VERY difficult, but you can do it. People do it everyday.