Can an 18 and 47 Y.O. work?!?

Question

I'm 18 and have been dating my boyfriend (who is 24) for almost a year and I love him very very much.

But he's been distant lately and I feel lonely. I've been flirting with this customer that comes into the restaurant often (I'm a waitress). He overheard me telling a coworker about my boy troubles and said "Stop dating that little boy and get with a man."

He is 47 and very handsome. He can offer me so much.

Should I give it a go with this older gentleman, or try to sort things out with my current bf?

When I first started dating my BF I was concerned about the 6 year age gap. It took me a while to get over.

With this 47 year old, for some reason I'm not concerned at all. It's meant to be I think.

*Sry I just realized my info was wrong, forgot about recent birthdays!

I'm 19 now, my boyfriend is soon to turn 25.

Answer 1

ok, well....
there is a 27 year difference between your ages, and you haven't even been alive for 27 years.
it is possible that this is the man that you are meant to be with, but it is also possible that he has a lot of problems and he can't cope with a woman of his own age.
i could say a lot about experience, etc. when i was your age, i wouldn't want anyone to say that i wasn't in a position to judge if a man was right for me now.
so let me say two things.
don't go with this guy because you are frustrated with your current boyfriend. that is not a good enough reason.
second, if you get involved with this guy, don't go to far too fast and commit yourself to things that will shut you off from your family and friends. if he is a nutjob, or insecure, or has a lot of problems, you don't want to be alienated from your support systems if you need them. he is going to have to learn to get along with all of the people in your life and if he is right for you, your family and friends will all like him or learn to like him.
last but not least, with such a big age difference, you would both have to compromise, but make sure he doesn't stop you from doing what is most important to you, and make sure that the compromise is done by both of you.

Answer 2

the 47 yr. old doesn't want to "date" you
he just wants to f**k
--not that there's anything wrong with that
unless he's not good at it
(ask the other waitresses how they rate him)

there's nothing wrong with flirting with customers
that's how a waitress earns her tips
however, if you tell everyone that you are engaged
and you still keep flirting big time
they'll start calling you a s**t
and treat you like one

is your fiance flirting back home?
hope so

that's probably why he's been so distant

you're too young for him
sounds like he's beginning to realize that himself

that doesn't make either of you bad people

stop being so insecure
and go be a college frosh
party
meet people
be 18
while you are 18


when you graduate
if your old bf is still available
(not married, doesn't have kids --in or out of marriage-- then,
maybe you'll get together)

18 yr. olds don't like to hear it
and don't believe it
but any 25 yr. old man who dates 18 yr. olds
can't cut it on his own turf
he has to go back to the fenced-in kiddie yard
can you say "loser"?

Answer 3

I don't know. Something seems a little fishy about that.

I think what excites you is that comment, "Stop dating a little boy and get with a man." It's just, this man happens to be pushing 50.

Did you ever think that maybe he's married and is going through a mid-life crisis? He may want you for his mistress or something. Do you want to be the other woman?

Also, I don't think it's "meant to be". I just think with your previous boyfriend, you accepted that ages don't matter.

You are really immature. You're only 18. You have so much more that you could obtain. This guy needs to be dating 30-40 year olds, not a kid! You're just a kid! That's gross.

Answer 4

It's not the number of years between you, but the ages that you are.

My husband is 30 yrs. older, but when we got together, I was 47, and he was 77...and that is way different than being 18 and 47.

I highly recommend that, for now, you date guys close to your age. You have so much yet to learn that, I promise you, you are not ready for someone 47.

Think twice about this guy; he'll break your heart.

Answer 5

I was 19 and dated a 46 yr old man. He was VERY controlling, VERY abusive.

If you want to give it a try, GO SLOW. Get to know him better. I hope you do not go through what I did. Just take it easy and make sure you are safe. Just because he can offer you more does not mean it will be all good.

Good Luck

Answer 6

this is a joke right?just hope u r old enough to get drunk at his funeral.just think,u will be legally allowed to take him to the pub 4 his 50th birthday.as 4 workin things out with the current bf,only if its worth it.aint nothin wrong with bein single.and it seems u r dependant on men,um have a little faith in urself.try learning to stand on your own to feet 4 a while

Answer 7

I don't think that age has anything to do with whether or not a relationship will work out, it just depends on the people. If you like this guy, go for it.

Answer 8

elisabeth, 47 yrs old is too old,and you know age more than a number. stick to your boyfriend if he is treating you good.but if not find somebody else...
tell your boyfriend if he have still a feeling to you and tell him that you love him and wants to working it out well

Answer 9

your 18 you have so much to live for now. Why settle for just anyone.
Age shouldnt matter but, your 18. For god sake live alittle first.

Answer 10

He's a dirty old man ! All he wants is to get into your pants. If that's what you want go for it, but I wouldn't if it were me