How do you feel towards people who have children out of wedlock?

Question

I think it is a disgrace to bring a child into the world without the decency of the parents to get married first. It is setting a really bad example to the children.

Answer 1

it seems that attitudes like ours are 'old fashioned' these days. i agree with you. it looks like u really hit a nerve in a lot of people with this one.

Answer 2

Although the Bible says that conception was created for marriage, God would not allow a child to be brought in to this world unless the child had a purpose. You also have to think about the mothers that get raped and a child is the result. Just because two people bring a life into this world without being married does not make them bad people and it doesn't mean that they are a disgrace. You have to look at it from both sides of the mirror. Would you want to be judged for having a child out of wedlock? I wouldn't.

Answer 3

In 1985, I brought a son into this world and was not married. The biological father told me he could not impregnate me. I believed him because he had a 12 yr old daughter and no other children. I thought is sounded logical.
Strangely enough, I disagree with bringing babies into the world if you cannot pay for them or are in an unstable relationship.. Birth control is readily available and more convenient than ever. Money is not an issue because you can go to planned parenthood and get it for cheap or free.
Now that I have said my opinoin, I do not consider my child who is now 21 yrs old a discrace. I am very proud of him and raised him without a father. His father denies paternity to this day and people including my own sister believe him. I am not proud of what I did, but I have made the best of it. I have matured over the years and raised a child in unbelievable circumstances thru my youth and until now. I do not reccomend it however. I have always worried about what effects my single parenting will have on my son.
Raising a child alone is without reward. No one tells me I did good, but they were quick to give me advice and snub nose me.
I had teachers who were around the age of 12 when my son was born try to give me advice on how to raise my child. What a slap in the face, like they know anything about it. These teachers didnt even have their own children yet.
You probably are not meaning harm, but try not to be so self righteous. You never know the circumstances. I dont think my single parenting was a bad example. I graduated from college after he was born, Work a great job and took care of him very well without a husband.
My son is my proudest accomplishment. He is responsible, doesnt smoke or drink and spends his hours working on a junk truck and doing homework. He is a great kid. He has all of the qualities of someone I would trust and like to be like. I hope he finds a wife someday because he will be a great husband to someone.

Answer 4

I would agree about the out of wedlock thing, however I would also consider some people shouldn't get married just because they have a baby. It only increases the divorce rate in my opinion. I think some people have kids to stay on the "free" programs and some just to try and keep the "man". Children should be created within a marriage not out. So use protection or be abstinent. It takes 2 to make a child and trust me it takes 2 and many more to raise a child, hence the phrase "it takes a village to raise a child."

Answer 5

it is so much disgrace in this world that married before children will be the last of there problems. I understand were you coming from but what if the child parents were married and the father and the mother divorce what example is that. Things happen you have too do the best you can with what you have and if that is not being married too the father before the child is born just make sure you let your child know that they are loved that's all. You will teach them good examples, they will see the bad and you can teach them the good. that it.~~~~

Answer 6

I don't quite agree with you. Yes, marriage binds two people together and gives them the identity of being man and wife, legally. That's all. Having children and raising families are separate issues. A man and a woman in a commited longterm relationship - although not married - can have children. The important thing is they, as a couple, should know their duties and responsibilities as parents and do everything necessary for the well being of their children.

Answer 7

Having a child out of wedlock is not a bad thing. People need to get over their old way of thinking. Its not easy but, if you are secure in your life and can give this child love and stability then why not?

Answer 8

Lady with a 65% Divorced rate in our country, who really wants to get marry anymore, that is for psycos. You are more likely to end up in divorce court, fighting for years, child support, alimony, custody battle. Give us a break, it is 2006. I do not condem parents that have children out of wedlock, we are all the same in Gods eyes. Best of luck!

Answer 9

well i am a child out of wedlock, and i think i turned out good. and i didnt get any bad example from my parents, i know they both love me, but they just didnt want to be married, and are now married to different people and love them and me. when im older i do wanna be married and have kids but i would see no problem with having a kid if i wasnt married

Answer 10

I had one child out of wedlock and I decided that i was not having anymore because it is not fair to the kid to be raised in a single parent home. I dont care what anyone says but it does affect how they develop and how they feel about themselves. I dont judge anyone if they do it once but to do it over and over is just irresponsible and again not fair to the kid.

Answer 11

The same way I feel towards people who don't. Who made you God! I believe people should get married first too but nobody's perfect and there is no sense in being a hipocrit.
My granddaughter was born out of wedlock and I believe god intended for her to be here the same as he did you.