My niece is pregnant and lives at my boyfriends house with his son. Tonite, her mother called me and asked me to go to his house with her to clean and do dishes because the place is filthy and I agreed to go. I think they should clean up their own mess and I should have refused. We are all adults and I am not into cleaning up after my boyfriend and his son and my niece. What should I have said?
2006-09-21 14:42:21 · 28 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yeah, it all sound pretty hillbilly. I met my boyfriend 2 years after my niece and his son started dating and we hit it off really good. Its all pretty uncomfortable now that my niece is going to be the mother of his grandchild. Jerry Springer would get a real kick out of this except I work in the professional world and am not into showing my breasts. They would probably terminate me at my job and I would end up in the poor house.
2006-09-21 14:51:44 · update #1
Crazy enough, his adult daughter has a piece of paper she keeps on the wall reminding him how many hours she cleaned at his house so he can pay her for her hard work. My sister-in-law could not believe the mess and the bill left on the wall. She just moved out. The adult kids are pretty comfortable mooching off ole dad, who by the way works 6 days a week 12 hour nites.
2006-09-21 14:54:23 · update #2
you should have refused and learn how to say no...
2006-09-21 14:56:17 · answer #1 · answered by warmhearted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should help for your pregnant niece but make it clear this is a ONE TIME ONLY occasion. You are right they should keep the place clean on thier own...sometimes things get such a mess its hard to know where to start, so if you help out and get it clean maybe they will make more of an effort to keep it clean.
2006-09-21 14:45:20 · answer #2 · answered by Shae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first question is why is your niece staying with your boyfriend?Second,if her mother is so concerned about the living conditions of her daughter why isn't her daughter staying with her?Lastly, me and you both know that you should not have gone over there. Did you go because you feel guilty about your boyfriend having to take your niece in? Honestly, this sounds like a mess that you need to remove yourself and your boyfriend from before it gets worse.
2006-09-21 14:57:17 · answer #3 · answered by onedzire27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, a woman should never clean her boyfriend's house. And come to think of it, why are you dating a man who is such a slob that his house *needs* outside intervention? If he raised his son to be responsible (doesn't sound like it), his son wouldn't be causing a mess. If the pregnant niece is the source of the mess, she needs to learn responsibility--and quickly! It's really a shame that people can reproduce without first proving that they can provide a good home.
2006-09-22 09:06:21 · answer #4 · answered by spam_n_eggs_n_spam 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Any healthy person who cant clean up after themselves should be treated like the animal that they are.Beat them with a newspaper and rub their noses in the filth until they learn how to pick up after themselves.If you go and wipe their **** off the toilet and wash dishes like a freaking maid you're an idiot.
2006-09-21 15:01:32 · answer #5 · answered by The Coach 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OHHHH! I totally misunderstood that! I was like, why...is your niece pregnant with your boyfriend's baby? Ha :) Well anyway. I mean, it's nice to help your boyfriend clean up here and there, but you're right, it's their responsibility to clean up their own mess. You shouldn't be cleaning house for them.
2006-09-21 14:47:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your own question by saying they are all adults and might have added as adults they need to take responsibility for the way they choose to live and that you would like to see how your boyfreind handles the situation in his own home before you decide if he is husband material.
2006-09-21 14:55:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont like the fact that the mother in law asked you to do this .. However do they do this not only for there immdieatte family but other peoples as well ?If they reciprocate and treat you well go for it .Do you live there as well .If you do then help . If your mother in law is a parasistic leache oh well go to a movie
2006-09-21 14:49:02 · answer #8 · answered by bolounit1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she asks you again you can tell her how you feel, tactfully of course! I actually thought you put it very well in your question.
Or you can simply say no.
Or you can just tell her your busy, but if she then tries to arrange it for when you're not busy then you will have to tell her truthfully that you will never have the time to clean up someone else's mess!
2006-09-21 14:52:38 · answer #9 · answered by seaelen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably should have told his mother how you really feel. Let them clean up after themselves. If you do it this time it will become an expectation of you in the future.
2006-09-21 14:46:22 · answer #10 · answered by Cashmere621 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much are they paying you to do this type of work? Oh , Nothing. Well tell your lazy pregnant neice to clean up her own house. I think we all cleaned our own houses when we were pregnant, Right.
2006-09-21 14:49:43 · answer #11 · answered by joy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋