Me and my wife are very different sexualy. She is very concerviative, and it's hard to get her to experament. I'm very liberal, and like excitment, risk, and the thrill of something new. I'm not talking about cheating, my wife is the only one for me. I do want to do some new things and everytime I bring it up she refuses. What are some ideas that we could try that wouln't be to risque (other then what's listed), or how could I bring the subject up to where she would be more willing to try some new things?
Some things that I would like to try are
Sex ouside the bedroom, possibliy outside
Having her masterbate while driving in the Highway
Watching soft core porn together
Going to a strip club together
Recording ourselves on video
Taking erotic photos of her
My goal is not to make her feel uncomforable, but get her to open up sexualy, we have been together for 10 years and I love her dearly but I've been board and am beging to loose intrest in sex.
2006-09-21 12:34:11 · 18 answers · asked by honest guy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know exactly what your're goin' through!
2006-09-21 12:38:08 · answer #1 · answered by Putt 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-07-18 23:26:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can forget the strip club, and soft core porn, she really doesnt sound like the type, Try getting her in the mood in the kitchen and feed her strawberry (if that is what she likes) or any other little fruit, get her to feel more comfortable with her own body, sex on the table is great. Her masterating while you are driving will have to be on her feeling good about her body wanting to do that, sex outside the bedroom is probally your best bet right now, get started in the kitchen, living room, put a blanket on the floor and have her sit on top and straddle you, but most important just keep talking to her, let her know that you are not trying to make her uncomfortable but that you would really just once would like to see her in a different view.
2006-09-21 12:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by littlevae73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't recomend the strip club, you could wake the jealous monster especially if she's conservative,unless SHE brings it up. Little steps at a time, try to take charge not by asking but doing, not too agresive...using whatever turns her on the most and expand from there, you know?. If you try too much at once, soon you'll be bored as good sex and love go hand in hand. If one night for example you go out and drink, 420 whatever, start by not even looking at other women, act as if she's the only one in the world, sneak a touch here and there in public but not too much, just enough to wake her animal instinct,(YES! we can get dirtier than you men!!) the trick is to make her feel super sexy find the magic button that turns her on, maybe a kiss on the neck while you run your hand down from her back down to her butt sensually, try different things,there's no manual so trial and error, pay attention to her body language,see how she reponds, take it a bit further every time, go to clubs where people are more wild. Every woman is different, Do you have friends in common who are open minded? go out with those kind of friends, try to talk openly about turn-ons, be a sponge and absorb all information. Also men can find a lot of info from woman magazines like cosmo and such. The brain is the most important sex organ, if you can get in her mind, you can get her to do just about anything. I hope I was able to help. Good luck!
Oh!I strongly recomend a trip to Europe, this could reboot her brain into acceping a more liberal way of life, bringing it back home.In the beaches of Spain for example, tops are optional, encourage to take hers off to experience the freedom, since most women do, she won't feel ashamed and could feel just noughty enough, it could be your gateway.
2006-09-21 13:37:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of compliments about her body and how much she turns you on helps. Try some wine, a bubble bath by candlelight, massage...all the while telling her how much you love her and want her. When she has had enough wine, sweep her off her feet and carry her somewhere other than the bedroom. For example, if you can go outside without anyone seeing....making love in the rain is awesome! Personally, on the couch is good. You sit down and have her straddle you. She will love it and so will you! If she is one that "wants the light off", don't have very much light on...candles would be good there too. Reassure her that you love her body and can't get enough of it. If she is carrying some extra pounds, it's because of your children and that is another special bond in itself. Basically, lots of patience and compliments. She will come around eventually. OK now I need a cigarette! LOL
2006-09-22 13:36:45 · answer #5 · answered by tedbear's woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like she is a respectable lady. Who know where those picture will end up in ten years. You need to find friends to go to a strip club together. She does not need to take any picture, both of you guys knows how she looks. If she does these things you will just want more. You need to drop it because she will drop you. You have yourself a lady not a whore.
2006-09-21 12:41:29 · answer #6 · answered by Errolyn27 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try making her feel sexy by telling her how sexy she is. try touching her more, grab her *** once in awhile or tell her how much she turns you on. and do not just do this in the bedroom. do it when she probably feels the least sexy. she might be embarassed or reluctant at first, but be persistent, eventually she will start to believe she is sexy and more open to doing these things for you because she has some new found confidence!
2006-09-21 12:48:09 · answer #7 · answered by suebdoo518 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try finding some things to do for her that are safe and secure but outside of the ordinary. You need to show her that you have her intersts in mind without giving up her security.
2006-09-21 13:06:33 · answer #8 · answered by roppster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can introduce her to some erotic toys,massage oils, sexy underwear / lingerie. Maybe she is sexually inhibited in some way. Have a sexy date with her and get her to talk to you about how she feels about your desires. Maybe, you will discover some new and exciting things about your wife and you only have to find the right door to open.
2006-09-21 12:43:03 · answer #9 · answered by Alecia C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your requests are quite reasonable. I would skip the strip club one. Try one thing at a time and see how it goes. You know her better than anyone else.
2006-09-21 12:42:42 · answer #10 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just take it easy on her.dont push her. try everything step by step.i would recomend to start with the porn first and then move on but not to fast wait until she is confortable with one thing before you move to the other.
2006-09-21 20:17:09 · answer #11 · answered by super girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋