OK, I admit it: I'm bored. Bored with life. Bored of being alone and bored of being broke.?

Question

I'm a loner, but I've always been able to keep myself occupied/distracted, with music, books, films, and recently, keeping fit. These days I'm feeling restless in the evening, less interested in doing anything. Sleep is some relief, but I do tend to have vivid dreams every night, which aren't always welcome.
I've got a shitty part-time job, no money, no love life... I've been on Prozac for a year. I've tried several positive-thinking self-help books, but nothing sems to stick.
My question is: have you been here, and turned your life around? What worked for you?
No religious or insulting answers please.

Yes, I'm always trying to get another job! It's not easy!
Finished my degree two years ago, and did another course last year. I can't afford more studies.
Going to the gym is my positive thing. I'm just bored when I get home.

Answer 1

I think the thing that is getting you down is just your lack of direction. I looked at your past questions and saw you are having a hard time finding a job that uses your knowledge. Sometimes in order to find what you are looking for, you have to look everywhere. Consider the possiblity of moving, even far away, to find your job. If you aren't dating and have no or few meaningful deep friendships, maybe relocating will offer multiple solutions. In the mean time, try increasing your hours at work or taking on another part-timer to make some extra money and save it for a move when you find your job. Also, have you talked to your doctor about this? Adjusting the dosage of your Prozac may offer some temporary relief. I hope things start working out for you. Good luck.

Answer 2

Been there! I think you need to find something new, try an evening course or look for a club you can join, you probably know alot about music and books, look for a local book club or music club. Also you could try voluntary work, its a good way to meet people and see others less fortunate. Honestly it can be done, you just need to find your way. And sorry but self help books are a load of crap, why do you think people write them? to make themselves money from people who are looking for help. I'm still were you are but I feel more positive now. Honestly everyone else may seem so focused and together, but we're all just muddling along the best we can. Some days are better than others. But the more time you have to sit and think the worse it appears. Occupy your time as much as possible.

Answer 3

hmm, no life and always broke....now there;s something I can relate to. since you're restless at night, workout. I figured that if I'm going to be a loner, no love life, no nothing; least I can do is look good doing it right? oddly enough, once the BODY goes, the mind will follow. So, rather than let myself go and be that fat, loser eating cheetos while playing warcraft, I figured some "restructuring" was in order. So I got balanced again. started working out and eating...somewhat better than what I used to. you look better, your whole aura feels better and when that happens you tend to be more outgoing AND have more "looks" your way from the opposite sex. kind of nice actually. 50 pounds lighter and a bit more chiseled, things are on the up and up for me. Still no money but that will come in time.

as for your vivid dreams, do your best to jot them down. write about what they were, draw what you saw. without a proper vent for these dreams and such, they'll simply haunt you and you won't even know why. with those things on paper, you can begin to understand or get a better idea of things. the reasons behind them, why they happen etc etc. no sense in just sitting on the couch pondering what they are or why you keep having these lucid dreams. that is simply a waste of time and talent. perhaps you can parlay them into short stories, books or articles. maybe even get them published. then you can have some money coming in. maybe even scripts?????

Answer 4

stuff the self help books, i was put on an anti-depressant that made me worse! I tried telling the doc it was making me feel worse and she wouldnt listen. a year later it was put on tv that seroxat CAN make depression worse and that was what i was on! dont stop the meds straight away though, i did and i got sickness. half them then half them again over a few weeks. but seriously get off the meds! No-body ever has enough money, but ever kicked a football? it was probably made by a 7 year old in some far away country who wasnt even getting paid! There's always someone worse off than you are. No love life? Who needs one, stand alone, do your thing and do it your way! Life is going on all around you, now go for a walk, clear your head, come home and make a list of the 5 things that make you most miserable, then list two ways to turn each one to a positive thing eg NO LOVE LIFE = Freedom and a bed all to yourself! NO MONEY = you wont waste money on material junk that will clutter up your room and if your at the bottom then the only way is up....go on, give us a smile, you know you wanna... : )

Answer 5

I understand what you are going through. I have been there - but I have npot taken the Proizac route although I did see a psychiatrist who tried to convert me to Christianity.

He kept promising to teach me "coping skills" but seemed happier to collect my money each session.

That's life, I guess...

I find that I get some help and releif from writing. I write short stories, free verse, poetry, songs, ANYTHING that comes into my head. Just vent your feelings and emotions!

Also, try to keep your head busy by doing a short course: maybe in a foreign language or some computer thing. Keep your head/mind busy!

Forget about the self-help books. Most of those writers are simply trying to make money off a GROWING problem that most people are embarassed to alk about.

Whatever you do REMEMBER THIS: this world is a very cold place and you are not the only one who feels like this. I have these same problems and I have even been suicidal. But I always remember that I am all that I have. And even if everyone gives up on me, I will not give up on me. No matter how hard it is.

Hang in there!!! One day you will get to a place where people are nice and friendly so that you can be nice and friendly too.

Answer 6

Yes I've been there. I was scared to even talk to people! I would sleep during the day work in the night time and never talked to anyone.
I started a course (part time), I talked to one person while I was there and everything went well from there. Now I have a husband, children and a good carer. Please keep your hopes up, there is always a light at the end of every tunnel even when we can't see them.
One book that really helped me (which is not religious) was Illusions by Richard Bach, It's about accepting life as it is, making the most of it and knowing that all you do in life is for the good of you.
Good luck

Answer 7

Same here, I can understand where you are coming from. You sound frustrated as well as bored.
Try doing something that stretches you a bit, something creative you would not normally do. I find making things (currently it is Japanese type clothes) does it for me.
Best thing I ever did was volunteer for a charity. I get to meet interesting people and feel useful. You have to pick something you have an interest in, though. Pick the right one and you could get paid work so you can give up the boring job.
Feeling valued is important to a sense of self worth and should help with the depression.
Sorry I have no magic bullet to offer.
Hope things improve for you.

Answer 8

I've been having a rought time for the last year and been on antidepressants after trying to commit suicide - I have been having 'counselling' of a sort after my failed attempt - I have found the tablets of some use but have found talking very useful - If you look back can you find a trigger point which has made you feel like this? If you have its worth working out why it has affected you. I would strongly recommend counselling as these people are trained. You should be able to arrange it thru your doctors surgery

Answer 9

Wish I had an answer for you, even if it were religious or insulting! Kinda feeling the same way after a crappy year - I just hang on to the knowledge that things won't stay so yakky for ever, and that at the end of the day, it's only ME who can really make a difference, although finding the incentive and that something to spark my interest again is proving elusive.

Talk and keep talking - to friends, family, pets, the walls, puddles, anything!....whilst you're still talking, you're still hanging on in there!

All the best.....

Answer 10

Of all the things that are bothering you, pick one of them to work on that you know you can change. Work on that one thing until it's no longer a bore or bother to you. Having to change too many things at one time is absolutely overwhelming. It's hard to get started when there are so many things facing you. Once you've accomplished one thing and made it better, everything else gets much easier. I'm not sure why, but it seems to set other things in motion.

Answer 11

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