It just seems like the Sex has just decreased. I feel like it is me, but I dont seem to have a problem getting other men to look at me.. Just my husband. Do men just get comfortable and don't need it as much when they are content in a relationship or marriage?. I hate it.!.! And it seems like when I try to talk to him, he tells me it's not me. So MEN WHAT IS IT??? I'm getting tired of satisifying myself!!!!!! He is almost 40 and I am only 31. Does that have anything to do with it?? Help?
2006-09-17 09:57:25 · 30 answers · asked by PoePoe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
His age should have nothing to do with it and the fact that you're 9 years younger should be all the more incentive to him. In my experience marriage has never decreased my sexual appetite and it sounds to me like he has a problem or for some reason has lost interest in you sexually.
2006-09-17 10:00:25 · answer #1 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm 46 I Don't Have Any Problem with Sex Drive,Never Been Married,Can't Help Ya, Other Than Tell Him To Discuss It With A Doctor Maybe.... My Grandfather GOD Rest His Soul Out Lived 2 Wives And The Nurses At The Nursing Home where He Died Told Me He Begged For That Stuff Till His Last Day,Oh Yeah He Loved The Young Women,(Different Strokes For Different Folks)
2006-09-17 10:06:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My Grandfather was active until he fell down a flight of steps. That broke his neck and killed him at the ripe old age of 92. I'm 43 and married to a younger wife. She seems happy. As far as I know, the sex drive never goes away. Priorities change as we get older. Don't get me wrong, sex is great. But, outside factors can cause problems. What I hear is stress. No matter what your age, stress is a drive killer. Then there are commercials. I see all kinds of commercials for sex drive products. The youngest guy who admitted it, had high blood pressure. He took something to help him keep her happy. You need to talk to your husband.
2016-03-17 22:13:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 40.
My sex drive had diminished in a 20% maybe in last 10 years. But the love and desire for my wife is the same or more than always.
But one thing I'm sure about, your husband is not normal. Many reasons can go along with his behavior:
1. Physical problems that you're not aware of, and he feels ashamed to share.
2. Too much smoking.
3. Too much drinking.
4. Drugs.
5. Overweight.
6. Stress.
7. Affaire.
8. Gay?
Are you ok?
1. Do you watch your weight?
2. Do you keep loking pretty?
3. Do you dress sexy?
4. The kids are not a problem?
5. Do you change the sex enviroment?
2006-09-17 10:10:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Men do not lose their sex drive over the years, as many people tend to think they do. If they are out of shape, o have other physical problems, sex might be just too tiring, but it doesn't mean they don't like or want it.
Try changing things up a little for him. Go out and get some different style wigs, put on a different style of make-up, make him call you by a different name, according to who you are that night, and alter your aggressive/passive sexual behaviors. To him, you will seem like a different woman, equally attractive, just different.
2006-09-17 10:24:24 · answer #5 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who said they lose their sex drive? Thats not true. There might be other things that bother him or he is having issues with or MAYBE his sex drive is down. BUT is it natural for HIM PERSONALLY or maybe he has something wrong, physically? Now I';m not sure what you mean by you needing to satisfy yourself BUT there are lots of possible ways to handle that.
2006-09-17 10:29:30 · answer #6 · answered by JoeP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie its not u , he is a 40 year old man wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy past his prime, and ur only 31 getting ready to hit ur sexual peak.. and unfortunately older men cant keep up in their later years, they talk a big game, but very few men after the late 30's can walk the walk with all their talk if u know what i mean.... its just the way life is.. and it sux especially for us women who love to have sex..
This tends to start happening to men after they are in their 30's and decreases...the older they get... because the older a man gets the less testosterone their body produces... some lose it earlier then others..
2006-09-17 11:24:26 · answer #7 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 19 and my husband is 36 and we don't have any problems. However his age can play a factor in it some men start too loose their sex drive at that age.
I suggest talking to him but make sure you let him know that you are missing the sex with him and you want to know what is going on. Let him know if he is the one having the problem that he can go to the doctor and get help that there is help out there.
2006-09-17 10:02:22 · answer #8 · answered by larrys_babygurl_4life 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a serious question: Is your husband on any medication?
The reason I ask is I was put on a few different meds for depression, diabetes, blood pressure and a couple of other things and the meds really did put a damper on my wife and my sex life. This went on for a couple of years, I talked with my doctor, he changed a few meds and bingo I feel like a kid again.
I am 53 and have been married for 25 years. Now, in another point of view, your husband could just be a little too comfortable like you suggested. At 40 he should still have some get up and go left. How is his job, financial situation, does he have a lot of worries cause that can add to it also. There can be many different things, I do not know what is in the mind of your husband, so it is really hard to pin point the situation. Keep talking to him and tell him until he comes up with the reason why, you are still going to ask. Being 31 you are in your prime, where as your husband might not be. It is weird how those things work.
Try new things, roll play, buy and adult game, play strip poker. Just a thought. Good luck
2006-09-17 10:12:45 · answer #9 · answered by morris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with age. I am 48 and my wife 36 and we still have a very healthy sex live. It is the individual and not all men.
2006-09-17 11:29:16 · answer #10 · answered by robsnor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋