What do you thing about marrying outside of your social class ?

Question

I belong to the upper class. There's a girl I like who is more on the low side of the lower middle class. She's educated and pretty but.. I don't know ! I know her family and mine would never mix and I can see problems in the future. Please, no obvious answers such as "Its only important what the two of you thnk" or "Money doesn't matter bla,bla,bla." This question is more in the vein of what real actual results you have seen in other couples who did this, were they successfull, yes or no and why ?

Answer 1

If you love the girl then money shouldn't matter. And if it does to you than she is not the girl for you. As for your family, well if they cared about you and wanted to see you happy they will except her with open arm, and if not, you know what matters to them the most. Best of Luck you two, and I hope the next question from you is "How do I propose?"

Answer 2

I was once where u r right now! My father was a surgeon and my mother a lawyer. Well as I got older I started seeing a guy I went to school with and they just DID NOT approve of him at all- his mom was a waitress and his dad a welder. GOD FORBID! They kept setting me up with all these arrogant guys I didnt even like and I kept going right back to my welders son! Today I am married to him and we are going on 22 years! My parents have come to accept it since we have made such a good life together and they can see he treats me like a princess should be! GAG! BUT the way I felt was: I would sleep in a card board box if I had to to be with him! Why marry for money and class when u will be miserable all your life? NOT ME FRIEND! ALWAYS marry for love!!!!!

Answer 3

You may call my answer obvious but it's true; why worry about what other people think.. if the two of you are in love then it shouldn't matter what social class you belong to. Let me remind you that love is blind and sees no color, no genre, no class.
A relationship between the two of you can be successful if you're not always think about the social class scale. If that is all you can think about at all times then leave her because she doesn't need to be with someone like that anyway. If you do love her and want it to work then you shouldn't let how much money your family makes make a difference in your personal life.
Have you seen "The Prince & Me" or "Titanic" ? I know they're movies but this type of stuff happens frequently. Prince and Princesses marry ordinary people that don't rake in half as much as they do... and why? Because your life shouldn't revolved around money. Money is green paper that can be shred to pieces, ripped, and destroyed. Love is forever.

Answer 4

The most important rule is to remember that the two of you are a team. Who cares if your families don't mix?!? Spend time with both of them seperately and enjoy yourselves! Maybe there will come a time when everyone can get together at the same time. Afterall, your family can't be that bad if you came from it and the social status doesn't bother you. If not, no big deal there could be worse things in life than not having your in-laws to like one another!

Answer 5

You can't get an obvious answer my dear. Every relationship is different. This what i will tell you. If you love the girl and you are sure tha she loves you for you, them marry her.
i sounds to me like you really do not want to be with her like that. Your head is telling you no but your heart is saying to marry her. Most of the time the man ends up finding a woman who is in the same class as him, he leaves his wife, the woman treats him like a dog and he is left without a wife and a mistress. The question is are you so shallow as to make the level of society that you come from make a problem in your relationship.

Answer 6

I understand what you're asserting, and particular, I did marry a working type guy some years in the past. We have been the two suffering on the time, so how ought to i glance down? We have been interior the comparable boat. I unquestionably have been up and down the economic ladder, so whether i became fortunate sufficient to land a prestigious job, i wouldn't in any respect ignore my roots. There are some persons that do provide the adult males a wreck.

Answer 7

True it will be hard but you would be so surprised at what love can conquer. You may have to give your folks & hers some space from you both until you guys can handle the difference. I've seen it work but it was with 2 people who really had a strong love relationship. Which are going on 16 years of marriage. I will tell you it's not easy at all.

Answer 8

If you are going to let your relatives mistreat your wife because she comes from the lower class, then your marriage definitely is not going to work.

This kind of thing doesn't work even with people who are from the same social class. Mothers-in-law are not popular in any social class. And if you plan to let your mother have some say in your family, then forget about having a good marriage even if you marry within your social class.

I think that people from different social classes can have a good marriage as long as they respect each other and as long as they don't allow other people interfere in their marriage and family.

Basically if someone can't be a friend of your wife, then he or she can't be your friend either. That's the kind of attitude you'll need to have even with your closest relatives. Or else your marriage is not going to work.

Answer 9

Just because you think you are better somehow than someone else , I would have to say either change your thinking or find someone else who you feel will fit into your Upper Class world !

In my world everyone is an equal human being ! There are no classes . You may think that this is idealistic , but I'm positive
that God never sees different classes either .

Please don't think I'm trying to be a smart butt in anyway , you did ask for opinions right ?

Answer 10

Depends on what your motivation is and hers as well. If she is an overacheiver then it doesnt really matter where you come from but where you are going! If she is not easily intimidated by others or new situations then you both can take alot from the relationship. If she is lazy and unkept,because she is lazy...I say run. There is a difference between not having because you are not able to vs not having because you are too lazy to make it happen.