the reason i am having this problem is because i am finding female numbers on his cell phone bill and its the same girl they talk to each other every day and he calls her early in the moring from work and she calls him and i confronted him with the suitation and he says its a girl he went to highschool with and that they r only friends but she called my hse. one day to tell him that one of there class mates father passed away and that was my first time hearing about her and that was at the end of august 2 wks. before summer was over and now i saw on the cell phone bill that he has been talking to her since june or july i dont know what to do and i cant continue to trust him last night i was downstairs and he was up stairs and the girl called him and he didnt answer the phone because he heard me coming up the stairs but time i went back downstairs he called her back and how i know this is because he left his phone home when he went to the store and i checked it and saw she called him
2006-09-15 06:32:42 · 14 answers · asked by M$.Gettin It ! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like your boyfriend has himself a friend. She might not be anymore than a friend ... but she could be if you leave. Decisions, decisions.
2006-09-15 06:49:37 · answer #1 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first problem is that you are living together. Wake up woman! He is not legally tied to you in any way. You are basically just roommates and sharing the costs of living in this world. Just because you are engaged (do you have an engagement ring?) doesn't mean you are married. The engagement period is there to sort out differences and make lifelong plans together. The engagement is not meant to be the time to shack up together. Obviously your man has another woman he is investing time with and maybe making plans with. Sounds like it's time to move on, he has.
2006-09-15 06:47:10 · answer #2 · answered by bluemustang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, i don't even need to read what you wrote.
You go on and on about this girl and phone calls, i see that through skimming. You have a trust issue with him. Not by your fault, necessarily, but nonetheless you need to tell your fiancee that you feel this way. It's really that simple.
You can not marry someone that you do not trust. Trust is one of the top contenders for marriage. TALK to him.
2006-09-15 06:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by Rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's assume the best, that she really is just a friend, and there's nothing else going on. He still needs to understand that it is an inappropriate relationship if he is getting married. If he wants to still be friends with this girl, then it needs to ba a friendship that you share too. If she can be friends with both of you, then there's no problem. If she will only be friends with him, and they try to hide it from you, then there is actually something more going on emotionally, even if not phisically.
2006-09-15 06:56:22 · answer #4 · answered by ask the eightball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand where your comming from. So try this, don't be the jealous *****. Take the time to meet with the girl and get to know her and why she calls your man so much.
If the 2 of you team up, you can make your man come clean if he is trying to hide anything.
There are times when a man needs a woman friend, just a friend as they are very different from lovers/wives and guy friends.
Meet her then make you move from there.
2006-09-15 06:37:45 · answer #5 · answered by koleebear 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't keep living on wishful thinking. He has some sort of relationship with this girl.
Don't delude yourself that you can change what's going on. You can't.
All women think that they can change a man, they cannot and the men will not change. Most men just do not have the skills to change.
So start to make plans for yourself. Save your money and get prepared to get out on your own .
Unless you want a lifetime of insecurity. Constantly wondering "Will he leave me this year". Don't do it . Collect your courage and make your own plans for your own future.
2006-09-15 22:52:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, I can see why you wouldn't trust him. It may be innocent but why would he hide it? It doesn't make much sense. If you have the girl's number, call her up and ask her if she's aware he has a GF that he's living with. He may be doing the same to her, who knows.
2006-09-15 06:38:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a bad situation. You two need to sit down and have a serious talk. He needs to open up about why he talks to this girl so much and why if she is such a large part of his life that you haven't met her considering you two are to be married. If you can't be comfortable with his relationship with her then he needs to chose you or her.
2006-09-15 06:43:55 · answer #8 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get off the hook, and go for the married life if you love him.. and if you are married,, fight for your right..
Now,,, he is only your fiancee,,,
He can do anything,,, because he is not committed to you,,, he is not married to you...
Even if you are living together,,, that is no guarantee,... because you are not married..
He is still free... to do anything..
If you love him,, do everything,, to get yourself a wedding..
Then fight for what is your right..
Here's a story: My wife and I eloped, she was 17, I was 19,, then this gf came to our house,, she saw us in mutual embrace...kissing....,, but she cannot do anything because,,,well I don't know..
Anyway,, we are still together,,, and then, this gf, suddenly appeared in my email and now we are communicating again,,, she is still single,,, and I have 5 children and 14 grandchildren..
And she is still so beatiful and my wife do not know we have communications...
It does not mean I am cheating... I am only reliving memories,, maybe... only maybe and only time will tell..
Good Luck and GOD Bless
2006-09-15 06:48:52 · answer #9 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have her number? Call her, freak her right out. Confront him again, if it continues.....well hun that choice is up to u, but definetly let them know it bothers you. Tell him u know he is hiding something even if you dont know what it is. If he is your fiancee then it should stop or you should be let in on the secret.
2006-09-15 06:37:57 · answer #10 · answered by Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simplify. take him to a counselor. then go to a lawyer and regularize ur relationship. then ignore him. look for someone who is interested in u , like dance halls clubs parties and whatever u can afford.
dont be a cat and try to hold him if he wants to go to a bi***. all all men are like that when things are permissive.
when he is is is cheating on you, what exactrly is ur point asking if u can trust him? have sense. ur ego forget.
think of ur life and future.
2006-09-15 06:43:25 · answer #11 · answered by kamesvari i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋