i was married but living separetly all that time. i went and file for a a divorce to surprise him, and he tells me he found someone else and he just met her twice and went with her. i love him with all my heart. and i went thru desparation for a while but i finally pull thru and just got back on my feet. after a year i meet this man and we had a good relationship going then this past april he call me back and wanted to know if we could work it out. we been talking and all but all this time the other woman found out and didnt want him to move back to me. now she is completely gone and he wants us to move in together and see if we can still make a go at it. i am so confuse . the question is will he do this to me again. like i said he just meet her and walk away with her.
2006-09-15 05:54:15 · 27 answers · asked by boni r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
listen baby dont get your feeling hurt again...dont get back with him cause he left u for that Bit*h...15yrs and he left u...look how long it took u to get back on your feet...move on im tell u..its not worth it anymore stay away...if has the heart to leave you he can do it again...stay with guy your with...i know u still have feeling for him he's just gunna play you again ok bye..good luck...
2006-09-15 06:02:50 · answer #1 · answered by maddan_360 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WALK AWAY and stop talking to the guy. How much pain do you really want to go through? Why in the world would you put up with his nonsense??? He'll come back while its convenient until he finds the next best thing. Do not be his doormat. What would you tell anyone else in the same position. You sound like you KNOW it is a mistake to even consider going back to him. Trust yourself and do what is right not what is easiest right now. Get away and stay gone. Best of luck. Hope you meet a man you deserve. Don't accept less -- ever.
2006-09-15 05:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear so many stories of men doing this. He is it doing it to you again! But now the shoe is on the other foot. The shoe is on your foot. Maybe he really made a mistake, but he wasn't thinking of that when the other women was painting him a prettier picture than he thought you was doing for him at the time. He thought he met someone more exciting than you, and now her true colors came out to him, and he wants what he can't have. I would see how things go with this nice man you have met and give him a chance. I would not open the door to your ex to hurt you again. If you deside to, I would make him work long and hard to prove to you that you will never go down that route again with him. Hurt me once shame on him, hurt me twice shame on me. Good luck in your decision.
2006-09-15 06:02:47 · answer #3 · answered by Paulda37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like this lout is keeping you as his "stand by" lady... it is NOT a reflection of if you are a good catch or not... it is a reflections of what a BAD catch he is! you deserve much better.
this hurts so much because you've made a serious investment of time, effort, and emotional attachment to this man and he has tossed it away... and now he's digging around to find it again.
this man is so insecure and afraid of being alone he is willing to cause YOU pain and heartache just to have a warm body in his bed and hand to hold in public. any person who is willing to cause another pain like that just so they can feel wanted and secure has the emotional maturity of a toad.
think of it this way... where do you want to be in 1 year? with a man who constantly has you wondering if he's found another woman to just run off with everytime he walks out the door.... or the possibility of someone who respects you and gives you the love you deserve... or... worst case scenario.... you are alone and pursuing your personal interests, hobbies, pursuits, and fulfilling any whim or fancy you want to without the baggage of having to answer to anyone for it.
this will be painful and confusing, your investment in this man was for nothing. but you'll be surprised how much personal and emotional strength you have.
you might think about finding a relationship therapist and getting some of this off your chest with someone who can offer you constant encouragement and suggestions on how to deal with this incredible let down so that you can pick yourself up faster and with more confidence than ever.
good luck
2006-09-15 06:09:24 · answer #4 · answered by Patti B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though in the end you are going to do what your heart says b/c you are a woman, and perhaps you should, ask yourself this, can you REALLY, HOINESTLY, TRUST HIM AGAIN?????? Even if he does not leave you will he still cheat on the side- Do YOU want to take that chance?
I took my ex-back after he left, but not because of another woman- we were high school sweeties and I was leaving for college- he WAS headed down the wrong path- forward five years- he went into the military, got his head on right and came to find ME!!!! :-)
It is up to you, you have to ask yourself those VERY important questions above. People can change...sometimes. But can YOU change the image you have of him?
2006-09-15 06:00:22 · answer #5 · answered by S'Rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were together for (15) years and he left you for another woman, then I would say Tell him to just keep on trucking. Because if he wanted you for this long and all of a sudden leave you for another woman then he never will be able to be trusted again. Once he cheets, always a cheater. Leave him alone. There is someone better out there.
2006-09-15 06:03:00 · answer #6 · answered by mswildman2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I noticed from your profile that this is the only question you have asked, and that you have answered only one question.
May I suggest that you read the answer you gave to the other question, and use it to help you answer this question.
You said that it is a hard decision as to whether you should let the man back into your life again.
No it isn’t…. It’s a very easy decision… Don’t do it !!!
Have no doubt about it… He cheated on you before… He will cheat on you again the first chance he gets !!!
It’s your life… If you like being cheated on… take him back.
If you don’t like being cheated on… Leave him in the past where he belongs !!!
2006-09-15 05:58:39 · answer #7 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a job for you brain. Not your heart. Your heart will say, "Take him back!" But your brain should tell you he WILL do it again. What are you left overs to him. Always there on the sidelines when he's done with his other women? In the end no one can tell you wahat to do but you. I've never stayed with someone who has done that. By then I had moved on...so I really can't say.
2006-09-15 05:57:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that he found out the grass is not always greener on the other side. I would not do it because I think he will do it again if he gets tired of you. You need to find a good man out there that will treat you with the respect you deserve. Those men are hard to find because I am still looking myself. Good luck. You are to good to put up with his bulll.
2006-09-15 06:00:42 · answer #9 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is playing on your level of confidence. Buck up sister!! Any man worth having will not make you cry. He should dry the tears and defend your feelings, not take advantage. He is probably miserable, and we all know that it loves company. Find someone that will respect the relationship. Not someone that has a history of pooping on your feeling!
2006-09-15 07:07:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋