In a nutshell,i had to go for 2 weeks for training,when i came bak i saw my wife hanging out with another man,found out they are friends,i moved out the same day coz i didnt trust her,and then evetually i saw all the text msgs and phone calls and she admitted to having sex with him. Then something flipped in me,and from that day till this day im trying to win her back,we have had intimate encounters plenty of times in between,but she doesnt want to be seen with me publicly,she is always with HIM. I even went as far as making friends with him and telling him what he was doing is wrong,but he never stopped,altho he did sometimes say that he eels bad for me,but nevertheless he is always around her. It has gotten to the point that i have to hide and meet her and wait till he is not around to talk to her,then i went on couple of dates with sumone,as soon as she found that out,she hugged me and said she wanted to talk to me soo bad,and the same night she was sleepin with him,what should i do
2006-09-14 11:12:23 · 25 answers · asked by Hitch-the Love Guru 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
MOVE ON. I know it's easier said than done but why let yourself be disrespected in this way? Find someone who will accept u for who u are and have respect not to fool around on u. She may be your wife but she's not worthy enought to be one.
2006-09-14 11:33:20 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, start running and don't look back because your wife is walking all over you!!! How much are you going to put up with??? Your first reaction was right when you moved out of the house. From that point on, you should have never looked back. But, it's not to late. The time is now! Get out of this situation and start looking for a divorce lawyer. You deserve so much more than she is willing to give you!! Good luck!
2006-09-14 18:48:15 · answer #2 · answered by cee cee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, let's review:
1) Your wife slept with another man,
2) She doesn't want to be seen with you in public,
3) She does want to be with him,
4) He won't leave her alone,
5) She won't leave you alone,
6) But she doesn't want you to date anyone else (BTW - dude, you're still married, so the dating thing isn't right for you either),
7) Even though she doesn't want you to see anyone else, she is continuing to see the other guy.
First off - I am so sorry you're being put through this. It stinks. That said, what you do next depends on whether or not you want to stay with someone who doesn't love you, doesn't treat you well, and is so sick that she MAKES HER HUSBAND MEET HER IN SECRET. Ah-hem, sorry, didn't mean to shout there.
The question is, are you as sick as she is? If so, stay, be treated like a combination of slave and used tissue. For every sadist, there's a masochist. Why do you want to win back someone who treats you so poorly? You'd be better off in the long run to dump her (make sure you protect your bank account and credit card first), and spend some quality time with a therapist who can help you get past this to a happy life with someone who is proud to be seen with you. Good luck!
2006-09-14 18:24:55 · answer #3 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you got to grow a proper set.
Dude, you don't make friends with your wife's boyfriend, you kick his azz. Not so much because he's jacking your wife, but because he is disrespecting you. Then hit the eject button on this babe and get a honey that thinks you are the one. I have to tell you bub, you are making the rest of us look bad. Women see how your acting and start thinking we all act the same.
In a nut shell: dump your wife, get out of the pity party, find a new honey that is in to you and get a life.
You'll thank me in the morning.
2006-09-14 18:57:14 · answer #4 · answered by rikv77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet that the other guy has got a much bigger dick than you, lol. Seriously, it's really different for us women when a guy can reach sooo deep inside of us... the intimacy is raised to a new level. I know what I'm saying coz I am talking from experience. I am newly married, but my husband's dick is not even half the size of my ex, & this causes me to give in to the advances of my Ex (even though I feel so guilty) as I can 'feel' him inside of me more than my husband ever could. I know it's unfair, but...
2006-09-14 18:27:27 · answer #5 · answered by Len Rose 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is only one thing you can do, walk away and find someone who will care about you, as you will never be able to forget what she has done to you. I am sure you will find another very soon, but do not jump at the first that comes along.
2006-09-14 18:21:27 · answer #6 · answered by Bill Carc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce. She is using you. If she loved you, nothing would have happened while you were gone.
Start a new life! No one has the right to use someone else! No one has the right to hurt someone.
Walk away totally - before you hurt more.
2006-09-14 18:32:27 · answer #7 · answered by Blond Logic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is playing you and loves the attention from two men!She is not in the mind frame to make a fair decision and in the end it is you who will be better if you can cut your losses now.
2006-09-14 18:16:29 · answer #8 · answered by nashiranickel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What , she is your wife and you have to sneak and met her.What games are you guys playing.That's not a marriage and you need to leave her and move on.you all are playing russian rulette and someone will get burned and bad
2006-09-14 18:19:45 · answer #9 · answered by missmadhatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a divorce and move on. Find someone else who makes your heart beat faster.
2006-09-14 18:17:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋