I currently 7mths pregant and I just moved in with my boyfriend .... I had moved out and was living at my dad's for 2mths 1/2. I would still talk to my boyfriend, but we we were broken up and it was hell for me I was sad, crying everyother day and WE decided to get back together. I moved in like 5 days ago and My whole family is mad at me for leaving the house and getting back with him. I know he really loves me, but I noticed he has been wierd about things he change myspace password and earsed all his messages he had. I could see his page, but he doesn't want to give me his password. Also the first two days I was back with him he was hiding his phone from me and wouldn't wan to let me see it. I was so confused not knowing what to think. Then on third day he woke up before me and change his phone number.He didn't even tell me until I asked if anyone had called for me. He also told me he didn't want me to talk to my friends or for them to come over. He blames my friends for our break up
2006-09-14 10:45:55 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Everthing is so screwed up with my family right now....Me and boyfriend have been living together for 2yrs off and on I left him when we got in to fights, and went either with my friends or family to stay and then came back. This time is different..I was at my dad's and would sneak out to see my b/f, we broken up , but sitll seeing eachother sometimes. So much has happend between us and we love each other, but I don't want to loose my friends either...
2006-09-14 11:25:57 · update #1
I know this will be difficult for you to hear, but I think that he sounds like bad news, and I think that you may just be better off without him.
If you go back to your family, I'm sure they will be supportive during this difficult patch for you. You are going through a lot of changes at the moment, and there must be a lot of stress for you (being pregnant, moving in with your boyfriend). All that stress can't be good for your baby, so I would suggest moving back in with your family, and re-thinking of moving back in with your boyfriend once you've had the baby.
2006-09-14 10:50:05 · answer #1 · answered by slim1234 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am unsure of the specific reason that u decided to move in with your bf. It doesn't sound like he was ready for this either, he also sounds a little on the controlling side. Ask yourself do u really want to live with someone who does not want u talking to or inviting your friends over? What will be next, him telling u that u can't go out? This business with the phone is fishy too. Why can't u use his phone if he has nothing to hide? Then u said that he blames ur friends, did u ask y r the 2 of 2gether now then and u still have the same friends? It doesn't sound like he is being true with u and u need him to be or else u will wind up more hurt in the end. Talk to your family try to work through your problems with them because believe me they will be the ones there when u need them.
2006-09-14 17:56:43 · answer #2 · answered by 2good4hem 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I never could turn down a Princess, when her Prince turns into Mr. evil. I think your family had the right Idea. It's rough being the girl side of in the family way. If you take trash from him now he'll only get worst. If this is going to be his good side you need to split.
I would take control of my pass words, change the pass words and give them no one. Those are personal, and an angry friend, lover, or siblin can really cause you a ton of trouble.
If you care fot the guy ask him to sit down and discuss ythe future you plan with the baby. Tell him you cannot live under the conditions he is trying to sit. That you need your space, and freedom just as he does, and you will settle for nothing less than being an equal partnership.
If he doesn't want to be you to share his life as an equal than get on with your life. But remember If you play you pay, As the father he is entitled to visitations and such, but he also is responsible for the child's well being and should began paying his share of the coming expenses. Don't let him by with out carrying his share of the financila load bringing a baby into the world
demands. I would talk to him, and see how he is going to handle your right to freedom to have your onw life just a she has his.
good luck
2006-09-14 18:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just ask him directly why he is doing the things he is doing. Everyone here can only assume why, but he can tell you the real reasons.
Don't be accusing, just tell him these things are bothering you because you don't understand.
Remember that you were broken up, and if he had started something with someone else in that time then you need to give him a short amount of time to end those connections. If he doesn't end them then move on.
If your friends ARE causing problems in your relationship then maybe its time to find new friends. If they aren't then tell him he has nothing to worry about and reassure him of that.
You should never put friends above the one you love. Friends come and go, but the one your sharing your life with should have top priority.
2006-09-14 18:13:41 · answer #4 · answered by frankly2u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason he changed things was because he was seeing other girls.
the reason he changed the phone number was so that the girls he was seeing could no longer contact him.
The reason he wouldn't let you see his phone was because of all the calls and texts and pics he has on the from other girls.
When you were off with your family he was off banging other girls. your family is right. this is not a guy you sould be with.
Additionally he knows that both his friends and your friends know what he has been doing and now he's saying you can't see them.
do you want to be in a relationship and do you want you baby to be in a house where one parent doesn't trust the other? not a good thing. get out now when you can and then listen more to what your family is saying and less to what this player is saying.
If you live with your family HE has to pay child support. if you live with him. he can control every aspect of your life.. from money to clothes to everything. It sounds like he is well on his way to being a control freak. get out now.. and have him pay for his child.
2006-09-14 17:53:35 · answer #5 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like to me that he either has done something to be ashamed of or is doing something to be ashamed of. Either way you can stick around to find out and get hurt more in the mean while or leave and think of it as your a better person without someone who doesn't know how to be honest with you. You have to be a strong woman not only for you but for that baby too. She/he needs a strong parent because to me it sounds like he isn't worth much as a bf let-a-lone as a father.
I know that probably wasn't what you wanted to hear but you knew it before you asked the question huh?
Good luck, your gonna need it!!!
PS this time if and when you leave him, don't talk to him till you are strong and that doesn't mean while your crying and want him.
2006-09-14 17:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by Redneck Girl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
honey dont move in wth someone bec u feel needy emtionaly and physically ,bec it wil ruin uer self esteem. one more thing sounds like uer family really loves and cares alot about u to be accepting of this and letting u stay wth them,so then y the heck would go to live wth a guy who dosent seem to care very much for u and sounds like a control freak of some sort please think this over and i hope u come to your senses and move out of his place NOW! goodluck honey u need it.
2006-09-14 17:55:25 · answer #7 · answered by blueducky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave, If it is going to be like this, it will be better for you to be on your own, You do not need anyone to tell you what to do, and how to do it. go back to your family, they know that he is no good for you, you need a good environment to bring up your child in. Don"t let him talk you into staying.
2006-09-14 17:53:21 · answer #8 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like a Jagon, but if you truly love him and want him to be involved in raising your child stay with. It sounds like he has done things that he doesn't want you to know about and is going out of his way in making sure you don't.
2006-09-14 17:49:50 · answer #9 · answered by KindomCome 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you really think that a man with that attitude and capable of that actions is good for you, well, good luck. No wonder why your family is mad at you.
2006-09-14 17:50:51 · answer #10 · answered by Carlos A 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋