friend birthday . he first lied and said it will be in a bd of one of his male friends then asked why did't you ask whose bd?
i ans its ok i want you to have a nice time even if it will be for a female friend
i found him telling me ok its for a female friend
i said ok enjoy your time without asking about her name
i found him volenteering and telling the name and commented that she is a good f friend
do you think i need to be more careful?
do you think he might be cheating?
2006-09-14 10:36:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i broke my arm i can't go
2006-09-14 10:41:15 · update #1
The answer to that is you might not understand, that she is just a friend. Then she may be and old fling; that if you found out about their past you would have an issue with it not thinking it could only be a friend now. So rather than go through the hassle, he said it was a guy. Then if you got advise from one of your girls if what he was doing was okay, they might blow it out the water and make your man seem like a dog just trying to get a bone.
2006-09-14 10:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by mrpuffandstuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess my main concern is why weren't you invited also? If you two are a couple, then the invitation should at least be extended out of respect and courtesy of your feelings.
I think you handled it just fine, not being too possesive, etc.....
If he's volunteering all this info without you asking - he might just be looking for more attention from you - checking it out to see if you would be jealous.
Men who cheat sneak....point blank - if your worried make a few phone calls or place a few well directed questions to some of the other guests.
It sounds like your just upset about him not providing all the details from the get go - I would let him know that it hurt your feelings, and why it did.
I wouldn't worry about it otherwise.
2006-09-14 10:44:14 · answer #2 · answered by MARY L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he had said it was a females friends birthday, and she was just a friend, he wopuld have invited you along.
The fact he lied means there is something to hide, whether he did anything or just wanted to.
If nothing happened, get him to introduce you to her.....
Good luck.
2006-09-14 10:40:08 · answer #3 · answered by jumble j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men think that that our wifes, GF's and significant others will not "allow" us to have friends of the opposite sex. So we have to hide it.
I wasnt allowed to have female friends for the longest time because my ex fiance was a control freak.
2006-09-14 11:08:02 · answer #4 · answered by Baghdad Pete ! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should be careful..no he is probably not cheating yet..but might has it in his mind... why would he lied about it..and why weren't you invited? usually they invite both husband and wife to the party or else it seems rude to me.. and if he just want to go by himself why he got married to you..why not just dating..? sorry too many questions but I think you'll get the point
2006-09-14 10:44:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was just scared of your reaction if he told you it was for a female. You showed trust, good for you.
You can, however, tell him you didnt appreciate the lie.
2006-09-14 10:39:40 · answer #6 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First its a problem he lied. Second why aren't you going with him ? Both sound like problems to me.
2006-09-14 10:39:35 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause if he told u it will be a female u'll get upset with him and u'll till him not to go and then he had no other choice but lie 2 u
2006-09-14 10:38:29 · answer #8 · answered by Styleish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should not have lied to you in the first place. you SHOULD be more careful and he might very well be cheating on you.
2006-09-14 10:41:17 · answer #9 · answered by one_sera_phim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't usually lie for no reason...not saying he's done anything.... but he must have something going on in his mind to cause him to lie.
2006-09-14 10:41:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋