I bend over for a woman, light smokes get coffie, very romantic with a big heart. not a drunk or cheater or an abuser.i put the woman first over myself.(doormat)
2006-09-14 10:29:29 · 9 answers · asked by chuck9864 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Where are you hiding?
Are you real?
I have't met a person like you! I think you are a treasure... but it seems that I'm in an other planet!
I don't know because your girl friends hurt you maybe you are unlucky or you prefer bad girls...
2006-09-14 10:36:18 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you are dating the wrong type of woman? Try dating someone who will love for WHO you are rather what you HAVE or WHAT you can do for them. Also, try to get to know them a little more first, before you are romantic, to make sure you also have something in common with them and good communication rather than just attraction. That way are you not a doormat. Don't let them walk all over you. It should be a two way street. Good luck!
2006-09-14 17:40:47 · answer #2 · answered by cee cee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know, it's unfair. Women always claim to hate "the dogs" and really want a "good man"... but when they get one they sometimes walk all over him and don't appreciate him. I think there has to be a balance. It's not necessary at all to be a jerk or anything... but it is important to take care of yourself and maintain your own interests and friendships outside of a relationship in order to seem somewhat independent (a turn on for a lot of women). Confidence is another important component that is sometimes lacking in the "overly nice ~ nice guy". DON'T let a woman treat you like a doormat. When she starts to play games or treat you poorly then stand up for yourself!! You should expect to be treated with the same level of respect and kindness as you would treat a woman with. It's only fair.
Here's a secret... sometimes women will treat a guy poorly in order to see how far she can push him. If he doesn't stand up to her in some way then she considers him a wimp and therefore NOT sexy. If you stand up to her (tell her NO when she asks for you to do WAY too much... or starts to expect things... or when she is rude to you... etc.) It's sexy when a guy respects himself and is confident... NOT a jerk. There is a difference.
Best wishes! You'll find someone who appreciates you someday.
2006-09-14 17:41:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with being giving and thoughtful, however, women do like a man that's strong as well as sensitive. From the cave man days, women wanted a man capable of leading, providing, being confident and self assured. that doesn't mean you have to go fight the saber tooth and win (a good thing though if you can), but being weak and ambiguous is a killer.
you're probably a nice guy, but TOO nice a guy at times. Men are the same way...we want the thrill of the chase, not just things handed over to us.
2006-09-14 17:33:34 · answer #4 · answered by badaz06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it's just because you haven't met the right woman yet. sounds like the women that you have known see you as a push-over. you need to roughen up your attitude, liven things up a lil. be a lil controversial.. say off the wall stuff. romance is good in the right setting, but over all women want a man. Be more aggressive in all that you do with women and see what kind of change comes about, or just keep on looking for the one thay will appreciate you for who/what you are!!
later dater
2006-09-14 17:34:20 · answer #5 · answered by turtle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Taking care of a woman is one thing, catering to her is another. I think the problem is that women have a desire for drama and excitement in their lives. They want someone who takes care of them in a strong and "manly" way. To me, I would rather have a man who tells me I look nice, carries the umbrella in the rain, and every once in a while tells me what a b#@*$ I am being than to have someone who lights my cigarette, runs to the kitchen every thirty seconds, and shrinks up in a corner when I have my behind on my shoulders. Maybe you should try to give your women more of a sense of independence by allowing them to continue to do some of the little things (lighting cigarettes, running for coffee, etc.) for themselves rather that being a butler instead of a boyfriend.
2006-09-14 17:46:17 · answer #6 · answered by ncmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THERE R WOMAN WHO DO NOT APPREATE THE GOODNESS OF A GOOD MAN MAYB YOU R LOOKING 4 THE WRONG KIND OF WOMAN ILL TELL YOU LIKE I TELL MY SONS IF YOU SHOP IN THE WRONG PLACE FOR A WOMAN SHE WANT HAVE A GOOD HEART NOR WILL SHE RESPECT YOU TRY MEETING WOMAAN IN PLACES GOOD FOLKS HANG
2006-09-14 17:34:45 · answer #7 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are dating the wrong kind of women. maybe you should go for the kind you would thing wouldnt be the kind attracted to cheaters (scums). that would be my advice for you.
2006-09-14 17:34:44 · answer #8 · answered by newgirl2491 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are drawn to a##holes
2006-09-14 17:31:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋