after 12 years I have become friendly with my ex ,we were wed for 22yrs ,is it likely that sex will be involved
2006-09-14 10:17:56 · 36 answers · asked by Rosie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes you can still be friends with ex husband without sex being involved. I split with mine over 14 years ago and we are still friends to this day.At the time of our breakdown it was upsetting however we both talked everything through and agreed it was for the best both to blame etc and because we did this we where both able to move on without any baggage.
We are good friend and respect one another very much sex is never an issue and never will be as we are friends.
You were with him many years and now you have started seeing him again as a friend. You are going to have all sorts of feeling being st ired and will remember all the good things and forget what really happen end to cause the split in the first place.
Sex will only happen if it is what you both want just be a bit careful before anything like that happens as it may cause more heartache for the future and old wounds re-opened.
2006-09-15 03:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by momof3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? Why do people believe anybody else knows what is possible between old partners? For whatever reason you are no longer together it actually means you decided not to be together therefore surely no rules apply? Who was in the wrong in the first place? Did the husband stray or the wife get fed up? Just remember why you are not together and stop trying to get one over the new person in their life. What do you mean, sex is likely to happen? I bet you are a woman with something to prove? You want to make sure you can still press his buttons? Stop letting yourself down and get on with your life and for goodness sake, aren't you better than this? Move on because he has. Do you really want our approval? If you want sex with this person then have sex but why make it an issue? Was sex always an issue with this person? I can't believe after 12 years you still think he is worth it? My god, grow up and let him go.
2006-09-15 11:54:01 · answer #2 · answered by barbara9458 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. Only if you allow sex to be involved. If you have children together it would be wonderful for the two of you to at the very least be friendly and civil with one another... and genuine friends would obviously be the ideal. Look at Demi Moore and Bruce Willis... they have managed to become friends and even join up with one another and their new significant others in order to maintain a friendship for their children. It is possible... I've seen others manage to do it as well. Sex doesn't have to be involved... and would ultimately probably only complicated things in the end.
2006-09-14 10:29:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure there will be... at least one of you is bound to get old feelings back for the other... and it's so much easier to have sex with someone you have been with that long, then with a new person... And you'll remember the first time again with the other ex, which probably was wild and crazy..
2006-09-14 10:28:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm friendly with my ex, and there is no sex involved. You just have to make that clear at the beginning. I get along better with mine now then when we were dating.
2006-09-14 10:24:33 · answer #5 · answered by Becky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree I was with my ex hubsand for 9 yrs and he has moved on and so am I unless the couple wants to have sex then it will occur if not then you can actually be friends with no sex involved
2006-09-14 10:19:41 · answer #6 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course you can befriends w/o sex being involved it's up to you and your relationship, are you going to be working with boundaries are what , just because you were together for along time does not mean you have to sleep w/them after the relationship is over and you are still friends of course in the end the choice is yours good luck.
2006-09-14 17:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by rachel m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had sex with my ex...but this was just in the few years after we broke up...I had to stop seeing him in order to stop having sex with him. It was just too hard to be around him and not have sex with him. And it really screwed with my head. Women bond with a guy when they have sex with him... I tried being friends with him without sex happening but it didn't work that way.
2006-09-14 10:20:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No since u are old and your drive is probably lower that it was 22 years ago. Bad idea for men and women to become best friends unless you want a divorce anyway.
2006-09-14 10:19:42 · answer #9 · answered by jercha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will be different for different people. I'm sort of friends with my ex but there would never be any sex. I know of others though who do have a strange sexual relationship.... It's whatever floats your boat I suppose...
2006-09-14 23:06:19 · answer #10 · answered by Jackie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋