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if both are willing to work at it, when there have been problems such as lying, cheating, intamacy and mental issues, are involved?

2006-09-14 10:17:26 · 4 answers · asked by T agent 3 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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YES. but Both have to be extremely open minded, willing to learn, and willing to Change, for the better of the marriage. btw, u have to do this in a Positive, Healthy manner; if u end up changing ur behavior to "allow" him to treat u badly, or he needs to take you constantly nagging or berating him, that is not a healthy decision.

lying, cheating, intimacy and mental issues are HUGE. so, first of all, a therapist/counsellor would really do both of u some good. =T not because u guys are weird or messed up, but because u want to FIX it. it's worth it to try.

the thing is, the way i see marriage is this: a man and women each have their roles. an extreme simplication is this: man is breadwinner, provider, Head of Household, makes good decisions for family. woman is nurturer, caretaker, supporter, helper. of course in this day and age it's a little bit mixed, but u sitll have to RESPECT each other and the roles u play.

also, as long as a man works hard to be a Good Man and HUSBAND; trustworthy, committed, caring, loving, appreciative, affectionate, willing and able to do what is right for his wife; and a woman works hard to be a Good Woman and WIFE: trustworthy, committed, caring, loving, appreciative, affectionate, willing and able to do what is right for her husband...then they have built that trust, and need to use their love to Learn and Grow together. once ur married, it doesn't mean ur responsiblities are done. u don't have to impress each other anymore, or u don't have to care about doing this or that. NO! it's opposite! u have to work HARDER to keep appreciating and committing to that person, but u know what? it's WORTH it. cuz it's your Wife. it's ur Husband. he or she DESERVES everything u put into the relationship, and because they deserve it, u have to make sure YOU deserve them as well.

so u BOTH keep urselves accountable, and then keep each other accountable. after that, if there're problems at least u can trust that u are both willing to fix it. but u have to have a strong foundation first before u can make it better. building trust back after losing it is extremely hard.... u have to be willing to trust them again and become vulnerable; and that person has to NOT take advantage of ur willingness to forgive. good luck.

2006-09-14 10:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1 0

Absolutely. I am separated from my husband of seven years and have been for over a year. Even after all of the turmoil that existed during and because of our separation, we still have very strong feelings for one another. We have each had relationships, some more serious than others, since separating but our feelings for one another are still there. The problem, he has never admitted to being part of the problem. If he would, then we could both work towards resolving our issues.

My point with this is that if you both are willing to admit your shortcomings and accept responsibility for your actions and you genuinely want to put it all in the past, you can make it work. Both parties must contribute to reconciliation just as they have contributed to the problems. Best wishes!!

2006-09-14 10:25:14 · answer #2 · answered by ncmom 3 · 0 0

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2016-10-15 00:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Yes, all relationships take work and a constant renewing. Of course I'm in a marriage crises myself right now after 8 years and I hope it can be worked out. Best of luck with yours.

2006-09-14 10:21:00 · answer #4 · answered by RedC. 2 · 0 0

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